Right Attitudes

A Boss’s Presence Deserves Our Gratitude’s Might

October 15, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Why We Need Bosses: The Backbone of Workplace Success

Ever pause and ponder a while on the virtues that make a boss worthwhile?

The boss hands out assignments and waits for the deliverables.

The boss helps set the course.

The boss organizes your time for you.

The boss decides what’s urgent.

The boss steers you toward success with purpose.

The boss paves the path for growth and success.

The boss lends a hand in moments of doubt.

The boss keeps you going when you don’t feel like doing it.

The boss gives you cover when you goof up (“he told me to!.”)

The boss pays you even when the client doesn’t honor the invoice.

The boss takes the blame.

The boss creates deadlines and sticks with them.

The boss makes sure you show up in the morning.

The boss pays for the office supplies.

The boss gives you someone to complain about.

The boss is an easy scapegoat for your personal frustrations or workplace dissatisfactions.

The boss carves up the work and gives you just that piece you signed up to do.

The boss gives you a role model (sometimes one who exhibits behaviors or values to be avoided.)

The boss gives you the momentum you need to get through the stuff that takes perseverance.

Tomorrow (16-Oct) is ‘National Boss’s Day’ in the United States and many other countries. It’s a good time to recognize the many challenges and pressures bosses face.

Sure, not all bosses are perfect … but let’s take a moment to show some love to those bosses who lead with dedication and commitment.

Chance and the Currency of Preparedness: A Case Study on an Indonesian Handbag Entrepreneur, Sunny Kamengmau

October 13, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Luck Meets Readiness: Harnessing Chance with the Currency of Preparedness

Travelers are often captivated by the allure of handcrafted treasures they discover in remote corners of the world. This fascination frequently sparks a compelling entrepreneurial question: Could these artisanal goods be imported and sold abroad? That question—equal parts reverence and ambition—is often where vision begins. Yet the true challenge of bringing such ideas to life lies in finding the right local partner—someone deeply embedded in the artisan community and capable of navigating the complex processes of recruiting artisans, managing production, and ensuring quality control.

Prepared Minds and Fortunate Turns

This is the story of Sunny Kamengmau, an Indonesian entrepreneur whose boutique handbag brand, Robita, won the hearts of consumers in Japan. Originally from a small village on a far-flung island in the archipelago, Sunny moved to Bali in search of a livelihood. He worked various jobs—hotel gardener, security guard—and began learning English and Japanese to better connect with international visitors.

In 1995, serendipity arrived not as a revelation but as a conversation. A chance meeting with Japanese entrepreneur Nobuyuki Kakizaki at a hotel set the stage for an extraordinary journey. The two remained in contact, and three years later, they launched an initiative to create handmade leather bags for the Japanese market, where quiet beauty is deeply appreciated. That marked the birth of Robita.

Collaborating closely with local artisans, Sunny embraced traditional craftsmanship. Robita bags became known for their distinctive qualities: unstrained leather that preserved its natural character, rare embroidery and dyeing techniques, and hand-stitched textures that conveyed authenticity. These thoughtful details resonated with discerning Japanese consumers, who valued the brand’s understated elegance and rustic charm.

The Quiet Routes of Opportunity

The road to success was anything but smooth. Sunny faced financial hardships and endured the loss of his Japanese business partner. Still, his resilience bore fruit. Robita earned international acclaim and eventually opened a boutique in Bali. Despite its loyal following and notable achievements, the brand recently announced its closure—without a lengthy explanation. Just a quiet farewell.

Entrepreneurship is often associated with strategy and grit. But Robita’s story reveals a deeper truth: Success frequently depends as much on serendipity—timing, circumstances, and chance encounters—as it does on effort. Sunny didn’t manufacture his opportunity. He met it halfway, prepared to rise when it came. Preparedness doesn’t guarantee triumph, but it positions one to seize opportunity when it arrives.

Idea for Impact: Hard work doesn’t always pay off, but sometimes, it does—if luck chooses to lend a hand.

Inspirational Quotations #1123

October 12, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi

Time is short—your obligations are infinite.—Are your houses regulated, your children instructed, the afflicted relieved, the poor visited, the work of piety accomplished?
—Jean Baptiste Massillon (French Bishop)

Never trust a man who speaks well of everybody.
—John Churton Collins (British Literary Critic)

Better a thousand enemies outside the house than one inside.
—Arabic Proverb

Being a woman is a terribly difficult trade since it consists principally of dealings with men.
—Joseph Conrad (Polish-born British Novelist)

There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.
—Denis Waitley (American Motivational Speaker)

There is a canyon of difference between doing your best to glorify God and doing whatever it takes to glorify yourself. The quest for excellence is a mark of maturity. The quest for power is childish.
—Max Lucado (American Author, Minister)

Do not remove a fly from your friend’s forehead with a hatchet.
—Chinese Proverb

Fear of failure must never be a reason not to try something.
—Frederick W. Smith (American Entrepreneur)

It is best to do things systematically, since we are only humans, and disorder is our worst enemy.
—Hesiod (Greek Poet)

That charity which longs to publish itself, ceases to be charity.
—Ulrich von Hutten (German Humanist, Reformer)

Writers are not just people who sit down and write. They hazard themselves. Every time you compose a book your composition of yourself is at stake.
—E. L. Doctorow (American Novelist)

There is nothing to which men cling more tenaciously than the privileges of class.
—Leonard Woolf (British Political Theorist)

Should You Read a Philosophy Book or a Self-Help Book?

October 10, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Should You Read a Philosophy Book or a Self-Help Book? Self-help and philosophy both claim to enhance life, but they approach the task from opposite ends. Self-help assumes you know what you want—success, happiness, confidence—and hands you the tools to get there. Philosophy asks whether those goals are worth wanting in the first place.

Self-help offers strategies: affirmations, routines, lists. It treats discomfort like a bug to be patched. Philosophy treats it as a signal—something to examine, not suppress. Consider Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics: it doesn’t show you how to be happy, it interrogates what happiness even means. That shift from prescription to inquiry is the fault line.

Philosophy doesn’t sell quick wins. In fact, it doesn’t sell anything. It withholds answers and insists on better questions. That ambiguity frustrates, but it’s also what makes it enduring. Where self-help simplifies, philosophy destabilizes—often constructively.

Modern self-help is philosophy run through a blender: palatable, repeatable, stripped of nuance. It offers clarity at the cost of depth. While self-help patches the surface, philosophy digs through the foundation—often asking whether the building needed to be there in the first place.

If you want action, self-help delivers fast. If you want to probe your assumptions—slowly, painfully, fruitfully—philosophy waits. It may not give you a better life. But it will offer a clearer lens for judging what “better” even means.

Idea for Impact: Self-help flatters your instincts. Philosophy cross-examines them—sometimes into silence.

A Rule Followed Blindly Is a Principle Betrayed Quietly

October 8, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Rules—like laws—exist to civilize chaos. In the service industry, they promise fairness and consistency—noble aims, until they ossify into dogma. When employees are reduced to rule-spouting mannequins, the result isn’t order but inertia. A workforce trained to obey rather than think will reliably deliver less than it could, while the system smugly applauds its own mediocrity.

Some rules deserve reverence. Call them red zone: safety, legality, ethics. These are nonnegotiable. But most rules aren’t red zone. They’re yellow. And yellow rules, when treated as sacred, become absurd. They’re guidelines, not commandments. They exist to be interpreted—not enforced with the zeal of a customs officer confiscating a banana.

Discretion isn’t anarchy. It demands boundaries—but also trust. Define what staff can spend, compromise, accommodate, decide, and deviate from. Give them the rationale behind the rule, not just the regulation. Teach them to think, not to flinch.

When Obedience Undermines Excellence: Ritz-Carlton's Empowerment Ethos in Action Consider the Ritz-Carlton. Every employee—from housekeeper to concierge—is authorized to spend up to $2,000 per guest, per incident, without managerial approval, to resolve a problem or elevate an experience. It sounds extravagant—and admittedly, most issues won’t come close to needing a four-figure remedy. But that’s not the point. The policy isn’t about the literal dollar amount. It’s about the psychological effect of front-loading trust. The generous limit signals deep belief in the employee’s judgment. It liberates staff to act decisively and without hesitation.

That kind of empowerment transforms service into ownership. It fuels morale, initiative, and personal investment in outcomes. For guests, it delivers not just swift resolutions—but memorable gestures. These are moments that forge lasting emotional loyalty. They’re not indulgences. Ritz sees them as smart calculations—acts of discretionary judgment with an eye toward the lifetime value of a loyal customer. Ritz-Carlton knows it can’t buy loyalty with rules, but it can earn it with discretion.

Idea for Impact: Good employees should be allowed to break good rules

Fear is the enemy of judgment. A workforce trained to avoid mistakes will never achieve excellence. The best service isn’t delivered by smiling bureaucrats. It’s delivered by people trusted to use their brains. A rule is only as good as the judgment behind its use.

Stoic in the Title, Shallow in the Text: Summary of Robert Rosenkranz’s ‘The Stoic Capitalist’

October 6, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The Stoic revival is in full swing. Scan any airport bookstore or business influencer’s feed and you’ll find a glut of titles flaunting quotes from Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, and Seneca—repurposed as motivational mantras for the exceptionally busy and vaguely introspective. Stoicism, once a demanding discipline of character and moral clarity, now functions as ambient wisdom: a collection of slogans to soothe, sell, and self-brand.

What passes for Stoicism today is largely superficial. Its original rigor—a confrontation with mortality, ego, and the ethical demands of reasoned action—has been flattened into life-hacking shorthand. Books that once urged readers to examine their complicity in suffering now offer platitudes about resilience and control. Many treat it less as method than accessory—something to dress up success, not interrogate it.

This is where The Stoic Capitalist: Advice for the Exceptionally Ambitious (2025) by investor and philanthropist Robert Rosenkranz slots in, bearing a title so algorithmically precise it could’ve been brainstormed by a branding team. The book claims to blend memoir, philosophy, and practical guidance, and Rosenkranz’s résumé lends him credibility. But the philosophical layer feels thin—more narrative varnish than intellectual structure.

Rosenkranz admits he discovered Stoicism late, applying it retroactively to interpret his career. The result isn’t a chronicle of Stoic-inspired choices, but a personal history retrofitted with borrowed gravitas. Where readers might expect rigorous philosophical engagement in high-stakes environments, they’ll find a polished memoir glossed with Stoic terminology. Even core tenets—agency, emotional discipline, apatheia—are presented with troubling looseness. Rather than encouraging engagement with suffering and complexity, the narrative risks casting Stoicism as permission for detachment. The mantra “controlling the controllables” recurs, but without probing what control means—or why it matters.

Recommendation: Skim. The book may appeal as a polished life story with intellectual garnish. But its philosophical promise is more decorative than durable. Real Stoicism demands interrogation of one’s motives in motion—not just the elegance of hindsight. And that’s harder to market.

Inspirational Quotations #1122

October 5, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi

Nothing is as frustrating as arguing with someone who knows what he’s talking about.
—Sam Ewing (American Writer)

If you haven’t forgiven yourself something, how can you forgive others?
—Dolores Huerta (American Labor Activist)

Too often, the opportunity knocks, but by the time you push back the chain, push back the bolt, unhook the two locks and shut off the burglar alarm, it’s too late.
—Rita Coolidge (American Singer, Songwriter)

Pride, like humility, is destroyed by one’s insistence that he possesses it.
—Kenneth Bancroft Clark (American Psychologist)

Let every man or woman here, if you never hear me again, remember this, that if you wish to be great at all, you must begin where you are and with what you are. He who would be great anywhere must first be great in his own Philadelphia.
—Russell Conwell (American Baptist Minister)

You should bring something into the world that wasn’t in the world before. It doesn’t matter what that is. It doesn’t matter if it’s a table or a film or gardening—everyone should create. You should do something, then sit back and say ‘I did that.’
—Ricky Gervais (British Comedian, Writer)

You know about a person who deeply interests you more than you can be told. A look, a gesture, an act, which to everybody else is insignificant tells you more about that one than words can.
—Henry David Thoreau (American Philosopher)

We may draw good out of evil; we must not do evil, that good may come.
—Maria Weston Chapman (American Abolitionist)

The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose.
—Richard Leider (American Executive Coach)

Time ripens all things; no man is born wise.
—Miguel de Cervantes (Spanish Novelist)

Five Questions to Keep Your Job from Driving You Nuts

October 3, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

When work is actually decent, everything else starts to click. A good job challenges you just enough, pays the bills, surrounds you with coworkers who aren’t jerks, includes a boss who gets you, and offers a commute that doesn’t crush your soul. If you’ve got one, hold onto it. But if your job feels more “meh” than meaningful, it might be time to rethink how you’re showing up to it.

You don’t need a promotion or some life-changing pivot. Sometimes, a small mindset tweak is enough. Instead of chasing the ideal job or measuring your current one against outdated standards, ask better questions. You may find the spark isn’t gone—it’s just buried under routine and autopilot. Start with these:

What parts of your day actually feel good—and how can you create more of them? Significance: Small joys matter. They keep you grounded.
Who around you genuinely seems to like their job—and what are they doing differently? Significance: Pay attention. Borrow smart habits. Experiment.
What small responsibilities can you quietly take on—even if no one notices yet? Significance: Leadership doesn’t wait for permission. It starts with initiative.
What skill could you start building today that nudges you toward the next role? Significance: Make your potential visible. Show your growth in action.
Does your calendar reflect your values—or just what others expect of you? Significance: Time speaks louder than intentions. Spend it wisely.

Bonus: What tough issue are you avoiding that needs a name before it grows teeth Significance: Ignoring problems doesn’t shrink them. It sharpens them.

Idea for Impact: Careers don’t reset in a day. But your rhythm can—one step at a time, starting now.

A Taxonomy of Troubles: Summary of Tiffany Watt Smith’s ‘The Book of Human Emotions’

October 1, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Some books aren’t designed to be read front to back. Tiffany Watt Smith’s The Book of Human Emotions (2016) is a perfect example. It’s a compendium, a literary grab bag where readers can open to any page and uncover a curious nugget about the strange terrain of human feeling. Whether it launches a dinner-table debate or sends you into a cultural rabbit hole, its charm lies in its delightfully unsystematic approach.

Smith, a cultural historian focusing on the history of emotion, offers a colorful tour of the emotional spectrum. Some entries are instantly relatable; others are wonderfully obscure. The format is encyclopedic, ranging from single-sentence definitions to multi-page explorations. There’s basorexia, the sudden urge to kiss, and iktsuarpok, the anxious anticipation of someone’s arrival. Smith notes in the introduction that the modern idea of “emotions” didn’t appear until the 1830s. Before then, feelings were blamed on faulty souls or imbalanced bodily fluids like bile or phlegm.

The book is more than just a glossary; it’s threaded with sharp cultural insights—when a language has a specific word for a concept, it often indicates that this concept is culturally important, frequently discussed, or central to how people interact and understand their world. Smith touches on the aggressively enforced cheeriness of American customer service, a strange mandate for mandatory happiness that somehow leaves everyone slightly gloomier. She also highlights curiosities like awumbuk (from Papua New Guinea,) the oddly specific feeling of emptiness after guests leave, and the Dutch concept of gezelligheid, capturing the warmth of shared companionship.

Recommendation: Leaf through The Book of Human Emotions. Though the concept occasionally feels stretched, perhaps suggesting the author discovered that emotions alone might not justify an entire book, it remains engaging throughout. Smith writes with clarity and wit, avoiding the heaviness of academic prose. This is the kind of book that earns its place on the coffee table. It’s best enjoyed in fragments, one curious entry at a time, gently reminding us how language and culture shape what we feel and how we understand each other.

Negative Emotions Aren’t the Problem—Our Flight from Them Is

September 29, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Negative Emotions Aren't the Problem---Our Flight from Them Is Life is not a cradle of comfort but a crucible of experience. To be conscious is to be vulnerable—to injury, to loss, to the slow erosion of certainty. Suffering is not a glitch in the system; it is the system. And yet, the modern mind, coddled by convenience and narcotized by distraction, recoils from this fact as if it were an indecency rather than a reality.

We are told to “stay positive,” to “move on,” to “let it go”—as if grief were a clerical error and despair a lapse in etiquette. But this is not wisdom; it is evasion. The mature individual does not anesthetize himself against pain. He studies it. He lets it speak. He asks, as the Buddha might have: What is the origin of this suffering? What craving, what illusion, what attachment lies beneath it?

Negative emotions—anger, shame, sorrow—are not pollutants to be scrubbed from the psyche. They are signals. To suppress them is to silence the very messengers that might deliver us from ignorance. The Buddhist insight that suffering arises from clinging—from our refusal to accept impermanence—aligns, curiously, with the stoic’s call to meet adversity with composure and clarity.

There is no virtue in masochism, no nobility in wallowing. But there is immense value in refusing to be ruled by what afflicts us. To suffer consciously is to wrest meaning from pain. To observe one’s anguish without flinching is to begin the slow, unsentimental work of liberation.

Idea for Impact: You will not escape the wheel of suffering. Avoiding negative emotions won’t get you anywhere—it merely postpones the reckoning and deepens the illusion. In doing so, you do not become immune to suffering—but you cease to be its slave.

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