• Skip to content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Right Attitudes

Ideas for Impact

Managing People

Employee Surveys: Perceptions Apart

October 28, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Employee Surveys: The View From The Top, And The View From The Bottom Employee engagement surveys offer a stark illustration of the disconnect between the viewpoints of lower-ranking employees and top management. The Economist notes that bosses often believe their companies are compassionate, but their subordinates tend to hold a different perspective.

A [meta study on engagement surveys] found that bosses often believe their own guff, even if their underlings do not. Bosses are eight times more likely than the average to believe that their organisation is self-governing. (The cheery folk in human resources are also much more optimistic than other employees.) Some 27% of bosses believe their employees are inspired by their firm. Alas, only 4% of employees agree. Likewise, 41% of bosses say their firm rewards performance based on values rather than merely on financial results. Only 14% of employees swallow this.

The disconnect between senior management and rank and file employees often arises from limited direct interaction, information filtering, hierarchical barriers, and differing workplace cultures. Senior leaders don’t always fully grasp the day-to-day challenges and concerns of front-line workers.

From my viewpoint, many HR professionals tend to be overly optimistic when evaluating employee engagement, which can diverge from reality. This is partly because rank-and-file employees often perceive HR as less reliable in addressing their concerns, given the belief that HR prioritizes the organization’s interests. Concerns about transparency and inconsistent policy enforcement within HR exacerbate this perception.

Idea for Impact: From the lofty heights where they preside, leaders (and HR folk) can’t make out a world from which they hide.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Employee Surveys: Asking for Feedback is Not Enough
  2. Can’t Ban Political Talk at Work
  3. Giving Feedback and Depersonalizing It: Summary of Kim Scott’s ‘Radical Candor’
  4. These are the Two Best Employee Engagement Questions
  5. Teams That Thrive make it Safe to Speak & Safe to Fail

Filed Under: Leading Teams, Managing People, MBA in a Nutshell Tagged With: Conversations, Feedback, Group Dynamics, Human Resources, Leadership, Workplace

Cultural Differences and Detecting Deception

October 25, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Cultural Differences and Detecting Deception Spotting a liar isn’t an exact science; factors like eye contact, direct versus indirect communication, and many of the frequently highlighted “sure signs” of a liar may not always hold up across different cultures.

If you’re seeking more reliable indicators to help you discern truth from fiction, here they are:

  • Inconsistent Stories: Liars often weave a web of contradictions, changing their narrative as they go. When the story keeps evolving, it’s a red flag.
  • Lack of Detail: Liars tend to avoid specifics, offering vague responses that leave you with more questions than answers.
  • Defensiveness: While a poker face can hide the truth, excessive defensiveness can signal deception. When confronted, liars may become overly protective of their secrets.

Idea for Impact: Cultural sensitivity is essential when navigating the complex realm of truth and deception.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Are White Lies Ever Okay?
  2. Ethics Lessons From Akira Kurosawa’s ‘High and Low’
  3. Conscience is A Flawed Compass
  4. The Sensitivity of Politics in Today’s Contentious Climate
  5. How Understanding Your Own Fears Makes You More Attuned to Those of Others

Filed Under: Effective Communication, Managing People Tagged With: Biases, Conflict, Conversations, Ethics, Integrity, Manipulation, Questioning, Relationships

Job Crafting: Let Your Employees Shape Their Roles

October 23, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Job Crafting: Let Your Employees Shape Their Roles Employees invest a quarter of their lifetime in the realm of work; therefore it becomes a moral imperative to allow some of their waking hours to be a canvas upon which they paint the strokes of purpose and significance.

Isaac Getz, professor at Paris’s ESCP Europe Business School and author of the bestselling book Freedom Inc. (2012,) asserts that granting employees autonomy can tailor their learning and development and unlock the doors to realizing their full potential: “A company is liberated when the majority of employees have complete freedom and responsibility to take any action they themselves—not their boss—see as being best for the company’s vision and purpose.”

Idea for Impact: Encourage job crafting. Within reason, allow employees to take the initiative to actively and intentionally shape the contents of their jobs to better align with their skills, interests, and motivations and make them more purposeful. It’s a key talent retention strategy.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. These are the Two Best Employee Engagement Questions
  2. People Work Best When They Feel Good About Themselves: The Southwest Airlines Doctrine
  3. Managing the Overwhelmed: How to Coach Stressed Employees
  4. The Speed Trap: How Extreme Pressure Stifles Creativity
  5. Where Empowerment Fails

Filed Under: Leading Teams, Managing People, MBA in a Nutshell Tagged With: Human Resources, Likeability, Mentoring, Motivation, Performance Management, Workplace

Where Empowerment Fails

September 28, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Empowerment—giving employees greater autonomy—boosts engagement and creativity. It builds job satisfaction and improves retention. However, the success of empowerment initiatives depends on the personality traits of the managers implementing them down in the trenches.

Middle managers who value behaviors like team orientation, collaboration, and respectful interactions are more likely to enable their teams to set their own goals and entrust them to complete tasks in their way. But many managers in hierarchical structures embrace a certain command-and-control reflex that gets triggered in positions of power. Empowerment means transferring power to someone else, something they loathe. The alpha dimension to the personalities of these managers ends up micromanaging and impeding the autonomy of those in their team.

Idea for Impact: Relinquishing control over others and trusting employees not to abuse that responsibility isn’t easy for most managers; it takes someone very self-confident and secure to discharge empowerment.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. To Inspire, Pay Attention to People: The Hawthorne Effect
  2. Don’t Push Employees to Change
  3. Job Crafting: Let Your Employees Shape Their Roles
  4. People Work Best When They Feel Good About Themselves: The Southwest Airlines Doctrine
  5. A Rule Followed Blindly Is a Principle Betrayed Quietly

Filed Under: Leading Teams, Managing People Tagged With: Employee Development, Likeability, Mentoring, Motivation, Performance Management, Winning on the Job

Hate is Self-Defeating

September 23, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Hatred and anger are emotions that are ultimately futile and self-defeating. The Buddha taught that negative and destructive emotions toward others only harm the person who holds them. He said, “In this world, hate never dispelled hate. Only love dispels hate. This is the law, ancient and inexhaustible. You too shall pass away. Knowing this, how can you quarrel?”

Hate may seem successful when it binds perpetrators and victims in a cycle of mutual retaliation and destruction, but this is only a fleeting success. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. taught that hate often leads to more hate. He said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness.”

Idea for Impact: Choosing love over hate is the only way to defeat hate. You can deny hate even this fleeting success by modeling love in your speech, attitude, and actions. Look past people’s shortcomings and choose to accept, tolerate, forgive, and love. This is the wiser choice.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Entitlement and Anger Go Together
  2. Think Twice Before You Launch That Truth Bomb
  3. Don’t Abruptly Walk Away from an Emotionally Charged Conflict
  4. How to Speak Up in Meetings and Disagree Tactfully
  5. Affection Is No Defense: Good Intentions Make Excellent Alibis

Filed Under: Effective Communication, Managing People Tagged With: Anger, Conflict, Conversations, Emotions, Getting Along, Mindfulness

Stop Getting Caught in Other People’s Drama

September 21, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

If you’re drawn to a drama that has nothing to do with you, it’s okay to make yourself available briefly to help others fix their issues. However, beyond the seeming entertainment value of tuning in without any strings or consequences, odds are it’s actively interfering with your responsibilities.

Is getting consumed with other people’s drama just a form of escapism, allowing you to push attention away from stressful or unwelcome events in your own life for a brief amount of time?

To break the pattern of involvement in others’ dramas, shift your perspective and pay attention to what you’ll gain by not getting involved. Getting wrapped up in other people’s drama should never come at the expense of your own well-being.

Idea for Impact: Examine if you’re becoming interested in other people’s dramas because you’re evading your own reality. Set boundaries to preserve your own energy. Face your own life.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Witty Comebacks and Smart Responses for Nosy People
  2. How to … Avoid Family Fights About Politics Over the Holidays
  3. The Small Detail That Keeps a Conversation From Running Dry
  4. When Someone Misuses Your Gift
  5. Don’t Be Interesting—Be Interested!

Filed Under: Effective Communication, Living the Good Life, Managing People Tagged With: Conflict, Conversations, Discipline, Etiquette, Getting Along, Social Life

Why Hiring Self-Leaders is the Best Strategy

September 19, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The best leaders understand the power of self-leadership. When you have a team of self-leaders, you can step back and let them do what they do best—lead themselves.

To build a team of self-leaders, look for naturally curious, driven, and goal-oriented individuals. Seek out people who can work independently and collaborate with others when needed. These folks only need a little hand-holding, are self-motivated, and take the initiative without being told what to do.

Idea for Impact: With a team of self-leaders, you can focus on the bigger picture and trust that the day-to-day tasks are handled with care. So, consider hiring a team of self-leaders to take your organization to new heights. They’ll get things done efficiently and effectively while freeing you up to focus on what matters most.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Fire Fast—It’s Heartless to Hang on to Bad Employees
  2. General Electric’s Jack Welch Identifies Four Types of Managers
  3. How to Manage Overqualified Employees
  4. Bringing out the Best in People through Positive Reinforcement
  5. What To Do If Your New Hire Is Underperforming

Filed Under: Leading Teams, Managing People Tagged With: Coaching, Employee Development, Feedback, Great Manager, Hiring & Firing, Human Resources, Mentoring

Don’t Overemphasize Hitting Financial Targets

August 24, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Research shows placing too much focus on hitting financial targets can have negative effects on employee morale. It can even lead to unethical behavior, such as cutting corners or falsifying data, which can ultimately harm the company’s reputation and financial performance.

When conversations constantly revolve around financial metrics, employees may feel like they’re reduced to mere cogs in the company machine, solely responsible for driving up profits to satisfy shareholders. Instead, foster a connection between employees and the organization’s purpose. Emphasize the intrinsic value of their work and remind them that it’s not just about monetary rewards. Personal growth, meaningful experiences, and recognition are equally important.

Let one message resonate throughout the organization: Your work holds significance beyond financial targets.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Numbers Games: Summary of The Tyranny of Metrics by Jerry Muller
  2. People Do What You Inspect, Not What You Expect
  3. When Work Becomes a Metric, Metrics Risk Becoming the Work: A Case Study of the Stakhanovite Movement
  4. Be Careful What You Count: The Perils of Measuring the Wrong Thing
  5. Why Incentives Backfire and How to Make Them Work: Summary of Uri Gneezy’s Mixed Signals

Filed Under: Leadership, Managing People Tagged With: Ethics, Goals, Motivation, Persuasion, Targets

How to Speak Up in Meetings and Disagree Tactfully

August 22, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

If you find it challenging to speak up in meetings, especially when disagreeing, here’s a helpful framework:

  1. Restate the objective, even if it seems obvious: “Let’s clarify what we aim to achieve here…” This restatement sharpens the focus on the purpose.
  2. Paraphrase someone’s point: “So, if I understand correctly, you’re suggesting…”
  3. Express your concerns or alternative perspective: “I have concerns because…” or “While I see your point, how would we address…”
  4. Be the last to contribute: Your silence piques curiosity and makes your statement more impactful. Incorporate the best ideas expressed and avoid obvious mistakes.

Following this approach, you can tactfully express your thoughts with the right tone and words while seeking common ground.

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Don’t Abruptly Walk Away from an Emotionally Charged Conflict
  2. How to … Deal with Less Intelligent People
  3. Think Twice Before You Launch That Truth Bomb
  4. Conflict Hack: Acknowledging Isn’t Agreeing
  5. How to Be Better in a Relationship: Assume Positive Intent

Filed Under: Effective Communication, Managing People, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Anger, Conflict, Conversations, Getting Along, Meetings, Mindfulness, Relationships, Social Skills

Expanding the Narrative: Servant Leadership beyond Christianity

August 21, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

During the 1970s, Robert Greenleaf, an executive at AT&T, began popularizing a concept that challenged the idea of a heroic leader. He advocated for leaders who embraced humility and empowered their followers to lead.

According to Greenleaf, great leaders see themselves as servants first, and this fundamental understanding sets them apart. He taught, “Servant leadership begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions.”

Interestingly, this notion of “leader as a servant” aligns closely with the principles and teachings found in Christian scriptures, where Jesus Christ is often regarded as the ultimate example of a servant leader. Jesus exemplified humility, compassion, and selflessness in his interactions with others. In the Gospel of Mark, he declared, “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45, NIV.)

While Christianity inspires its leaders to emulate the servant leadership model by prioritizing people, valuing service, and fulfilling their role as stewards, it is essential to note that servant leadership is not exclusive to Christianity. The concept can be found in other religious traditions as well. For instance, even the Śvētāmbara Jain Jñātādharmakathāḥ Sūtra (“Stories of Knowledge and Righteousness”) monastic texts contain elements of servant leadership.

In a past life, the monk Megha was an elephant. Frightened by a forest fire, he created a clearing to provide refuge when the fire next hit. He rushed to the clearing with all the other animals during a future fire. At one stage, he lifted his foot to scratch himself, and when he came to put it down again, he saw that a hare had squeezed into the space. So he stood on three legs for the entire duration of the fire — several days — and as a result, he fell over and died. This exceptionally compassionate act resulted in a human rebirth.

The Mahākapi Jātaka relates Buddha-to-be on his Bodhisattva path:

The story runs that the Bodhisattva was born as a monkey, ruler of over 80,000 monkeys. They lived near the Ganges and ate the fruit of a great mango tree. King Brahmadatta of Benares, desiring to possess the mangoes, surrounded the tree with his soldiers to kill the animals, but the Bodhisattva formed a bridge over the stream with his own body and, by this means, enabled the whole tribe to escape into safety.

Devadatta, the jealous and wicked cousin of the Buddha, was one of the monkeys in that life and, thinking it was a good chance to destroy his enemy, jumped on the Bodhisattva’s back and broke his heart.

The king, seeing the good deed of the Bodhisattva and repenting of his own attempt to kill him, tended to him with great care when he was dying and afterward gave him royal obsequies.

Servant leadership goes beyond any specific faith and encompasses a broader philosophy of putting others and organizations before oneself. It emphasizes the importance of valuing and prioritizing the interests and well-being of others. As the apostle Paul wrote in his letter to the Philippians, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3-4, NIV.)

Wondering what to read next?

  1. Shrewd Leaders Sometimes Take Liberties with the Truth to Reach Righteous Goals
  2. Why New Managers Fail to Stop Unethical Behavior Among Subordinates
  3. Look, Here’s the Deal: Your Insecurity is Masquerading as Authority
  4. The Deceptive Power of False Authority: A Case Study of Linus Pauling’s Vitamin C Promotion
  5. Why Are There No ‘How to Be a Great Follower’ Classes?

Filed Under: Leadership, Managing People, Mental Models Tagged With: Assertiveness, Buddhism, Getting Along, Humility, Integrity, Leadership, Parables, Persuasion, Role Models

« Previous Page
Next Page »

Primary Sidebar

Popular Now

Anxiety Assertiveness Attitudes Balance Biases Coaching Conflict Conversations Creativity Critical Thinking Decision-Making Discipline Emotions Entrepreneurs Ethics Etiquette Feedback Getting Along Getting Things Done Goals Great Manager Innovation Leadership Leadership Lessons Likeability Mental Models Mindfulness Motivation Parables Performance Management Persuasion Philosophy Problem Solving Procrastination Psychology Relationships Simple Living Social Skills Stress Suffering Thinking Tools Thought Process Time Management Winning on the Job Wisdom

About: Nagesh Belludi [hire] is a St. Petersburg, Florida-based freethinker, investor, and leadership coach. He specializes in helping executives and companies ensure that the overall quality of their decision-making benefits isn’t compromised by a lack of a big-picture understanding.

Get Updates

Signup for emails

Subscribe via RSS

Contact Nagesh Belludi

RECOMMENDED BOOK:
How to Talk to Anyone

How to Talk to Anyone: Leil Lowndes

Communication consultant Leil Lowndes discusses 92 tricks to become a better conversationalist and improve social relationships---body language, words to say, telephone techniques, social tactics.

Explore

  • Announcements
  • Belief and Spirituality
  • Business Stories
  • Career Development
  • Effective Communication
  • Great Personalities
  • Health and Well-being
  • Ideas and Insights
  • Inspirational Quotations
  • Leadership
  • Leadership Reading
  • Leading Teams
  • Living the Good Life
  • Managing Business Functions
  • Managing People
  • MBA in a Nutshell
  • Mental Models
  • News Analysis
  • Personal Finance
  • Podcasts
  • Project Management
  • Proverbs & Maxims
  • Sharpening Your Skills
  • The Great Innovators

Recently,

  • The Fallacy of Outsourced Sin: The Cow Paradox in India
  • Inspirational Quotations #1151
  • Don’t Ruin Your Brilliant Idea by Talking About It
  • Gandhi’s Wheel, Apple’s Spin: The Paradox of Apple’s ‘Think Different’ Campaign
  • Book Summary: Hadley Freeman’s ‘Life Moves Pretty Fast’—How ’80s Movies Wrote America’s Story
  • Inspirational Quotations #1150
  • Corporate Boardrooms: The Governance Problem Everyone Knows and Nobody Fixes

Unless otherwise stated in the individual document, the works above are © Nagesh Belludi under a Creative Commons BY-NC-ND license. You may quote, copy and share them freely, as long as you link back to RightAttitudes.com, don't make money with them, and don't modify the content. Enjoy!