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Inspirational Quotations #1030

December 31, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet.
—Sa’Di (Musharrif Od-Din Muslih Od-Din) (Persian Poet)

Anxiety is the poison of human life; the parent of many sins and of more miseries.—In a world where everything is doubtful, and where we may be disappointed, and be blessed in disappointment, why this restless stir and commotion of mind?—Can it alter the cause, or unravel the mystery of human events?
—Hugh Blair (Scottish Minister, Scholar)

Before a thunderstorm there is a build-up of tension which is only relieved by the explosive force of thunder and lightning. In human affairs there must be a clear distinction between the penalties for small and great crimes. Retribution for wrongdoing must be swiftly and surely applied if greater problems are to be prevented.
—I Ching (Ancient Chinese Divination Text)

It is sure to be dark if you close your eyes.
—Swami Chinmayananda (Indian Hindu Spiritual Teacher)

Gratitude is a gracious acknowledgement of all that sustains us, a bow to our blessings, great and small. Gratitude is the confidence in life itself. In it, we feel how the same forces that pushes grass through cracks in the sidewalk invigorates our own life.
—Jack Kornfield (American Buddhist Teacher, Author)

Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.
—The Holy Bible (Scripture in the Christian Faith)

Reason in man is rather like God in the world.
—Thomas Aquinas (Italian Catholic Priest)

Among the virtues and vices that make up the British character, we have one vice, at least, that Americans ought to view with sympathy. For they appear to be the only people who share it with us. I mean our worship of the antique. I do not refer to beauty or even historical association. I refer to age, to a quantity of years.
—William Golding (English Novelist)

Love thy neighbor as thyself: Do not to others what thou wouldst not wish be done to thyself: Forgive injuries. Forgive thy enemy, be reconciled to him, give him assistance, invoke God in his behalf.
—Confucius (Chinese Philosopher)

Inspiration is needed in geometry, just as much as in poetry.
—Alexander Pushkin (National Poet of Russia)

If one looks with a cold eye at the mess man has made of history, it is difficult to avoid the conclusion that he has been afflicted by some built-in mental disorder which drives him towards self-destruction.
—Arthur Koestler (British Writer, Journalist)

Curiosity is the one thing invincible in Nature.
—Freya Stark (British Explorer, Writer)

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Our 10 Most Popular Articles of 2023

December 28, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Top Blog Articles of 2023 Here are our most popular exclusive features of 2023. Pass this on to your friends; if they like these, they can sign up to receive our RSS feeds.

The Secret Weapon to Happiness. Happiness is tied to expectations—whether things exceed or fall short. Adjusting expectations, as suggested by Buddhism, can boost joy, without the need for constant striving or societal pressures.

Why It’s So Hard to Apologize. Non-apologizers find it challenging to set aside pride and concede imperfections, often as an effort to protect a fragile self-image. Apologies don’t have to prove a point.

The Two Best Employee Engagement Questions. How actively do you engage in enhancing your responsibilities, and does your workplace actively seek your input for improvements? To what extent do the processes you work with support your success in your role?

Listening Is Not Just Waiting to Talk. When we pretend to listen while internally rehearsing our response—crafting a counterargument,—we fail to genuinely grasp the speaker’s message, overlooking its nuances and subtleties.

A Daily Appointment with Your Worries. Schedule specific 15- to 30-minute “Worry Time” slots on your calendar to limit and make your worries more productive, encouraging active problem-solving and preventing constant rumination throughout the day.

The Shoichi Yokoi Fallacy. Japanese soldier Shoichi Yokoi hid in Guam for 28 years, clinging to his identity and principles, but ultimately sacrificed his life as unwavering adherence to ideals turned into a vice.

Why Your Partner May Be Lying. People may lie to partners when they feel unsafe telling the truth, fearing rejection or disapproval. The focus is often on short-term benefits, and if they believe they won’t get caught, they find it expedient to sidestep the truth.

Three Rules to Decide If You Should Automate a Task. Selecting processes for automation is challenging, but a thorough workflow analysis reveals the ideal path for automation. The process should be efficient, requiring minimal human interaction.

Much Said, Little Decided in Most Meetings. Gathering well-paid professionals for unproductive, costly interactions is unchecked. For better decisions, plan purposeful meetings that prioritize decision-making over information-sharing.

Under Pressure, the Narrowing Cognitive Map. Time pressure can lead to “narrowing of the cognitive map,” causing tunnel vision and errors in judgment. The case of Singapore Airlines Flight 6 exemplifies how this hinders decision-making.

And here are some articles of yesteryear that continue to be popular:

  • Lessons on adversity from Charlie Munger
  • If you’re looking for bad luck, you’ll soon find it
  • Don’t let small decisions destroy your productivity
  • Expressive writing can help you heal
  • To be more productive, try doing less.
  • Get good at things by being bad first.
  • The power of negative thinking
  • Accidents can happen when you least expect
  • How smart companies get smarter
  • Don’t be a prisoner of the hurt done to you.
  • The Fermi Rule & Guesstimation

We wish you all a healthy and prosperous 2024!

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Filed Under: Managing People, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Critical Thinking, Decision-Making, Getting Along, Mindfulness, Thought Process

Conflict Hack: Acknowledging Isn’t Agreeing

December 25, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Conflict Hack: Acknowledging Isn't Agreeing In disagreements and conflicts, a common blunder is mistaking acknowledgment for agreement.

Recognizing someone’s emotions doesn’t entail embracing their perspective or emotional response. For example, saying, “I understand your frustration with our communication,” differs substantially from affirming, “I agree that our communication is lacking,” or resorting to blame with phrases like, “You should communicate better.”

Deep down, we all yearn for acknowledgment as rational beings, even when our actions might suggest otherwise. Neglecting to acknowledge someone’s feelings can further intensify conflicts, pushing them to raise their voices and intensify their agitation in a quest for recognition when they sense they’re not being heard.

Idea for Impact: Acknowledgment, an expression of empathy without judgment, is a mark of respect that has the power to disarm conflicts. It’s the initial step on the path to conflict resolution.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Anger, Conflict, Conversations, Getting Along, Meetings, Persuasion, Social Skills

Inspirational Quotations #1029

December 24, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we’re here for something else besides ourselves.
—Eric Sevareid (American Broadcast Journalist)

Not to be bound by rules, but to be creating one’s own rules—this is the kind of life which Zen is trying to have us live.
—D. T. Suzuki (Japanese Buddhist Philosopher)

Human nature is not simple and any classification that roughly divides men into good and bad, superior and inferior, slave and free, is and must be ludicrously untrue and universally dangerous as a permanent exhaustive classification.
—W. E. B. Du Bois (American Sociologist, Activist)

He who knoweth not what he ought to know, is a brute beast among men; he that knoweth no more than he hath need of, is a man among brute beasts; and he that knoweth all that may be known, is as a God among men.
—Pythagoras (Greek Philosopher)

To lay aside all prejudices, is to lay aside all principles.—He who is destitute of principles is governed by whims.
—Friedrich Heinrich Jacobi (German Philosopher)

Animals are born, are sentient and are mortal. In these things they resemble man. In their superficial anatomy—less in their deep anatomy—in their habits, in their time, in their physical capacities, they differ from man. They are both like and unlike.
—John Berger (English Art Critic, Essayist, Novelist)

The methods of science aren’t foolproof, but they are indefinitely perfectible. Just as important: there is a tradition of criticism that enforces improvement whenever and wherever flaws are discovered.
—Daniel C. Dennett (American Philosopher, Atheist)

Nature never deserts the wise and pure; no plot so narrow, be but nature there; no waste so vacant, but may well employ each faculty of sense, and keep the heart awake to love and beauty!
—Samuel Taylor Coleridge (English Poet)

In every work of art the subject is primordial, whether the artist knows it or not. The measure of the formal qualities is only a sign of the measure of the artist’s obsession with his subject; the form is always in proportion to the obsession.
—Alberto Giacometti (Swiss Sculptor, Painter)

The best way to keep good acts in memory is to refresh them with new.
—Cato the Elder (Marcus Porcius Cato) (Roman Statesman)

People who fear death live no longer than those who don’t, and live scared.
—Gene Wolfe (American Science Fiction, Fantasy Writer)

Not prayer without faith, nor faith without prayer, but prayer in faith, is the cost of spiritual gifts and graces.
—Henry Clay Trumbull (American Clergyman)

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Always Demand Deadlines: We Perform Better Under Constraints

December 23, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Always Demand Deadlines: We Perform Better Under Constraints Whenever someone requests something from you, or when you embark on a task yourself, it’s essential to always establish a clear deadline.

Having a well-defined timeframe instills a sense of urgency, raises the stakes, and promotes accountability. These elements are crucial for igniting motivation in just about anyone.

The presence of a looming deadline, whether self-imposed or externally set, can trigger a primal fight-or-flight response. This response releases adrenaline, which can be a powerful asset in surmounting tasks while making distractions far less tempting.

Deadlines serve as effective filters, cutting away unnecessary fluff. According to Parkinson’s Law, a task will often expand to fill the time allocated to it. Having a deadline curtails this tendency and shields you from the relentless pursuit of perfection.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Discipline, Getting Things Done, Motivation, Procrastination, Task Management, Time Management

Unlocking Motivation: The Power of Starting Small

December 22, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Unlocking Motivation: The Power of Starting Small When you find yourself trapped in the inertia of inaction, weighed down by the anchor of procrastination, and it seems like the lack of motivation is insurmountable, a little trick can help you navigate the resistance holding you back.

Imagine a chilly, overcast day when the mere thought of a 40-minute walk feels daunting. Try this: tell yourself, “I’ll just do five minutes.” Your brain is far less likely to put up a fight in response. Surprisingly, once you’re out there, those initial five minutes often evolve into a more extended and productive walk.

This little mental game can be the key to unlocking your motivation.

Aiming low isn’t just for those labeled as underachievers. On the contrary, setting the bar low can be your secret weapon for overcoming the fear of failure.

There’s indeed something magical about focusing on the bare minimum. Aiming low acts as the spark to get you going and transforms the game into ‘easy mode.’ In contrast, constantly reaching for the stars may, more often than not, sink you in the quicksand of demotivation.

Idea for Impact: Start small. With a modest little spark, you’ll see motivation embark.

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Filed Under: Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Discipline, Goals, Motivation, Procrastination, Targets

We Hope Others Understand, Love, and Care, but Expectations Can Burden

December 21, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

We Hope Others Understand, Love, and Care, but Expectations Can Burden In our world, emotions and care often prove transient, and though we hope for compassion and understanding, especially within close personal relationships, it’s not guaranteed that everyone will respond as we desire.

It’s essential to remember that each person’s actions stem from their own thoughts, emotions, and limitations, existing within a separate realm of their own. Their world is distinct from yours.

When someone doesn’t understand, love, or care, avoid taking it personally. You can’t impose your reality onto theirs and assuming they fully grasp your perspective. Rejection arises from their judgments, which may not necessarily relate to you.

Instead, if you choose to release the expectation that others must prioritize your feelings, you become better equipped to embrace their responses and behaviors, reducing the potential for conflicts. As Buddhism teaches, suffering arises from attachment and desire.

Idea for Impact: Expectations dissolve, conflicts abate. In conflicts, it’s vital to recognize that peace doesn’t mandate the participation of both parties; it only necessitates one—yourself. The source and resolution of the issue reside within you. Through acceptance, you can liberate yourself from the cage of expectations.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Managing People Tagged With: Attitudes, Conflict, Getting Along, Relationships, Suffering, Wisdom

How to … Streamline Your Speech

December 20, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'The Power of Two' by Susan Heitler (ISBN 1572240598) From Susan Heitler’s The Power of Two (1997,) an exploration of the principles of collaborative communication and conflict resolution:

Speak in short segments. In effective dialogue, each speaker generally offers brief comments rather than trying to say too much at once. Listening is a lot like eating. To take in what you hear, small bites work better than large chunks. A listener can only pick up one or two points at a time, and can respond to only one. Long monologues also drain the energy from a conversation. To keep the bits small enough, either the speaker needs to pause regularly, expecting to take turns talking and listening, or the listener needs to interrupt.

To keep your speech segments short, aim to make just one point each time you speak.

Speaking in short segments enhances communication by promoting clarity, engagement, and relevance. It prevents information overload, allows for effective pauses, and fosters precision. Short segments are also more accessible and respectful to diverse audiences, making communication more effective overall.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Conversations, Likeability, Listening, Mindfulness, Presentations

From Passion to Pragmatism: An Acceptable, Good Career

December 19, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

From Passion to Pragmatism: An Acceptable, Good Career Career contentment doesn’t always require turning passion into a full-time job. (Dream careers often bring fierce competition and potential low pay or high stress.)

Many fulfilled professionals find contentment in roles they may not love entirely, but they value meaningful work, recognition, fair compensation, and a pleasant environment. Some discover situational passion within their work by aligning job tasks with their interests and strengths. For example, a passion for graphic design when in a manufacturing role can lead to creating visually appealing digital metrics.

Idea for Impact: Opting for a acceptable, tolerable even, content-filled career allows you to pursue passions as hobbies while ensuring financial security and professional contentment.

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Filed Under: Career Development Tagged With: Career Planning, Job Transitions, Personal Growth, Pursuits, Winning on the Job

Thoughts Can Be a Jail

December 18, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Thoughts Can Be a Jail: Don't Define Yourself by Your Thoughts You can learn to recognize your thoughts for what they really are.

You are not your thoughts.

Your thoughts are just your thoughts.

They’re not your life.

They’re your thoughts.

You’re the sky. Thoughts are the clouds. Clouds materialize; then, they disperse. You, the sky, remain.

Idea for Impact: Don’t try so hard to control and stop your thoughts. Let yourself feel them. But don’t permit them to control you and your body.

When you no longer define yourself by your thoughts, you’re no longer a prisoner of your own mind.

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