Disappointed? Hurt? Offended?
Let’s get real: most slights aren’t about you.
Someone trashed your Instagram post, shot down your opinion, or picked a petty fight? Not about you. They’re venting or projecting. You’re just collateral damage.
Your friend forgot your birthday, your coworker swiped your idea, or a relative threw a harsh critique? It stings. Still not about you. Their actions come from their own mess.
Customer service left you hanging, or some frustrating process ate hours of your life? Annoying, yes—personal, no. These systems aren’t made for you.
Lost money or a bad investment? Blame timing, luck, or the universe’s indifference. Not about you.
Someone dropped a cruel comment? Still not about you. Their bias says everything about them, not you.
Here’s the truth: people are self-absorbed. We live in our own bubbles, always chasing our own needs and fears. We rarely see others as full people. They’re props in our drama. And who loses sleep over props?
Idea for Impact: When someone disappoints you, remember: it’s not about you. Odds are, you didn’t even cross their mind.
Stop asking, “What does this say about me?” The answer is, “Nothing.” Flip the script. Focus on what their behavior says about them. Dropping the “me lens” reduces stress, lowers anxiety, and builds empathy. Life’s randomness isn’t yours to control. But resilience? That’s your superpower. Not every bump needs a deep dive.
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The makers and operators of the RMS Titanic were so confident in their shipbuilding that its Captain, Edward Smith, one of the world’s most experienced sea captains at the time, had famously declared a few years earlier about another company ship, the RMS Adriatic, “I cannot imagine any condition which would cause a ship to founder. I cannot conceive of any vital disaster happening to this vessel. Modern shipbuilding has gone beyond that.” Well, we all know how the Titanic’s maiden voyage turned out.
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It’s tough to extract valuable insights when you feel attacked. Here’s how to sift through the sting and find something useful:
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