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How to … Talk About Your Mental Health with Loved Ones

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A Guide to Talking to Friends and Family About Mental Health Many of us find it difficult to share our mental health struggles, fearing we might burden our loved ones or face judgment. However, those folks care about us and want to lend a hand; they just might not know how unless we speak up.

Starting a conversation with friends or family can be as simple as saying, “I’ve been feeling a bit off lately. Can I talk to you about it?” or “We don’t usually chat much, but I’m going through a tough time. Can I reach out to you?”

Be honest and open about your feelings, as it helps others understand what you’re going through. Let them know straight up what you’re after—whether it’s a listening ear, a chance to blow off steam and take your mind off things, some emotional backup, or hands-on help.

Don’t expect too much from the first conversation; give them time to process and be prepared to revisit the topic later.

Idea for Impact: Break the silence. Don’t underestimate how much our loved ones can help. Ask for support when you need it.

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The Healing Power of Third-Person Reflection

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Harnessing the Healing Power of Third-Person Reflection Discussing adversity, trauma, or setbacks may not always alleviate the negative effects as commonly assumed. In fact, instead of offering a sense of emotional release and catharsis, it can sometimes exacerbate them. This is because rehashing a distressing event in conversation with a loved one or a therapist can drag you back into reliving it, rather than facilitating your ability to detach from it.

What can be beneficial in such situations is adopting a fly-on-the-wall perspective and either writing or narrating an account of the unpleasant experience using the third person when referring to yourself. This approach can create distance between you and the painful event, facilitating more thoughtful reflection and providing a better understanding of what happened.

Idea for Impact: By processing a negative experience in a way that fosters distance between the then (when the event happened) and the now (when you’re recalling it,) you’ll gain control over it, rather than allowing it to control you.

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Party Farewell Done Right

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Party Farewell Done Right Leaving a party without causing a stir can be a bit of a balancing act. Some people worry about appearing rude or becoming a buzzkill, while others aren’t sure when to make their exit or if they might unintentionally upset the host or guests. Here’s how to make your departure smooth:

  • Time It Right. Wait for a quiet moment when your leaving won’t be a big deal. If the host is busy, it’s okay to say your goodbyes to someone else who can pass on your thanks. And don’t forget, a quick call or text to the host afterward is a thoughtful touch.
  • Say Bye to the Host. Take a moment to thank the host for the invite and for throwing a great party. No need to make a big fuss; a simple “thanks for having me” works. You can also mention a couple of people you vibed with and some snacks you liked—it’s the little things that hosts appreciate.
  • Keep It Simple. Avoid making a dramatic exit; there’s no need to draw attention to yourself. Keep your goodbyes short and sweet—no need for a full-blown goodbye tour. If you want, you can quietly let a few close friends know you’re leaving.

Just aim for a smooth exit. Some people like to make a big show of their departure, but slipping away quietly is often the better choice. Keeping it low-key helps keep the party vibe going strong and ensures you don’t steal the spotlight or disrupt the flow of conversation.

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How to … Deal with Feelings of Social Awkwardness

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How to Deal with Feelings of Social Awkwardness We’ve all experienced that fish-out-of-water feeling in social situations—it’s universal.

Whether it’s the fear of not fitting in or doubts about meeting social expectations, it happens to the best of us. Some just hide it better!

Here are some tips to navigate those awkward vibes:

  • Drop the self-criticism. Practice positive self-talk. No need to feel inadequate or inferior. Remember, these people aren’t the judges of your life!
  • Figure out why you’re feeling this way. Get to the root. Is it a new situation, your introverted nature, past bullying, or just not feeling accepted? Knowing the cause is half the battle.
  • Face those feelings head-on. Acknowledge and embrace your disappointment. Accept yourself, practice small talk, and work on being friendly. You can totally level up these social skills.
  • Start by practicing in easy settings where there’s no pressure to perform your best. Practice in comfort. Like within your trusted circle of friends and family. They’ve got your back and will cheer you on.

Idea for Impact: Overcoming social awkwardness is a gradual process. With time, practice, and a positive mindset, you can build confidence in social situations.

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Silence Speaks Louder in Conversations

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Unlocking Conversations: The Power of Silence

During conversations, letting moments of silence linger can be incredibly impactful.

A quiet pause signals that you’re really tuned in, not just to the other’s words, but to all the feelings and subtleties behind them.

It gives others the chance to gather their thoughts, find the right words, or just mull over what they’ve said.

Give the speaker the time and space they need to fully express themselves.

Especially when someone’s opening up about something personal or emotional, silence creates a safe space for them to to lay it all out there.

Get comfortable with silence.

A lull in a conversation can make you uncomfortable. Embrace that discomfort.

An interlude can tempt you to fill it with chatter. Hold back a bit.

You may even get the inclination to “one-up” them by sharing your own past experiences and solutions. Don’t diminish what they’re going through.

Be fully present in the moment.

Make ’em feel like they’re being heard, like their thoughts and feelings matter.

Embrace the quiet. It shows respect for their vulnerability and allows them to experience and explore their emotions without interruptions or judgment.

Idea for Impact: Silence isn’t a vacuum to be filled by noise. Silence can encourage introspection and self-discovery. You’ll be amazed at what people share when given an extra bit of space.

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Talk to Your Key Stakeholders Every Week

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Stay Connected, Stay Informed: Weekly Conversations with Key Stakeholders Get into the routine of catching up with your key stakeholders from various roles regularly.

You don’t need to have long meetings—even just a quick ten-minute chat can do wonders.

Think of it like doing regular walk-abouts to keep your ear to the ground. You’ll stay in the loop and spot any areas that need attention.

Plus, you’ll strengthening relationships. Being accessible and open to listening encourages people to speak up and deal with issues then and there. You’ll nip problems in the bud.

Idea for Impact: Stay connected, stay informed. Being open goes a long way.

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Think Twice Before You Launch That Truth Bomb

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Think Twice Before You Launch That Truth Bomb You’re that straight talker, no-nonsense type. Sure, some people appreciate that. But let’s be real, in the political circus you’re part of, being the truth bomb dropper might backfire, even if leaders emphatically champion open communication and diverse perspectives. So, before you spill the truth tea, think: is this gonna blow up in your face?

Consider a few things:

  • Does it really need to be said?
  • Does it have to be said by you?
  • Does it have to be said by you right now?

If any of these get a ‘no,’ maybe hold off.

Sure, speaking your mind is commendable, but so is staying in the game without getting knocked out. The stakes change depending on what’s at play and who’s got the power.

Sometimes you gotta go all out, and be the lone voice of disagreement. Other times, you gotta fold, and live to fight another day.

Idea for Impact: Pause before speaking up. Knowing what to say is like science—you’re on point. But knowing when to say it is an art—reading factors that sometimes make no reasonable sense.

Where you must, speak your truth. Where you can, look out for yourself, respect boundaries, dodge drama, and keep relationships intact.

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Honest Commitments: Saying ‘No’ is Kindness

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Kindness in Honesty: Saying 'No' with Integrity Saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘no,’ even ‘maybe,’ is lying (Note: lying is a specific action; it requires the intent to deceive the other person.)

If you’re uncertain, you can say, “Yeah, maybe; I’ll let you know in a few days.” As opposed to “yes, I can do that” when you don’t know if that’s true.

If you’re inclined to say ‘yes’for conflict avoidance (say, when you think the other person can’t take a ‘no’ well,) you could get better at being assertive.

Sure, there’s the chance that you originally intended to follow through, but things have shifted and you may need to uncommit gracefully. But don’t make a habit of saying ‘yes’ when there’s no decent chance you can keep your commitment; it’s a burden on other people’s energy, time, and space.

Saying ‘no’—clearly and firmly when you know you can’t keep the commitment—is kindness.

Idea for Impact: Don’t say ‘yes’unless you mean ‘yes.’ Say ‘no’ when you don’t want to consent. It’s a kind thing to do. Most people appreciate sincerity and prefer others to mean what they say.

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Know Your Triggers, Master Your Emotions

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Know Your Triggers, Master Your Emotions Take time to reflect on your experiences and identify what sets off your emotions, whether it’s stress, frustration, or excitement, especially in your interactions with others. Notice when certain situations or people provoke specific reactions from you. Look for common patterns like unmet expectations, micromanagement, unfairness, or recurring issues.

Idea for Impact: Understanding your own behavior and reactions allows you to develop strategies to handle them better. This insight helps you make more thoughtful decisions, adapt to different situations, and empathize with others. The more you comprehend your emotions and triggers, the better equipped you’ll be to manage them effectively.

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Keep Politics and Religion Out of the Office

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Keep Politics and Religion Out of the Office While workplaces often tout their commitment to diversity, there’s an unspoken expectation to assimilate into their prevailing culture and norms. They prefer a subtle balance of assertiveness, neither too outspoken nor too passive, and opinions that gravitate toward the middle ground. Even dress codes enforce this moderate approach, discouraging extremes of formality or informality.

But what if you’re not inclined toward conformity? What if your passions for politics or religion run deep, making it difficult to remain silent in professional settings?

Politics and religion strike at the core of personal identity for many individuals. They evoke strong emotions and convictions. Yet, discussing these subjects in the workplace can be fraught with peril, given their potential to divide.

You can navigate safely by aligning with politically correct viewpoints and avoiding controversial deviations. Occasionally, a mild comment may pass without incident, as long as it doesn’t offend sensibilities. However, remember that the workplace isn’t a platform for proselytizing personal beliefs. It’s crucial to respect boundaries and gracefully shift topics if conversations make others uncomfortable. Handle disagreements diplomatically, refraining from personal attacks. Also, be mindful that decorating your workspace with contentious symbols could alienate colleagues and disrupt harmony.

Idea for Impact: When it comes to hot-button topics like politics or religion, it’s best to keep those thoughts to yourself at work. Strong opinions can really rub people the wrong way and disrupt teamwork or create an uncomfortable atmosphere. Find other ways outside work to dive into what gets you fired up.

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