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Chance and the Currency of Preparedness: A Case Study on an Indonesian Handbag Entrepreneur, Sunny Kamengmau

October 13, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Luck Meets Readiness: Harnessing Chance with the Currency of Preparedness

Travelers are often captivated by the allure of handcrafted treasures they discover in remote corners of the world. This fascination frequently sparks a compelling entrepreneurial question: Could these artisanal goods be imported and sold abroad? That question—equal parts reverence and ambition—is often where vision begins. Yet the true challenge of bringing such ideas to life lies in finding the right local partner—someone deeply embedded in the artisan community and capable of navigating the complex processes of recruiting artisans, managing production, and ensuring quality control.

Prepared Minds and Fortunate Turns

This is the story of Sunny Kamengmau, an Indonesian entrepreneur whose boutique handbag brand, Robita, won the hearts of consumers in Japan. Originally from a small village on a far-flung island in the archipelago, Sunny moved to Bali in search of a livelihood. He worked various jobs—hotel gardener, security guard—and began learning English and Japanese to better connect with international visitors.

In 1995, serendipity arrived not as a revelation but as a conversation. A chance meeting with Japanese entrepreneur Nobuyuki Kakizaki at a hotel set the stage for an extraordinary journey. The two remained in contact, and three years later, they launched an initiative to create handmade leather bags for the Japanese market, where quiet beauty is deeply appreciated. That marked the birth of Robita.

Collaborating closely with local artisans, Sunny embraced traditional craftsmanship. Robita bags became known for their distinctive qualities: unstrained leather that preserved its natural character, rare embroidery and dyeing techniques, and hand-stitched textures that conveyed authenticity. These thoughtful details resonated with discerning Japanese consumers, who valued the brand’s understated elegance and rustic charm.

The Quiet Routes of Opportunity

The road to success was anything but smooth. Sunny faced financial hardships and endured the loss of his Japanese business partner. Still, his resilience bore fruit. Robita earned international acclaim and eventually opened a boutique in Bali. Despite its loyal following and notable achievements, the brand recently announced its closure—without a lengthy explanation. Just a quiet farewell.

Entrepreneurship is often associated with strategy and grit. But Robita’s story reveals a deeper truth: Success frequently depends as much on serendipity—timing, circumstances, and chance encounters—as it does on effort. Sunny didn’t manufacture his opportunity. He met it halfway, prepared to rise when it came. Preparedness doesn’t guarantee triumph, but it positions one to seize opportunity when it arrives.

Idea for Impact: Hard work doesn’t always pay off, but sometimes, it does—if luck chooses to lend a hand.

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Narcissism Isn’t Confidence—It’s a Crisis of Worth

August 25, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Narcissism Isn't Confidence, It's a Crisis of Worth We tend to see narcissists as preening showboats—people who crave attention, inflate their self-image, and dominate the spotlight. Often, our reflexive response blends dislike with a touch of envy. After all, narcissism seems to reflect confidence and competence, and society rewards those traits handsomely.

But as humanistic philosopher Erich Fromm reminds us in The Art of Being (1989,) that impression is misleading. From a psychological perspective, narcissists don’t love themselves too much—they struggle to love themselves at all. The swagger isn’t proof of wholeness but a carefully constructed façade meant to hide a deep sense of inadequacy.

Rather than vilify or envy, perhaps we can view narcissistic behavior as a strategy—a means by which the narcissist copes with the emotional turmoil of feeling unseen, unworthy, or insignificant. It serves as an overcorrection, a self-preservation tactic designed to stave off the discomfort of vulnerability.

We’re all, in some way, seeking to be loved for who we are. Narcissists just shout louder—not because they want attention, but because they’re afraid they won’t be heard. When we look at narcissism through this lens, compassion becomes possible. The self-absorption, the grandiosity, the insistence on being right—these aren’t signs of a well-fed ego, but of a starved one. They’re desperate attempts to mend an inner fracture, to fill an emotional vacancy no amount of applause can satisfy.

Idea for Impact: Narcissism isn’t self-love—it’s disguised self-doubt. And maybe the most constructive response isn’t scorn or jealousy, but the quiet grace of understanding. Still, let’s not forget: insecurity dressed as dominance is still dangerous.

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The Business of Popular Causes

January 22, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Starbucks:Championing Progressive Causes, While Undermining Unionization Efforts Starbucks has long been celebrated for its progressive image and support of social justice causes. But when it comes to unionization and better benefits, the company’s actions tell a different story. Internal policies—like cracking down on union activities—raise doubts about how committed it truly is to the values it champions.

Starbucks is a prime example of a wider trend: companies quickly embrace progressive causes, but only when they don’t hurt the bottom line. This is Bandwagon Branding—when businesses latch onto the latest popular cause, whether it’s social justice, climate change, or equality, to align with dominant public values. They roll out hashtags, social media campaigns, and limited-edition products to show support. But once the spotlight fades, they quietly move on to the next issue. Remember when founder-CEO Howard Schultz launched the “Race Together” initiative, letting baristas at 12,000 locations write it on cups to spark conversations about race?

This cycle—big gestures, minimal change, quick pivots—reveals a harsh truth: corporations are profit-driven. Their true loyalty is to shareholders, not social causes. Corporate virtue-signaling often rings hollow.

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Lee Kuan Yew on the Traits of Good Political Leaders

November 14, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'The Wit and Wisdom of Lee Kuan Yew' by Lee Kuan Yew (ISBN 9789814385282) Leaders are assessed through a nuanced blend of factors, primarily focusing on the long-term effects of their decisions. Their effectiveness is judged by the quality of their policy outcomes, the individuals they’ve mentored, and the culture they’ve cultivated. Naturally, these evaluations are subjective and can vary depending on personal perspectives, values, and historical contexts.

When Lee Kuan Yew began his eighth and final term as Singapore’s Prime Minister in 1988, he announced it would be his last, outlining his plans for the next two years before passing leadership to Goh Chok Tong. Lee also highlighted the significance of exit strategies and smooth transitions in evaluating political leaders. Watch a segment from his speech delivered on September 13, 1988.

Political leaders are judged first by how effectively they have exercised their authority in the interests of their people. Second, by the way in which they have provided for continuity so that a successor government will continue to protect and advance the interests of their people. Third, by the grace with which they leave office and hand over to their successors.

Lee Kuan Yew was a remarkable leader who, through visionary governance, turned Singapore from a struggling backwater into one of the world’s most affluent nations. Though he faced criticism for his strong-handed approach, his leadership will continue to be acclaimed for its vision, pragmatism, and enduring impact.

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How Smart People Undermine Their Success

July 1, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

How Smart People Undermine Their Success Intelligence is a double-edged sword: sure, it’s got its perks, but sometimes it trips up even the brainiest of folks. Brainiacs may find themselves falling short of their goals due to inadvertently undermining their own efforts. Making it big in most jobs needs more than just smarts.

Bright minds often view their success as inevitable, sometimes overlooking the importance of other skills. For example, they may dismiss workplace diplomacy as an annoyance rather than recognizing its importance. No matter how tactful they are, their braininess can still put a damper on slower teammates. They get antsy dealing with processes and people who are not on their level. They might choose to work solo, thinking they can get things done faster that way. Additionally, they may be less receptive to feedback, especially when they feel confident in their approach.

Focusing solely on what you’re good at, especially if it’s brains, can backfire big time if you ignore your weak spots. Seek a caring mentor who can clue you in on how people see you, dial down that ego, and adjust your expectations—try to become the respected star of the team, not the reviled know-it-all.

If you find yourself always toning down your smarts to fit in, maybe it’s time to find a workplace where they actually dig your brainpower. Look for employers who value intellect, such as think tanks, universities, investment banking firms, law and consulting companies, and professions where they’re all about flexing those mental muscles.

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The Deceptive Power of False Authority: A Case Study of Linus Pauling’s Vitamin C Promotion

May 2, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment


The Allure of the Famous Word

The Deceptive Power of False Authority: A Case Study of Linus Pauling's Vitamin C Promotion In the 1970s and 1980s, Linus Pauling, the American chemist with not one but two Nobel Prizes to his name, started championing the extraordinary potential of mega-doses of Vitamin C (ascorbic acid) as a wide-ranging panacea—a solution to a myriad of ailments, in fact—from the common cold to cancer and even heart disease.

The world of medicine and science didn’t greet Pauling’s bold claims with open arms. Skepticism abounded, and rightly so. The reason? A scarcity of compelling scientific evidence to bolster his audacious assertions. Leading medical institutions turned a critical eye toward his ideas, raising ethical red flags. They feared that people might be swayed to forgo established medical treatments based solely on the strength of a seemingly authoritative endorsement of Pauling.

This controversy is a classic case in point of a brilliant person daring to traverse the boundaries of his expertise, venturing into unqualified territories. While a handful of studies explored the potential benefits, a universally accepted scientific consensus on the effectiveness of high-dose Vitamin C for these purposes remained frustratingly elusive. And even today, Pauling’s views on Vitamin C’s health benefits continue to spark fierce debates.

Truth Demands a Deeper Call

Make no mistake; Linus Pauling was a luminary in the realm of chemistry, but his credentials didn’t extend to the domain of medicine. This tale serves as a reminder that intelligence and judgment are not always cut from the same cloth. While Pauling’s claims may hold water in the world of chemistry, blindly accepting his assertions on Vitamin C would lead us down a path of fallacy – the “false appeal to authority,” or “Argument from Authority,” also known as “Argumentum ad Verecundiam.”

Celebrity endorsements, expert testimonies, and references to popular figures in non-expert fields can be a deceptive trap for those who unquestionably trust the statements of authorities. The assumption that truth is inherent in the words of a prominent figure, regardless of solid evidence or sound reasoning, undermines critical evaluation and neglects the necessity for substantial support.

Idea for Impact: Brilliance in one arena doesn’t guarantee infallibility across the board. Approach “expert” opinions with a critical eye, assessing them within the context of the evidence and rationale that underpin the argument. In the quest for understanding, always judge each assertion on its own merits. Context matters.

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The Trouble with Accusing Someone of Virtue Signaling

October 30, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The Trouble with Accusing Someone of Virtue Signaling The pejorative culture-wars phrase ‘virtue signaling’ has become an ad hominem scorn—a shoddy substitute for intelligently addressing the substance of the argument you’re purportedly discussing.

If you declare somebody is ‘virtue signaling’ when you have an ideological disagreement with them, you’re probably more interested in making groundless and unfalsifiable speculation about their motives. You’re unhesitatingly framing their intellectual or emotional foray as an act of narcissism. (Paradoxically, wielding the term sometimes serves as virtue signaling in itself. You’re pleading a moral high ground by calling out virtue signaling.)

You can’t rebut a person’s subjective position merely by discrediting that person or dismissing their opinions as grandstanding. You can’t denigrate people’s motives without speaking to their argument. Even if you think someone is likely virtue-signaling, keeping your speculation to a minimum is better.

Idea for Impact: Don’t judge the motives of others. It rarely helps to respond to a conflict by indicting them of a personal sin that is internal and, therefore, inscrutable to anyone else.

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Expanding the Narrative: Servant Leadership beyond Christianity

August 21, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

During the 1970s, Robert Greenleaf, an executive at AT&T, began popularizing a concept that challenged the idea of a heroic leader. He advocated for leaders who embraced humility and empowered their followers to lead.

According to Greenleaf, great leaders see themselves as servants first, and this fundamental understanding sets them apart. He taught, “Servant leadership begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions.”

Interestingly, this notion of “leader as a servant” aligns closely with the principles and teachings found in Christian scriptures, where Jesus Christ is often regarded as the ultimate example of a servant leader. Jesus exemplified humility, compassion, and selflessness in his interactions with others. In the Gospel of Mark, he declared, “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45, NIV.)

While Christianity inspires its leaders to emulate the servant leadership model by prioritizing people, valuing service, and fulfilling their role as stewards, it is essential to note that servant leadership is not exclusive to Christianity. The concept can be found in other religious traditions as well. For instance, even the Śvētāmbara Jain Jñātādharmakathāḥ Sūtra (“Stories of Knowledge and Righteousness”) monastic texts contain elements of servant leadership.

In a past life, the monk Megha was an elephant. Frightened by a forest fire, he created a clearing to provide refuge when the fire next hit. He rushed to the clearing with all the other animals during a future fire. At one stage, he lifted his foot to scratch himself, and when he came to put it down again, he saw that a hare had squeezed into the space. So he stood on three legs for the entire duration of the fire — several days — and as a result, he fell over and died. This exceptionally compassionate act resulted in a human rebirth.

The Mahākapi Jātaka relates Buddha-to-be on his Bodhisattva path:

The story runs that the Bodhisattva was born as a monkey, ruler of over 80,000 monkeys. They lived near the Ganges and ate the fruit of a great mango tree. King Brahmadatta of Benares, desiring to possess the mangoes, surrounded the tree with his soldiers to kill the animals, but the Bodhisattva formed a bridge over the stream with his own body and, by this means, enabled the whole tribe to escape into safety.

Devadatta, the jealous and wicked cousin of the Buddha, was one of the monkeys in that life and, thinking it was a good chance to destroy his enemy, jumped on the Bodhisattva’s back and broke his heart.

The king, seeing the good deed of the Bodhisattva and repenting of his own attempt to kill him, tended to him with great care when he was dying and afterward gave him royal obsequies.

Servant leadership goes beyond any specific faith and encompasses a broader philosophy of putting others and organizations before oneself. It emphasizes the importance of valuing and prioritizing the interests and well-being of others. As the apostle Paul wrote in his letter to the Philippians, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3-4, NIV.)

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Avoid Trigger Words: Own Your Words with Grace and Care

August 3, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Using phrases like “you should,” “you never,” and “you’re supposed to” can immediately put the other person on the defensive.

  • When making statements, it’s better to begin with “I feel” or “I’d like.” By using “I” statements, nobody can argue with the fact that you feel a certain way.
  • Take responsibility for your words. Instead of protesting with phrases like “Don’t be late as usual,” which only reinforce complaints, try inviting positive change by saying, “It would be helpful for me if you could arrive early tonight, maybe by six.”
  • Saying “I don’t care” or “You choose” might not make you seem pleasant and agreeable. The other person may resent being forced to make decisions on your behalf.
  • Phrases like “I hate to be a pain, but…” or “I could be wrong, but…” undermine your request before you even make it.
  • Saying “I know” can make you appear irritating, self-important, or unreceptive. Instead, using “You’re right” doesn’t belittle something the other person may have just realized. “Yes, that’s on my mind!” acknowledges the other person’s reminder.
  • If someone apologizes anxiously, don’t say, “Stop saying sorry.” Instead, saying, “You have nothing to apologize for,” is more reassuring and won’t make the other person feel awkward.

Idea for Impact: Using direct and concise language strengthens the message and clarifies your needs. Be mindful of language that may unintentionally cause offense, distress, or discomfort to others. Prioritizing empathy and open-mindedness can contribute to maintaining respectful and inclusive conversations.

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Beware of the Leadership Trap: Losing Moral Bearings

July 18, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Some leaders fall into a dangerous trap, succumbing to temptations along their paths. These leaders deviate from their ethical responsibilities and shield themselves from fair criticism, considering themselves exempt from the rules. Such behavior can stem from an inflated ego or narcissism, a lack of self-awareness, a fear of vulnerability, or an intense emotional attachment to their ideas or beliefs.

These leaders often operate within a culture of flattery, where disagreement is seen as disloyalty, and no one dares to challenge or bring attention to issues within the organization. The leader’s circle of enablers grows as time passes, making honest dialogue impossible.

Idea for Impact: Steer clear of these pitfalls by establishing a clear “inner compass”—your values and priorities that revolve around serving a purpose. Live by these values, advocate for them, and ensure they are deeply ingrained in the fabric of your team.

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