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Unpaid Gigs for ‘Exposure’—Is It Ever Worth It?

February 21, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Unpaid Gigs for 'Exposure'---Is It Ever Worth It? As a freelancer, you’ll constantly receive requests to write blogs, help with videos, provide ‘expert’ advice, perform a show, or attend events—all without pay, but with promises of experience, prestige, or that ever-so-alluring “exposure.”

But should you say ‘yes’ to these unpaid gigs?

It’s utterly unfair for people to assume you’re desperate for attention just because you’re starting out. And it’s downright rude if these organizations have the budget to pay only some individuals while leaving you high and dry.

For many new freelancers, doing freebies feels like a rite of passage. But speak to the old-timers, and they’ll likely warn you that unpaid gigs often lead to more unpaid gigs with zero real payoff. Plus, those promising “exposure” might not even have much exposure themselves.

So, is it ever worth it to hustle for “exposure”? Maybe, but only if it’s for a cause, charity, or group you’re genuinely passionate about.

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There’s Real Danger in Religious Illiteracy

February 20, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

There's Real Danger in Religious Illiteracy From Harvard’s Religious Literacy Project:

Understanding complex religious influences is a critical dimension of understanding modern human affairs. In spite of this awareness, there remains a widespread illiteracy about religion that spans the globe. There are many consequences of this illiteracy, but the most urgent is that it fuels conflict and antagonisms and hinders cooperative endeavors in all arenas of human experience.

In our multi-faith societies, it’s essential not only to understand our own faith traditions (or lack thereof) but also to grasp the traditions of others. Religion carries significant weight in many people’s lives, shaping individual and collective history, politics, and social dynamics through beliefs, practices, and traditions.

Unfortunately, widespread myths and factual inaccuracies about religious beliefs and texts often lead to misunderstandings and ignorance, fostering fear and prejudice.

Idea for Impact: Take the time to learn about different religions. It gives you a peek into people’s perspectives, values, and what drives them. Plus, it helps you recognize and deal with your own biases and stereotypes.

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Zen in a Minute: Centering with Micro-Meditations

February 19, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Zen in a Minute: Centering with Micro-Meditations If you find meditation challenging, you’re not alone. Quieting the mind, sitting still, or carving out time amid life’s hustle can feel like an uphill battle, especially when anxiety or attention issues come into play.

Enter micro-meditations.

Bite-sized moments of Zen can easily fit into your daily routine.

Think of micro-meditations as quick, rejuvenating pauses you can sprinkle throughout your day—whether it’s focused breathing while waiting for the bus, taking screen breaks, or even sitting on the porcelain throne.

Research suggests that incorporating short mindfulness practices, just 10 minutes before and after work, can work wonders for your mental well-being. By engaging in these practices, you activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps promote relaxation and counteracts the stress response triggered by the sympathetic nervous system.

Idea for Impact: Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, give micro-meditations a try. Simply slowing down your breath can send a signal to your body to relax. Integrate these brief moments of mindfulness into your daily routine, and you might be surprised at the peace they bring amidst the chaos.

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Inspirational Quotations #1037

February 18, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Man is condemned to be free; because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.
—Jean-Paul Sartre (French Philosopher)

Modesty is to merit, what shade is to figures in a picture; it gives it strength and makes it stand out.
—Jean de La Bruyere (French Author)

Ah, summer, what power you have to make us suffer and like it.
—Russell Baker (American Journalist, Humorist)

There are, strictly speaking, no enlightened people, there is only enlightened activity.
—Shunryu Suzuki (Buddhist Monk, Author)

Every human life involves an unfathomable mystery, for man is the riddle of the universe, and the riddle of man in his endowment with personal capacities. The stars are not so strange as the mind that studies them, analyzes their light, and measures their distance.
—Harry Emerson Fosdick (American Baptist Minister)

One thing only has been lent to youth and age in common—discontent.
—Matthew Arnold (English Poet, Critic)

The first principle of success is desire—knowing what you want. Desire is the planting of your seed. Very few persons, comparatively, know how to Desire with sufficient intensity. They do not know what it is to feel and manifest that intense, eager, longing, craving, insistent, demanding, ravenous Desire which is akin to the persistent, insistent, ardent, overwhelming desire of the drowning man for a breath of air; of the shipwrecked or desert-lost man for a drink of water; of the famished man for bread and meat.
—Robert Collier (American Self-Help Author)

Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.
—Zhuang Zhou (Chinese Taoist Philosopher)

When you are a pessimist and the bad thing happens, you live it twice. Once when you worry about it, and the second time when it happens.
—Amos Tversky (Israeli Cognitive Psychologist)

Pleasure is a poor substitute for happiness.
—Akbarali H. Jetha (Indian Author)

A living entity cannot derive real benefit by reading hundreds of books or pretending to render devotional service according to his own ideas.
—Bhaktisiddhanta Sarasvati Thakura (Indian Hindu Religious Leader)

You believe easily that which you hope for earnestly.
—Terence (Roman Comic Dramatist)

Like other traditions, the tradition of reason is learnt, not innate. It too lies between instinct and reason; and the question of the real reasonableness and truth of this tradition of proclaimed reason and truth must now also scrupulously be examined.
—Friedrich Hayek (British Economist, Social Philosopher)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Friendships Aren’t Always Built to Last Forever

February 15, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

Friendships Aren't Always Built to Last Forever A bitter truth of life is the fleeting nature of friendships, even those imbued with profound love and mutual regard.

Despite the tender ties forged and the tapestry of memories woven together, some bonds unravel, leaving behind a poignant yearning for what once thrived and the haunting echoes of what might have been.

Sustaining relationships demands a reciprocal commitment and diligent nurturing, as British writer Virginia Woolf eloquently observed in The Waves (1931,) “I have lost friends, some by death—others through sheer inability to cross the street.”

Friendships often follow a natural life cycle. Initially drawn together by the threads of circumstance—work, family, community, or shared passions—a journey unfolds, revealing deeper truths about our essence and desires.

In this unfolding, the connections that once nourished our souls may no longer suffice, and we find ourselves outgrowing the companionships that once defined us.

Some partings come with the gentle acceptance of mutual growth, while others leave behind the lingering ache of unresolved farewells.

Idea for Impact: That many friendships don’t withstand the trials of time is often a hard lesson to learn at any age. A poignant reminder of life’s impermanence.

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Why New Expatriate Managers Struggle in Asia: Confronting the ‘Top-Down’ Work Culture

February 12, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Why Expatriate Managers Struggle in Asia: Confronting the 'Top-Down' Work Culture Running the show in Asia is a whole different ball game compared to the West.

The management culture in Asia is primarily characterized by a pronounced top-down structure. Hierarchy based on position and seniority calls the shots.

Employees often see themselves more as executors of decisions that come from above, rather than being actively involved in the decision-making process. On top of that, there’s a fear of speaking up, worried they’ll stir up trouble or get sidelined.

This lack of creativity and proactive engagement stifles innovation and hampers organizational effectiveness. Even when employees recognize serious issues, they keep mum, sticking strictly to what they’re told.

Idea for Impact: For new expat managers, the key is getting people to open up, share their ideas, and challenge the status quo. Dive in, listen up, and make everyone part of the decision-making process. Their insights could be the game-changer your organization needs.

Take time to build those personal connections and create a vibe where everyone’s pitching in. Understand the influence networks and ditch the old-school compliance mindset.

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Inspirational Quotations #1036

February 11, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

All art a new combination of the work of previous generations. For no artist is so self-sufficient that he will shape his course unaffected by, and apart from, what has been done before. It is impossible to wipe one’s mind entirely clear of what one has seen and read and heard in intercourse with other beings. Every work of art must necessarily bear influences of previous accomplishments.
—Sadakichi Hartmann (American Art Critic)

The most important job is not to be governor, or first lady in my case.
—George W. Bush (American Head of State)

Reason has built the modern world. It is a precious but also a fragile thing, which can be corroded by apparently harmless irrationality. We must favor verifiable evidence over private feeling. Otherwise we leave ourselves vulnerable to those who would obscure the truth.
—Richard Dawkins (British Ethologist, Atheist)

There is a glorious rainbow that beckons those with the spirit of adventure. And there are rich findings at the end of that rainbow. To the young and the not too old, I say look at the horizon, find that rainbow, go ride it. Not all will be rich; quite a few will find a vein of gold; but all who pursue that rainbow will have a joyous and exhilarating ride and some profit.
—Lee Kuan Yew (Singaporean Statesman)

If we maintain the open-mindedness of children, we challenge fixed ideas and established structures, including our own. We listen to people in other denominations and religions. We don’t find demons in those with whom we disagree. We don’t cozy up to people who mouth our jargon. If we are open, we rarely resort to either-or: either creation or evolution, liberty or law, sacred or secular, Beethoven or Madonna. We focus on both—and, fully aware that God’s truth cannot be imprisoned in a small definition.
—Brennan Manning (American Franciscan Priest Theologian, Author)

For a thinking man is where Wisdom is at home.
—Zoroaster (Persian Religious Leader, Prophet)

Love means the body, the soul, the life, the entire being. We feel love as we feel the warmth of our blood, we breathe love as we breathe air, we hold it in ourselves as we hold our thoughts. Nothing more exists for us.
—Guy de Maupassant (French Short-story Writer)

I believe that a man is converted when first he hears the low, vast murmur of life, of human life, troubling his hitherto unconscious self.
—D. H. Lawrence (English Novelist)

He who laughs most learns best.
—John Cleese (British Comic Actor, Writer)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Leadership Isn’t a Popularity Contest

February 8, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Leadership Isn't a Popularity Contest Smart leaders accept that some decisions—like letting someone go or pulling the plug on a project—might not sit well with everyone, but tough decisions must be made for the greater good.

Leadership demands a tough mindset. While considering conflicts and respecting diverse opinions, leaders must prioritize decisions based on facts and organizational goals rather than personal preferences.

Leadership isn’t for you if you can’t handle others’ disapproval. Seeking constant approval and validation only weakens your ability to hold yourself accountable.

Idea for Impact: As a leader, be tough when you must and kind when you can. Raising your likability should be an aspiration and not a goal. Being trusted to make the right decisions is more important than sacrificing short-term popularity.

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Bringing out the Best in People through Positive Reinforcement

February 5, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Aubrey C. Daniels’s Bringing out the Best in People: How to Apply the Astonishing Power of Positive Reinforcement (2016) stands out as one of the most practical and comprehensive handbooks I’ve encountered on effective management techniques by a behavioral psychologist.

'Bringing Out the Best in People' by Aubrey Daniels (ISBN 1259644901) Central to Daniels’s approach is a management system rooted in positive reinforcement, which he argues leads to significant and measurable outcomes in both the short and long term. He contrasts this with traditional methods of punishment and criticism, which he finds to be ineffective and counterproductive. Instead, he advocates for praise and rewards to drive lasting behavioral change and enhance productivity. Drawing on principles from behavioral psychology, the book provides actionable strategies for implementing positive reinforcement effectively, fostering an environment of appreciation and support, and unlocking individuals’ full potential. Now in its third edition, it also offers insights into organizational change and establishing fair performance standards tailored to each person.

Here are some key takeaways from the book:

  • Incentives Drive Behavior. People don’t do what you tell them; they do what gets them a reward. “Managers must understand why people behave as they do with the same depth that scientists understand gravity” and align desired behavior with organizational objectives. Don’t “find fault or place blame, but analyze why people are behaving as they are, and modify the incentives to promote the behavior you need.”
  • Value What They Value. Positive reinforcement proves to be the most effective method for motivating individuals. It extends beyond mere monetary rewards or verbal praise; it encompasses anything of value to an employee. For instance, allowing an employee to dedicate some time to working on a favorite feature can serve as a form of reinforcement.
  • Consistency Shapes Behavior. Positive reinforcement has to be an everyday affair. It is most effective when it occurs immediately, is specific, and happens frequently. (Studies indicate that children with ADD and learning disabilities can maintain focus for extended periods while playing video games that offer 85 positive reinforcements per minute.)
  • Pure Praise, No Prompts. Positive reinforcement loses its effectiveness when followed by criticism (such as in “but, you need to improve X, Y, Z”) or suggestions for improvement because it dilutes the impact of the praise and can create confusion or mixed signals for the individual receiving feedback. “Do not use the occasion for praise as an opportunity to prompt or instruct.” The popular sandwich feedback technique has many pitfalls.
  • Bringing out the Best in People through Positive Reinforcement Regular Talks = Better Performance. Plan, give feedback, and adapt weekly. Hold weekly planning and feedback sessions. Relying solely on monthly reinforcement offers only 12 chances per year to influence someone’s performance. The annual review and bonus process doesn’t give employees the chance to make adjustments when it’s most crucial.
  • Reward High Performers; Redirect Others. Managers should prioritize recognizing and reinforcing the efforts of high-performing employees rather than solely focusing on addressing issues with underperformers. When dealing with employees who are not performing well, allocate a limited amount of time to address factors such as lack of necessary skills or abilities, inherent personality traits, or deep-seated behavioral patterns. However, if despite considerable effort there is only marginal improvement, it’s best to minimize losses by suggesting that their strengths may be better utilized in a different role. Assist them in finding a position that suits them better.
  • Continuously Refreshed Goals = Fresh Motivation. After reaching a goal, individuals may lose motivation due to complacency, like students after an “A” grade. To combat this, set new goals, offer feedback, recognition, and incentives, and foster a culture of continuous improvement to sustain motivation and drive progress.
  • Coercion Kills Motivation. An authoritarian or coercive “do it or else” demand typically only prompts individuals to perform at the minimum level required because it instills fear or compliance rather than genuine motivation. When faced with threats or coercion, people often focus on avoiding punishment rather than striving for excellence. This approach stifles creativity, initiative, and intrinsic motivation, resulting in minimal effort and limited engagement.
  • Clear Targets, Unstoppable Momentum. To motivate employees, establish a transparent method for measuring achievement. This encourages self-motivation. For instance, a software programmer’s performance could be measured by the number of bugs fixed, with extra recognition for addressing severe issues, or by the volume of documentation produced.

Recommendation: Quickread Aubrey C. Daniels’s Bringing out the Best in People. The book thoroughly reinforces principles and highlights the transformative impact of recognizing and reinforcing desired behaviors, benefiting both individuals and organizations. Enhance your team management by implementing systems and structures that effectively reinforce individuals in alignment with organizational goals.

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Inspirational Quotations #1035

February 4, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Old age is fifteen years older than I am.
—Bernard M. Baruch (American Financier)

Experience is what you get looking for something else.
—Mary Pettibone Poole ((fl.1938) American Aphorist)

When your heart becomes the grave of your secrets, that desire of yours will be gained more quickly. The prophet said that anyone who keeps secret his inmost thought will soon attain the object of his desire. When seeds are buried in the earth, their inward secrets become the flourishing garden.
—Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi (Persian Muslim Mystic)

Measure a man by his actions fully, from the beginning to the end. Don’t take a piece out of my life or a song out of my music and say this is what I’m about, because you know better than that.
—Tupac Shakur (American Rapper, Actor)

The thinner the ice, the more anxious is everyone to see whether it will bear.
—Josh Billings (Henry Wheeler Shaw) (American Humorist)

Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having, or feeling.
—Susan Jeffers (American Self-Help Author)

I don’t pick subjects because I know about them. I pick subjects because I want to know about them … Everything comes with a blizzard of new things you learn.
—Ken Burns (American Documentary Filmmaker)

Others have seen what is and asked why. I have seen what could be and asked why not.
—Pablo Picasso (Spanish Painter)

There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.
—Norman Vincent Peale (American Clergyman, Self-Help Author)

Go first to your highest thought about yourself. Imagine the you that you would be if you lived that thought every day. Imagine what you would think, do, and say, and how you would respond to what others would do and say … Do you see any difference between that projection and what you think, do, and say now?
—Neale Donald Walsch (American Spiritual Writer)

Youth covets; let not this covetousness seduce you.
—Friedrich Schiller (German Poet)

It is only when the maker of things is a maker of things by vocation, and not merely holding down a job, that the price of things is approximate to their real value.
—Ananda Coomaraswamy (Indian Art Historian)

The excellence of the soul is understanding; for the man who understands is conscious, devoted, and already godlike.
—Hermes Trismegistus (Greek-Egyptian Author)

Any truth is only true up to a certain point. When one oversteps the mark, it becomes a non-truth.
—Soren Kierkegaard (Danish Philosopher, Theologian)

What is food to one man is bitter poison to others.
—Lucretius (Roman Epicurean Philosopher)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

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