In Choose Wonder Over Worry (2018) self-help author Amber Rae recalls novelist Elizabeth Gilbert’s interaction with a wise older lady who was helping Gilbert with her struggles as a writer:
Lady: “What are you willing to give up in order to have the life you keep saying you want?”
Gilbert: “You’re right—I need to start saying no to things I don’t want to do.”
Lady: “No, it’s much harder than that. You need to learn to start saying no to things you _do_ want to do, with the recognition that you have only one life, and you don’t have time and energy for everything.”
This anecdote is such a powerful illustration of how saying ‘no’ is so much easier when you’re clear about your priorities.
That’s what focus really is—saying ‘no’ to things you’d like to do so that you can free up your time to focus on the pursuits that truly matter—even tasks you have to do, even if they don’t energize and excite you.
Idea for Impact: Setting boundaries isn’t always easy, but it’s essential to establish an overall sense of well-being. Every ‘no’ is a ‘yes’ to something else.
- Don’t find any excuse to say ‘yes’ to what shouldn’t be done.
- Don’t find any reason to say ‘no’ to what should be done.
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