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Inspirational Quotations #317

March 28, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Know contentment and you will suffer no disgrace. Know when to stop and you will meet with no danger. You can then endure.
—Laozi (Chinese Philosopher)

A lofty idea must be had, not of what one is doing, but of what one may someday do. Otherwise there is no point in working on.
—Edgar Degas (French Painter)

It’s never a good idea to wait to do anything; given the uncertainty of life, just get going.
—Warren Buffett (American Investor)

Ability is a poor man’s wealth.
—John Wooden (American Sportsperson)

The day you decide to do it is your lucky day.
—Japanese Proverb

A diamond is a chunk of coal that made good under pressure.
—Anonymous

The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.
—Henry David Thoreau (American Philosopher)

Real knowledge, like everything else of the highest value, is not to be obtained easily. It must be worked for, studied for, thought for, and, more than all, it must be prayed for.
—Thomas Arnold

Whoever is friendly in adversity, is indeed a true friend. In prosperity, even a wicked person wants to be a friend.
—Panchatantra

A goal is created three times. First as a mental picture. Second, when written down to add clarity and dimension. And third, when you take action towards its achievement.
—Gary Ryan Blair

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Humility is a Mark of the Great

March 24, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment


Humility is a Life-long Pursuit

“Before destruction the heart of man is haughty, and before honor is humility.”
* The Holy Bible (Proverbs 18:12)

We live in a world that misconstrues the virtue of humility as a sign of meekness, timidity, lack of resolve, and, in general, a personal and leadership inadequacy. Could anything be more imprudent?

As the following narratives of great people will illustrate, humility is the bona fide characteristic of the truly accomplished and well-adjusted people. These great men and women live the life of modesty, unpretentiousness, and supreme confidence. They do not bear a sense of self-superiority and pride.

The Humility of Dr. Albert Einstein

“Einstein taught the greatest humility of all: that we are but a speck in an unfathomable large universe.”
* Time magazine, recognizing Albert Einstein as the Person of the Century

Sometime in the ’50s, Don Merwin, a producer of the ‘This I Believe’ radio program, visited Albert Einstein’s home in Princeton, New Jersey. He was to record Einstein speak his essay, “An Ideal of Service to Our Fellow Man” for the program. Don Merwin later recalled his experience: “I started setting up [the bulky tape recorder], and Dr. Einstein, who was a very amiable man, was chatting with me and expressed curiosity about tape-recording, which was fairly new in those days. He said, ‘How does it work?’ I started explaining the electronics of it, the way that the recording heads imprinted a signal on the moving tape. All of a sudden, I froze up. I said, ‘I am lecturing to Albert Einstein on physics!'” [Source: Allison, Jay, et al. (editors) “This I Believe: the Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Men and Women.”]

The Humility of Dr. M. Balamuralikrishna

Look at this 2007 picture from Deccan Herald, via Churumuri. Dr. M. Balamuralikrishna, the 79-year old celebrated Indian Classical vocalist, expresses deep reverence and seeks the blessings of the 96-year old Dr. Gangubai Hangal, another legendary vocalist.

The Humility of Sri Veerendra Heggade

How about this 2009 picture from Karnataka News (via Churumuri?) Sri Veerendra Heggade, the widely respected guardian of a prominent temple in South India, holds an umbrella to shield from sun blaze the chairman of a culture convention at a parade in the latter’s honor.

The Humility of Peter Drucker

I have read of many an instance of the humility of Peter Drucker, the most influential management philosopher of the modern era. Here are two anecdotes:

  • Executive-education student Cathy Taylor remembers Peter Drucker conscientiously writing down autograph seekers’ names on a napkin to get the spelling correct before he made the formal inscription.
  • Forbes magazine publisher Rich Karlgaard remembers Peter Drucker “apologizing for taking so long to answer the doorbell at his modest home in Claremont, California. He said he was still adapting to his new artificial knees.”

Call for Action: Try to Practice Humility

Humility is simply the absence of pride. Humility and modesty are the marks of a genuine individual. However, practicing humility is often easier said than done. Deplorably, our society and world of work characterizes humility as significantly antithetical to the impression of the intelligent professional and competent leader. It is rather easy to succumb to the temptation to enhance our ego.

Hard as it may be, try to practice humility whenever an opportunity arises. Here are few remainders to bear in mind.

  • Stop interpreting humility and unpretentiousness as signs of submissiveness, timidity, lack of confidence, insecurity, and diffidence
  • Practice assertiveness, not aggressiveness
  • Never confuse humility with false modesty
  • Compliment others sincerely, avoid flattery
  • Give credit where it’s due and describe achievements in terms of “what we did”
  • Acknowledge the role of people and circumstances in your successes
  • Tone down your authority and look to promote others
  • Smile more. Say, “thank you,” “please” and “sorry” often.
  • Try not to yield to the temptation to one-up people and gain an advantage over them
  • Demonstrate curiosity and a genuine interest in the fellow being
  • Avoid swagger, do not feign to be a “know-it-all” or “holier than thou”
  • Respect others for who they are and show consideration for everybody
  • Acknowledge what you do not know and be open to learning
  • Own up to your mistakes and acknowledge your personal shortcomings
  • Invite criticism and tend to feedback you receive
  • Value others’ opinions and be open to change
  • Avoid pretentiousness and conduct yourself in a manner that befits your true talents and shortcomings.

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Filed Under: Great Personalities, Living the Good Life Tagged With: Humility, India, Peter Drucker, Virtues

Inspirational Quotations #316

March 21, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Asks the Possible of the Impossible, “Where is your dwelling-place?” “In the dreams of the Impotent,” comes the answer.
—Rabindranath Tagore (Indian Hindu Polymath)

That which can be destroyed by the truth should be. That which the truth nourishes should thrive.
—Eliezer Yudkowsky (American Scientist)

To speak or not to speak—when that is the question, silence should take the place of speech.
—Mohandas K. Gandhi (Indian Hindu Political leader)

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
—Og Mandino

My creed is this: Happiness is the only good. The place to be happy is here. The time to be happy is now. The way to be happy is to make others so.
—Robert G. Ingersoll (American Atheist Politician)

Action is the foundational key to all success.
—Tony Robbins (American Actor Author)

A thought is an arrow shot at the truth; it can hit a point, but not cover the whole target. But the archer is too well satisfied with his success to ask anything farther.
—Sri Aurobindo (Indian Yogi, Nationalist)

No man chooses evil because it is evil; he only mistakes it for happiness, the good he seeks.
—Mary Wollstonecraft (British Children’s Books Writer)

Evolution is not finished; reason is not the last word nor the reasoning animal the supreme figure of Nature. As man emerged out of the animal, so out of man the superman emerges.
—Sri Aurobindo (Indian Yogi, Nationalist)

Everything actual must also first have been possible, before having actual existence.
—Albert Pike (American Military Leader)

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Inspirational Quotations #315

March 13, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.
—John Wooden (American Sportsperson)

Adversity reveals genius, prosperity conceals it.
—Horace (Quintus Horatius Flaccus) (Roman Poet)

Wisdom is divided into two parts: (a) having a great deal to say, and (b) not saying it.
—Anonymous

The test of a man is how much he can bear and how much he can share and how soon he confesses a mistake and makes amends for it.
—J. P. Vaswani (Indian Hindu Philosopher)

With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments are beyond your grasp.
—Jim Loehr

Every man I meet is in some way my superior. In that I learn of him.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (American Philosopher)

A loser doesn’t know what he’ll do if he loses, but talks about what he’ll do if he wins, and a winner doesn’t talk about what he’ll do if he wins, but knows what he’ll do if he loses.
—Eric Berne

No man becomes rich unless he enriches others.
—Andrew Carnegie (Scottish-American Industrialist, Philanthropist)

An effort made for the happiness of others lifts us above ourselves.
—Lydia Maria Child (American Abolitionist)

Let us keep a firm grip upon our money, for without it the whole assembly of virtues are but as blades of grass.
—Bhartruhari

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Sucking up Isn’t a Requirement for Success

March 8, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Consider the all-too-familiar boss’s pet employee at an office. He uses flattery, goes out of his way to help the boss, curries personal favors, and constantly tows the boss’s line no matter how unreasonable it is. He never corrects the boss when necessary. He either sugarcoats or withholds information that the boss would rather not hear. Over time, he has perfected the art of stroking his boss’s exaggerated sense of self-worth.

How about leaders who go overboard on their intention to exceed customer expectations and turn out to be “customer compelled?” They bend over backward to fulfill every whim and fancy of their customers to the likely peril of their own organization’s values and priorities.

Sucking up or brown-nosing is widespread approach to win a boss’s approval solely with one’s own self-interest in mind. Consider the consequences of sucking up:

  • An employee that sucks up to his boss loses the respect of his peers and employees. They assume positive discrimination and favoritism because of his ingratiatory behavior. The suck-up recursively promotes sucking up in his organization—he encourages others to establish themselves in his good graces.
  • Suck-ups quickly get into a pattern of slavishly reacting to every impulse of the boss. Without realizing, they become vulnerable to obligations to support their boss. Neither can they set limits on favors, nor do they stand up for themselves or their employees.

Be Resourceful, Don’t Suck Up

“One does not make the strengths of the boss productive by toadying to him. One does it by starting out with what is right and presenting it in a form which is accessible to the superior.”
* Peter Drucker, in The Effective Executive

Contrary to popular opinion, a vast majority of promotions are not handed out to employees who are most willing to suck up. Research and empirical evidence proves that employees who are honest, sincere, open, straightforward, and helpful earn management’s respect and attention over time. They move up fast because of their demonstrated ability to make the right choices. In addition, most people can innately distinguish the brown-nosers and differentiate genuine compliments from insincere flattery.

Do not get me wrong. There is enormous value in being helpful to the boss. After all, making yourself resourceful can go a long way in staying in the boss’s good graces. It can open professional opportunities and increase your access to new ideas, initiatives, and restricted information. However, there is an obvious boundary between doing favors and sucking up. Running an urgent errand when the boss is busy preparing for an important meeting or watching over his pet when he is travelling are well within reason. Compromising your values and priorities just to get on the boss’s side will not get you anywhere in the long term. Try these suggestions:

  • Be sincere and timely in your compliments. Refrain from making flattering remarks.
  • Use facts and logic to support or challenge the boss’s ideas. Never praise, or comment on your boss or his plans in front of others.
  • Ask your boss how you could help him achieve his goals and follow-up earnestly.

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Filed Under: Career Development, Managing People Tagged With: Attitudes, Managing the Boss, Peter Drucker

Inspirational Quotations #314

March 6, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The soul is a fire that darts its rays through all the senses; it is in this fire that existence consists; all the observations and all the efforts of philosophers ought to turn towards this ME, the centre and moving power of our sentiments and our ideas.
—Anne Louise Germaine de Stael

Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.
—Helen Keller (American Author)

Don’t mistake activity for achievement.
—John Wooden (American Sportsperson)

Good luck is the willing handmaid of a upright and energetic character, and conscientious observance of duty.
—James Russell Lowell (American Poet)

Unhappiness is not knowing what we want, and killing ourselves to get it.
—Don Herold (American Humorist)

When we rejoice in our fullness, then we can part without fruits with joy.
—Rabindranath Tagore (Indian Hindu Polymath)

The surest way to happiness is to lose yourself in a cause greater than yourself.
—Unknown

There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy, we sow anonymous benefits upon the world, which remain unknown even to ourselves, or when they are disclosed, surprise nobody so much as the benefactor.
—Robert Louis Stevenson (Scottish Novelist)

It is more important to know where you are going than to get there quickly. Do not mistake activity for achievement.
—Mabel Newcomer

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Inspirational Quotations #313

February 28, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

A knowledge of the path cannot be substituted for putting one foot in front of the other.
— M. C. Richards

So it’s probably eighty percent luck and twenty percent skill.
— Chris LeDoux

Each of us is great insofar as we perceive and act on the infinite possibilities which lie undiscovered and unrecognized about us.
— James Harvey Robinson

We are convinced that happiness is never to be found, and each believes it is possessed by others, to keep alive the hope of obtaining it for himself.
— Samuel Johnson

If you can dream it, you can do it.
— Walt Disney

Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.
— Rabindranath Tagore

Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.
— Benjamin Franklin

Music is the art of the prophets, the only art that can calm the agitations of the soul…
— Martin Luther

Anger is that powerful internal force that blows out the light of reason.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

A helping word to one in trouble is like a switch in a railroad track… an inch between wreck and smooth, rolling prosperity.
— Henry Ward Beecher

Be true when you are tempted, be true when you don’t want to be, be true when it means standing alone from the rest of the world.
— Ruth B. Wright

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Inspirational Quotations #312

February 21, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Beauty is truth’s smile when she beholds her own face in a perfect mirror.
—Rabindranath Tagore (Indian Hindu Polymath)

If you have nothing else to do, look at yourself and see if there isn’t something close at hand that you can improve. It may make you wealthy, although it is more likely it will make you happy.
—George Madison Adams (American Politician)

I’d rather have a lot of talent and a little experience than a lot of experience and a little talent.
—John Wooden (American Sportsperson)

Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness.
—Sophocles (Ancient Greek Dramatist)

A sense of curiosity is nature’s original school of education.
—Smiley Blanton

If you want greater prosperity in your life, start forming a vacuum to receive it.
—Catherine Ponder

No one has yet calculated how many imaginary triumphs are silently celebrated by people each year to keep up with their courage.
—Athenaeus

Every dawn signs a new contract with existence.
—Henri Frederic Amiel (Swiss Philosopher)

The company of the distinguished, fetches respect even to the unworthy. Because of its association with flowers (in a garland), the thread is also worn on head.
—Subhashita Manjari

It may be possible to forcibly snatch a jewel from the midst of powerful jaws of a crocodile. It may also be possible to cross a raging sea swimming across its high-running violent waves. One may even wear a furious snake around his head as if it is a garland of flowers. But it is impossible to win over a conceited fool.
—Subhashita Manjari

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Inspirational Quotations #311

February 15, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Between Yes and No, lies mediocracy.
—Ligia Kasten

Happiness consists more in the small conveniences of pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom to a man in the course of his life.
—Benjamin Franklin (American Political leader)

Never do anything which you would not wish to do during the last hour of your life.
—J. P. Vaswani (Indian Hindu Philosopher)

Change always comes bearing gifts.
—Price Pritchett

Hope is itself a species of happiness, and, perhaps, the chief happiness which this world affords.
—Samuel Johnson (British Essayist)

The pursuit of happiness is a most ridiculous phrase: if you pursue happiness you’ll never find it.
—C. P. Snow

Believe in what you can do and be not deterred by what others say.
—Jacob Gelt Dekker

We are weighed down, every moment, by the conception and the sensation of Time. And there are but two means of escaping and forgetting this nightmare: pleasure and work. Pleasure consumes us. Work strengthens us. Let us choose.
—Charles Baudelaire (French Poet)

It is wonderful how much time good people spend fighting the devil. If they would only expend the same amount of energy loving their fellow men, the devil would die in his own tracks of ennui.
—Helen Keller (American Author)

We never understand a thing so well, and make it our own, as when we have discovered it for ourselves.
—Rene Descartes (French Philosopher, Mathematician)

There is this difference between happiness and wisdom, that he that thinks himself the happiest man really is so; but he that thinks himself the wisest is generally the greatest fool.
—Charles Caleb Colton (English Angelic Priest)

Be of good hope in the face of death. Believe in this one truth for certain, that no evil can befall a good man either in life or death, and that his fate is not a matter of indifference to the gods.
—Socrates (Anceient Greek Philosopher)

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Missing in SMART goals: the ‘Why’

February 8, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The ‘SMART’ technique (see this excellent introduction) is a popular framework for effective goal setting. Generally, the acronym SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound requisites for goals. Some people use different denotations and variations; others use the expanded ‘SMARTER’ form or focus only on the measurable and time-bound (‘MT’) characterization of goals.

Quite often, goals—even the SMART ones—fail to stimulate action beyond the initial burst of motivation. The simple reason for this slip is that goals tend to lack visibility for the “true ends.”

Make Your Goals Stick

A goal that lacks an underpinning of meaning and personal significance is likely to run out of steam. Therefore, a goal or resolution can be inspiring only when you can connect it to a larger purpose.

When you define any goal, identify its “true ends”—what benefits you expect to gain by successfully pursuing an idea or goal. For example,

  • Instead of “Join a fitness center and workout every day,” try “Lose fifteen pounds by 6-June to drop a clothes-size and look and feel better at my best friend’s wedding.”
  • Instead of “Reduce credit card debt,” try “Reduce expenses and pay off $12,000 in credit card debt in three months so that I can save $135 per month in interest fees.”
  • Instead of “Attend fewer meetings,” try “Attend fewer meetings or delegate participation to reduce time at work and enjoy more quality time with family.”

Recognizing the true ends of your goals will sustain you through internal and external resistance to pursue your goals.

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