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The Commercialization of Yoga: Downward Dog, Upward Profit

October 14, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Commercialized Yoga as Stress Relief: Losing Its Spiritual Roots Years ago, I was dragged to a yoga class in Michigan. The instructor was cheerful, dressed head to toe in athleisure that cost more than my first bicycle, and armed with a certificate acquired somewhere between freshman lectures and spring break. Halfway through the class, she corrected my pronunciation of Virabhadrasana.

I grew up in South India, where Virabhadra is my family’s deity: the fierce warrior called forth by Shiva’s rage. He was a presence in stories, rituals, and memory long before he became a posture in a yoga studio. Being corrected on his name by someone whose acquaintance with the word began in a certification course felt like an inversion of expertise, delivered with complete confidence.

She wasn’t malicious. She was a flawless product: philosophy removed, vacuum-packed, and re-engineered for mass consumption. Somewhere along the way, millennia of metaphysics became a pop-up artisan bakery.

Yoga’s original purpose was liberation (moksha): the dissolution of the ego and the quieting of the mind. Around two thousand years ago, give or take a few centuries that scholars still argue over, Patanjali compiled the Yoga Sutras, codifying a tradition passed from teacher to student. It centered on discipline, breathwork, meditation, and self-study.

Physical postures, or asana, were the third limb of an eightfold path. Their job was practical: to prepare the body to sit through long meditation without your knees filing a complaint. All that bending and twisting was the warm-up act.

The main event was sitting still, which is what yoga means: union of mind, body, and consciousness. It was a demanding discipline with no interest in comfort, status, or shopping, and it did not come with a merchandise range.

Which makes it all the more impressive that someone took an ascetic blueprint for transcending the self and flogged it back to us as a lifestyle choice. You have to admire the gumption.

Today, yoga happens in neon-lit studios with curated playlists, ambient heating, and floor-to-ceiling mirrors, because nothing says “dissolve the ego” like watching yourself do it from four angles. Teachers are certified in a matter of weeks rather than a lifetime of study. The Sanskrit survives, but as branding, delivered with total confidence and no supporting evidence.

The commercialization was swift. Bikram Choudhury claimed ownership of a sequence of poses and built an empire of luxury cars and litigation, until U.S. courts ruled that he cannot own a yoga stretch. The cars stayed. Om symbols migrated onto fast-fashion T-shirts. Studios began competing on calorie burn and sweat volume rather than stillness. The eight limbs collapsed into one profitable limb, and the other seven were quietly pensioned off for being insufficiently photogenic.

Everyone’s Flogging It

It would be easy to pin this on the West. It would also be wrong.

Westernization and Commercialization of Yoga: Balancing Tradition with Modern Trends Consider Baba Ramdev, saffron-robed television yogi with millions of followers and a company named after Patanjali himself, the sage of liberation. You might expect a firm carrying that name to sell liberation. It sells toothpaste, biscuits, and noodles. During the pandemic, the company promoted a herbal product with claims of COVID benefits, and India’s Supreme Court later pushed it into publishing public apologies for misleading advertising. Renunciation has never been so well stocked. The commercialization of yoga is not an imported problem. It has thriving domestic champions.

Then there is Mysore, home of the Ashtanga tradition. Seekers arrive from around the world in search of authenticity, and a local economy has grown up to supply it by the month: accommodation, shala fees, workshops, teacher-training certificates, and the obligatory photograph with the teacher. I don’t entirely blame anyone for it. If strangers fly halfway round the world to pay you for being from somewhere, you take the money. But there is something rich in the sight of people traveling thousands of miles to dissolve the ego, then paying handsomely for a certificate to prove they did. Detachment, it turns out, has a rate card.

The state has also joined in. Since 2014, India has promoted yoga as a tool of cultural diplomacy, even securing a UN International Day of Yoga. Through the ministry of AYUSH (Ayurveda, Yoga & Naturopathy, Unani, Siddha, and Homoeopathy,) it stages large public events that turn a traditionally inward-looking practice into a symbol of national soft power and global image-building.

And lest anyone think the version on sale is all that ancient: scholars trace much of modern postural yoga to the early twentieth century, when traditional practices met Indian physical culture and European gymnastics. The athletic, sweat-forward yoga on every high street is about as old as the Hindustan Ambassador, India’s beloved “national car,” which was a 1950s British Morris Oxford that emigrated, stayed in production for half a century, and was passed off as timeless Indian heritage. It is the downward dog’s career path exactly: a foreign import, lightly adapted, now so thoroughly rooted that questioning its ancestry feels rude. The philosophy is old. The poses, like the car, are the newcomer, and they’ve done remarkably well for themselves.

The philosophy of yoga survived dynastic wars, invasions, colonization, and centuries of upheaval with its core ideas intact. Its greatest challenge today is less dramatic: a global wellness industry that cared nothing for the philosophy but spotted a magnificent margin in the mat.

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Workaholism and Choice—The Real Problem Isn’t How Much You Work. It’s Whether You Chose It.

September 18, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Workaholism and Choice: The Real Problem Isn't How Much You Work, It's Whether You Chose It

We admire people who throw themselves into work. We also call them workaholics and treat the label as a diagnosis. That contradiction reveals a deeper confusion, one worth examining, because the label flattens a complex reality into a moral judgment about time rather than a question about ownership.

Consider the cardiac surgeon who schedules more patients than anyone on staff, not because she has to, but because the work matters to her. She wants to operate, to improve outcomes, to keep learning. We praise that commitment in principle. The praise often evaporates the moment her calendar conflicts with a social obligation. Missing a dinner becomes evidence of imbalance, and the word ‘workaholic’ arrives with moral weight attached.

Bill Gates famously didn’t believe in vacations. During Microsoft’s early years, he tracked employee license plates to monitor who came in and when they left. Co-founder Paul Allen recalled that Gates drove others as hard as he drove himself and genuinely couldn’t understand why anyone would want a day off. For Gates, work wasn’t a burden. It was the point. That intensity helped build something consequential. Treating his example as proof that long hours are inherently toxic misses the fact that his commitment was chosen and purposeful.

We love the epiphany story, the driven executive who burned out, found perspective, and discovered that family and rest mattered after all. What gets less attention is how much of that success was a direct result of the single-minded focus that preceded the epiphany. The hours weren’t incidental.

Workaholism Isn’t a Health Condition—It’s a Mismatch Condition.

Framing the debate as hours versus rest misses the point. The body tolerates effort brilliantly when the mind recognizes purpose. The body rebels when effort feels coerced. Workaholism is only a problem when the work feels pointless—when there’s no autonomy, no meaning, no psychological ownership over what you’re doing. Calling someone a workaholic implies addiction and loss of control. In many cases the label is simply inaccurate.

The real variable isn’t time. It’s whether the work feels like an expression of who you are or something happening to you against your will. When work aligns with your values and direction, long hours become generative rather than corrosive. The cardiac surgeon isn’t grinding. She’s building something. The problem isn’t the hours. The problem is when hours accumulate around a life that doesn’t feel like yours.

We’ve Built a Culture That Condemns Long Hours While Quietly Depending on the People Who Work Them

That contradiction exposes a discomfort we’d rather not examine, our unease with ambition, and our confusion about what a meaningful life actually looks like. We celebrate innovation and then criticize the innovators for missing social rituals. We demand high performance and then pathologize the commitment that delivers it.

This is worth saying honestly: not everyone can choose their hours or their level of control. Many people work brutal hours out of economic necessity, with no exit. That’s not agency, that’s endurance, and it deserves a different conversation entirely. But for those whose intensity is chosen, the measure of a life well lived isn’t the number of hours logged. It’s whether those hours reflect who you are.

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To Love Without Risk Is to Live Without Meaning

August 10, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'The Four Loves' by C. S. Lewis (ISBN 0062565397) C. S. Lewis’s The Four Loves (1960) emerged from a series of radio talks he gave in 1958, designed to explore love through both Christian theology and philosophical inquiry. His intent was not merely descriptive but devotional: to show that all forms of love—even the flawed, natural ones—are reflections of divine design. Within a Christian framework, Lewis argues that every form of love, when rightly ordered under Agape, flows from and returns to God. Our capacity to love carries within it what he calls a “spark of the divine.”

Among his most compelling insights is the claim that to be fully alive is to be vulnerable, and that vulnerability is not weakness but the price of grace:

There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one—not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket—safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.

To Love Without Risk Is to Live Without Meaning Lewis confronts the comforting myth that emotional invulnerability is strength. He treats this posture not as wisdom, but as a slow corrosion of the soul. To shield oneself from the messiness of love—its risks, disappointments, and grief—is to forfeit the very qualities that make us human. It’s not just that love can hurt; it’s that avoiding it hollows the heart. In this view, emotional safety isn’t benign—it’s a kind of spiritual paralysis. The more obsessively we guard our hearts, the more they harden into artifacts of self-exile. What masquerades as self-protection is, in truth, an abdication of vitality. Lewis’s diagnosis is clear: the refusal to love doesn’t save us from suffering—it delivers us to a deeper, quieter kind of ruin.

He reminds us that real life demands the willingness to be undone. The ache of love isn’t a flaw in the system—it is the system. The heart, like a passport, is meant to be marked, creased, and carried through foreign terrain. The most meaningful journeys are not those that spare us harm, but those that leave us changed—even wounded.

Idea for Impact: The true tragedy of love is not heartbreak—it’s the fantasy that we can avoid it. We must expect imperfection, sulking, and miscommunication, and love anyway.

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The $600 Million Bonfire: Why Luxury Brands Prefer Destruction Over Discounts

July 27, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

ION Shopping Center in Singapore: Why Luxury Brands at Destroy Goods Instead of Discounting

In the world of consumer discretionary products, excess inventory triggers a predictable response: hold a sale, lower the price, clear the shelves, and recoup what you can. High-fashion luxury doesn’t operate on this premise. It runs on the Veblen Effect, where higher prices actually create more demand. These goods become desirable precisely because they’re expensive, serving as status symbols through what economists call “conspicuous consumption.” The product becomes a positional good, valuable specifically because so few people can afford to own it.

This creates an upward-sloping demand curve that defies conventional economic wisdom. Protecting that curve requires extreme measures. Brands like Burberry, Richemont (which owns Cartier,) and Louis Vuitton have historically destroyed unsold stock rather than discount it. We’re talking about bags, watches, and clothes incinerated or shredded rather than marked down. In 2018, Burberry admitted to destroying over $37 million worth of unsold product in a single year. Industry-wide, luxury houses have collectively destroyed hundreds of millions of dollars in inventory to maintain their mystique.

A Burberry bag priced at $3,000 and sold for $500 at an outlet doesn’t just represent a $2,500 loss in revenue. It destroys the bag’s Veblen status entirely. Once a luxury item becomes affordable and accessible, it ceases to function as a positional good. The scarcity vanishes, and with it, the social signaling power that justified the original price. To these brands, a bonfire of unsold merchandise is simply the cost of keeping their story exclusive rather than discounted.

Every luxury brand exists in permanent tension, caught in the “Luxury Lifecycle.” On one side sits growth: the need to make money and expand market share. On the other sits exclusivity: the need to maintain the magic that makes the brand aspirational. In behavioral economics, this battle goes by the name Brand Dilution. It describes the path from being a coveted story to becoming a commodity that people ignore.

When Everyone Owns It, Nobody Wants It: How Michael Kors Lost Exclusivity

Michael Kors is the textbook example of a brand that nearly won itself into oblivion. In the early 2010s, the company achieved total market saturation. You couldn’t walk through a mall, airport, or office building without seeing the “MK” logo prominently displayed on handbags and accessories. By expanding aggressively into every department store and outlet mall in America, their revenue skyrocketed. They had also, rather inconveniently, triggered their own downfall.

Mass availability turned a status symbol into a uniform. The early adopters—the trendsetters who gave the brand its cultural cachet—fled the moment they saw their aspirational bag on every street corner. They migrated to more obscure brands, seeking out “quiet luxury” labels that still offered the scarcity Michael Kors had surrendered. The company didn’t collapse because their quality dropped. They collapsed because they won the mass market, and in the luxury game, winning the crowd means losing the crown.

The most expensive thing a luxury brand can do is make its product easy to buy. Luxury requires gatekeeping and controlled scarcity. The moment that story becomes available to anyone with a coupon code, the Veblen effect reverses. Accessibility becomes a liability. For brands operating at the highest tier, inventory destruction isn’t wasteful. It’s strategic. It’s the price of maintaining the only thing that matters: the belief that what you’re buying can’t be bought by just anyone.

Idea for Impact: The luxury paradox reveals a truth beyond fashion: scarcity isn’t just about supply, it’s about perception. Whether you’re building a brand, launching a product, or crafting a personal reputation, value often lies not in how many people you reach, but in how carefully you choose who gets access. The brands that thrive resist the temptation to chase every customer.

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Sadness Isn’t a Diagnosis

April 10, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Situational Sadness and Medicalization of Grief Most people know what it feels like to be knocked sideways by life. A disappointment, a loss, a stretch where nothing seems to go right. There’s a temptation to give it a clinical name, to call it depression, because a diagnosis makes the feeling seem containable—something with edges that can be treated and resolved.

Sadness and depression aren’t the same thing, and collapsing the distinction doesn’t help either condition. Sadness is proportionate and traceable. It has a cause, and it lifts as circumstances shift or time passes. Depression doesn’t follow that logic. It’s persistent, often causeless, and resistant to the things that normally restore equilibrium.

That distinction matters more than it might seem. When ordinary sadness gets labelled as illness, it erodes the resilience that carries people through hard periods. Deciding you’re unwell changes how you respond—you’re less likely to stay functional, less likely to grieve cleanly, more likely to treat every difficult feeling as a symptom requiring management rather than an experience requiring time.

Acknowledging sadness for what it is takes honesty. It means accepting discomfort without inflating it, and recognising that feeling low after something painful isn’t a malfunction. It’s the appropriate response to a difficult experience.

Not everything that hurts is a disorder. Sometimes it’s just life, and the way through it is forward.

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Don’t Let Attachment Masquerade as Love

March 11, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

When Love Becomes a Demand: Don't Let Attachment Masquerade as Love In Seeking the Heart of Wisdom: The Path of Insight Meditation (1987,) Buddhist teachers Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield identify a confusion that quietly damages many relationships. They warn that what we call love is often something else entirely:

The near-enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, “I will love you if you love me back.” It is a kind of “businessman’s” love. So we think, “I will love this person as long as he doesn’t change. I will love that thing if it will be the way I want it.” But this isn’t love at all—it is attachment. There is a big difference between love, which allows, honors, and appreciates, and attachment, which grasps, demands, and aims to possess. When attachment becomes confused with love, it actually separates us from another person. We feel we need this other person in order to be happy.

Buddhist thought uses the concept of the “near-enemy” to describe a quality that resembles a virtue while undermining it from within. Pity is the near-enemy of compassion. Indifference masquerades as equanimity. Attachment is the near-enemy of love because it wears love’s face convincingly enough that we rarely stop to question it.

What makes attachment so hard to detect is that it feels correct. Possessiveness looks like devotion. Jealousy presents itself as evidence of how much we care. Controlling behavior believes its own story about protection. These are not distortions of love so much as replacements for it, and the replacement can be so gradual that we notice it only in damage already done.

True love is unconditional and open. It appreciates without needing to manage. Attachment is possessive and transactional—it extends care and expects a particular person in return.

Yet, attachment is not a moral failing. It is a basic human pull. We are built to bond, to want closeness, to reach for the people who matter to us. The problem is not the wanting. It is what the wanting becomes when it stops being an offering and starts being a demand.

Idea for Impact: Watch your attachments. When you feel affection, ask whether it carries a silent condition. Ask whether what you are calling care is really about the other person’s well-being or about your own need for reassurance. And remember: love does not contract when someone changes. It follows them. It stays.

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Depth in Relationships is Earned in the Dull Moments

February 13, 2026 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Depth in Relationships is Earned in the Dull Moments Real connection isn’t in the highlight reel of coffee dates or parties. It’s forged in the unglamorous trenches of daily life.

As Erich Fromm argued in The Art of Loving (1956; my summary,) love’s an active power: a doing, not a being. Whether with a romantic partner, a friend, or even a pet, depth’s earned through showing up in the mundane.

We don’t usually confuse intensity with intimacy, yet it’s the quiet repetitions that bind us. Love’s less about passion than about patience with the banal. In friendships and romance, this often shows up as what psychologist John Gottman calls “emotional bids”—small, ordinary requests that predict long-term success. Listening to a work complaint for the third time, helping someone move furniture, or remembering their preferred brand of tea builds psychological safety in ways a weekend getaway never could. Gottman’s decades of research on marital stability show that responding to these bids—often unspoken—determines whether relationships thrive or collapse.

Even with our pets, the bond isn’t just about cuddles. It’s the commitment to stay present through feeding schedules, cleaning up accidents, and sitting with them through illness. Showing up for the “little” things signals we’re in it together. That’s what builds bonds.

Idea for Impact: The test of affection isn’t in grand gestures but in the willingness to endure boredom together. If you want deeper connection, stop chasing excitement and start finding more ways to be useful, to be available. Connection strengthens not in the fireworks but in the daily embers we tend.

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Messy Yet Meaningful

December 29, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Embracing Chaos: The Path to Maturity Through Curiosity, Restraint, and Poetic Understanding Modern life tempts us toward simple ideals—peace, joy, freedom—but wisdom lies in reimagining these not as escapes from discomfort, but as quiet, sustained negotiations with the messier textures of reality and our own evolving psychology.

Peace isn’t the erasure of struggle. It’s the discipline of stillness in the eye of life’s whirlwind.

Joy isn’t the refusal of hardship. It’s the art of finding richness within the imperfect texture of experience.

Freedom isn’t the absence of constraint. It’s the capacity to act wisely within necessary limits.

Love isn’t just the presence of another. It’s the slow triumph of solitude, learned and accepted.

Growth isn’t a race toward improvement. It’s the quiet reconfiguration of the self in real time.

Purpose isn’t the conquest of doubt. It’s the patient search for significance beneath ambiguity.

Security isn’t a fortress of caution. It’s the intuition to risk and retreat in thoughtful balance.

Idea for Impact: Maturity doesn’t come from tidying life’s chaos, but from meeting it with curiosity, restraint, and poetic understanding.

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A Taxonomy of Troubles: Summary of Tiffany Watt Smith’s ‘The Book of Human Emotions’

October 1, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'The Book of Human Emotions' by Tiffany Watt Smith (ISBN 0316265403) Some books aren’t designed to be read front to back. Tiffany Watt Smith’s The Book of Human Emotions (2016) is a perfect example. It’s a compendium, a literary grab bag where readers can open to any page and uncover a curious nugget about the strange terrain of human feeling. Whether it launches a dinner-table debate or sends you into a cultural rabbit hole, its charm lies in its delightfully unsystematic approach.

Smith, a cultural historian focusing on the history of emotion, offers a colorful tour of the emotional spectrum. Some entries are instantly relatable; others are wonderfully obscure. The format is encyclopedic, ranging from single-sentence definitions to multi-page explorations. There’s basorexia, the sudden urge to kiss, and iktsuarpok, the anxious anticipation of someone’s arrival. Smith notes in the introduction that the modern idea of “emotions” didn’t appear until the 1830s. Before then, feelings were blamed on faulty souls or imbalanced bodily fluids like bile or phlegm.

The book is more than just a glossary; it’s threaded with sharp cultural insights—when a language has a specific word for a concept, it often indicates that this concept is culturally important, frequently discussed, or central to how people interact and understand their world. Smith touches on the aggressively enforced cheeriness of American customer service, a strange mandate for mandatory happiness that somehow leaves everyone slightly gloomier. She also highlights curiosities like awumbuk (from Papua New Guinea,) the oddly specific feeling of emptiness after guests leave, and the Dutch concept of gezelligheid, capturing the warmth of shared companionship.

Recommendation: Leaf through The Book of Human Emotions. Though the concept occasionally feels stretched, perhaps suggesting the author discovered that emotions alone might not justify an entire book, it remains engaging throughout. Smith writes with clarity and wit, avoiding the heaviness of academic prose. This is the kind of book that earns its place on the coffee table. It’s best enjoyed in fragments, one curious entry at a time, gently reminding us how language and culture shape what we feel and how we understand each other.

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The Champion Who Hated His Craft: Andre Agassi’s Raw Confession in ‘Open’

August 27, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'Open An Autobiography' by Andre Agassi (ISBN 0307388409) When you first dive into Andre Agassi’s outstanding memoir, Open: An Autobiography (2010,) you’re hit with a shocking revelation right on the first page: “I play tennis for a living, even though I hate tennis, hate it with a dark and secret passion, and always have.”

This bewildering confession comes from one of the greatest tennis players of all time, a man who has racked up numerous accolades, including eight Grand Slam titles. The persona of a dedicated tennis champion pursuing his dreams turns out to be a facade.

Behind the Glory: Playing Through Pain

Agassi’s candid reflections highlight the internal conflicts and emotional challenges that often accompany the pursuit of success. His experience was overwhelming; he never truly had a choice in playing tennis, as his father forced him into it at a young age. What followed felt like a glorified prison camp, where the only way out was to succeed—something he did spectacularly, landing him on the world stage. Yet, by the time Agassi came to this realization, he felt trapped, believing there was nothing else he could pursue.

In Open, Agassi relives the feelings of powerlessness that fueled his detest for the very sport that had given him so much. When a job becomes all-consuming, it’s easy to develop a loathing for it. Being the best means everything revolves around performance, and the pressure to stay at the top is relentless. Failure is unacceptable, and the burden of tennis looms over every decision. Burnout becomes inevitable.

The Reluctant Legend - Andre Agassi Had a Complex Relationship with Tennis Agassi casts himself as a victim of his circumstances, expressing a weariness with the grind—a sentiment many can relate to. While few may hate their jobs as intensely as Agassi did, many struggle with the meaning of their work, questioning its eternal significance and fearing they are merely wasting time.

The Dark Side of Success

For years, Agassi believed real life was just around the corner, delayed by obstacles, unfinished business, and unsettled debts. Eventually, he realized those very obstacles were his life. Life isn’t something that happens to you; it’s something you shape with your choices and actions. You are the director of your own existence. Emotions like anger, jealousy, and fear aren’t just reactions, they’re nurtured. As long as you view yourself as a victim, success will remain out of reach.

Ultimately, there’s no point in toiling through the grind if you don’t enjoy the journey. Embrace the call that stirs your soul. In retirement, Agassi discovered new passions, particularly in education reform. He founded the Andre Agassi Foundation for Education, dedicated to improving opportunities for at-risk children. In his personal life, he met and married German tennis star Steffi Graf, who provided unwavering support, helping him navigate his post-tennis identity. Together, they embraced new ventures, illustrating Agassi’s resilience and his ability to make meaningful contributions beyond the tennis court.

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Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert shares factual findings that will change the way you look at the world and seek happiness and joy.

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