How to … Silence Your Inner Critic with Gentle Self-Compassion

In When Things Fall Apart (1996,) revered Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, saying, “The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”

Self-compassion, as Chödrön explains, isn’t about indulging yourself in superficial comforts. Instead, it’s about treating yourself with the same understanding and care you’d offer a close friend during times of hardship. It means facing your suffering without getting lost in it and taking steps to ease it with patience and kindness.

Idea for Impact: When you’re struggling, take a moment to reflect on your thoughts and feelings. Ask yourself, “What’s happening? Why do I feel this way? What do I need most right now?” This compassionate approach can give you greater clarity and help you bounce back when facing challenges.