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Don’t Do the Easiest Jobs First

January 15, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Eat that Frog; How to get your working day off to a good start Yes, it’s hard to hit the ground running in the morning. It’s tempting to mark easy tasks off your to-do list—switching over your laundry or checking email in a few minutes, but you never stop there. The sense of accomplishment you’ll get from such small things usually never builds up.

Small tasks may make you feel as if you’re being super-productive, but when you start your working day with such a laid-back approach, it’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of avoiding demanding, complicated tasks. When you reach the end of the day, you’ll find you’ve not achieved anything substantial at all—just a lot of ‘stuff’ that won’t make much difference. Tackling your easiest tasks first won’t build confidence for the harder ones.

In his bestselling book Eat That Frog! : 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (2001,) self-help author Brian Tracy recommends taking on the most challenging task first—the large, hideous frog. Your frog is almost certainly the task you’re most likely to put on the back burner, but it’ll also have the greatest impact.

If you want to trick your brain into getting started, use my 10-Minute Dash Technique to launch that first step of the ‘frog’ that’s the toughest. Within 10 minutes, you’ll find that getting started and feeling good about your progress means it’s easy to build momentum. Seemingly difficult tasks get easier once you get working on them. That’s how you lower the threshold for taking action and building momentum. When you’ve accomplished a high-impact ‘frog,’ you can power through the rest of the day knowing that your most important task has been achieved.

Idea for Impact: Unleash your productivity potential. Don’t fill your day with small things that add up. Yes, you can move over the laundry in a few minutes, but don’t stop there.

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Inspirational Quotations #1032

January 14, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

As on a heap of rubbish cast upon the highway the lily will grow full of sweet perfume and delight, thus the disciple of the truly enlightened Buddha shines forth by his knowledge among those who are like rubbish, among the people that walk in darkness.
—The Dhammapada (Buddhist Anthology of Verses)

It is as absurd to argue men, as to torture them, into believing.
—John Henry Newman (British Theologian, Poet)

Every time you confront something painful, you are at a potentially important juncture in your life—you have the opportunity to choose healthy and painful truth or unhealthy but comfortable delusion.
—Ray Dalio (American Investor)

There is nothing else that so kills the ambitions of a person as criticism from superiors. I never criticize anyone. I believe in giving a person incentive to work. So I am anxious to praise but loath to find fault. If I like anything, I am hearty in my appreciation and lavish in my praise.
—Charles M. Schwab (American Businessperson)

The flood of money that gushes into politics today is a pollution of democracy.
—Theodore H. White (American Journalist)

In order to get rich you do not need a “sweet hour of prayer;” you need to “pray without ceasing.” And by prayer I mean holding steadily to your vision, with the purpose to cause its creation into solid form, and the faith that you are doing so.
—Wallace Wattles (American New Thought Author)

Fashion is made to become unfashionable.
—Coco Chanel (French Fashion Designer)

Proverbs are short sentences drawn from long experience.
—Miguel de Cervantes (Spanish Novelist)

A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.
—Winston Churchill (British Head of State)

Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in “Yes, I made a bad choice,” but as in “How does this choice reflect my values?”
—Warren Farrell (American Educator, Activist)

The task of worrying is to come up with positive solutions for life’s perils by anticipating dangers before they arise. If we are preoccupied by worries, we have that must less attention to expend on figuring out the answers. Our worries become self-fulfilling prophecies, propelling us toward the very disaster they predict.
—Daniel Goleman (American Psychologist, Author)

It appears to me that almost any man may like the spider spin from his own inwards his own airy citadel.
—John Keats (English Poet)

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Don’t Try to ‘Make Up’ for a Missed Workout, Here’s Why

January 11, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Why You Shouldn't 'Make Up' for a Missed Workout Fitness enthusiasts adhering to a training plan often grapple with the guilt of missing a workout. The temptation to compensate by intensifying the next session or sneaking in extra exercise on a designated rest day can be counterproductive.

Sustainable progress, not desperate measures, is the key to achieving fitness goals. Trying to make up for missed workouts risks injuries, overexertion, and excessive fatigue, ultimately undermining your training efforts.

Overtraining without adequate recovery hinders progress. Sometimes, it’s wiser to let go of a missed workout, as a single session won’t determine your overall success. By releasing the burden of guilt, you can shift your focus towards establishing a sustainable fitness routine.

Life’s unpredictability means it’s okay to recalibrate your expectations and prioritize consistency over perfection.

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5 Reasons Why You Should “Go For It”

January 8, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Rather than wallowing, hesitating, and wasting time agonizing over choices, it’s crucial to take action:

  1. Escape comfort’s embrace; you’ll have more to gain and less to lose.
  2. Life’s brevity echoes with unspoken desires. Dreams find their roots in uncharted territories.
  3. Unfettered by opinions, discover your inner strength. Pursuing your passions increases the likelihood of success.
  4. Embrace the journey, bidding doubts farewell. Love-driven pursuits pave the way to success. Adaptability allows for course corrections.
  5. Life’s treasures lie beyond the known; even in the worst case, a participation certificate awaits. The only things you will regret in the future are the things you don’t do today.

Idea for Impact: True greatness emerges through risk and venture.

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Inspirational Quotations #1031

January 7, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Spectacular achievement is always preceded by unspectacular preparation.
—Robert H. Schuller (American Televangelist, Author)

To teach a child an instrument without first giving him preparatory training and without developing singing, reading and dictating to the highest level along with the playing is to build upon sand.
—Zoltan Kodaly (Hungarian Composer)

Mindfulness gives you time. Time gives you choices. Choices, skillfully made, lead to freedom.
—Henepola Gunaratana (Sri Lankan Buddhist Monk)

Logic is a large drawer, containing some useful instruments, and many more that are superfluous. A wise man will look into it for two purposes, to avail himself of those instruments that are really useful, and to admire the ingenuity with which those that are not so, are assorted and arranged.
—Charles Caleb Colton (English Clergyman, Aphorist)

Our home joys are the most delightful earth affords, and the joy of parents in their children is the most holy joy of humanity. It makes their hearts pure and good, it lifts men up to their Father in heaven.
—Johann Heinrich Pestalozzi (Swiss Educator)

The true wealth of a nation consists not in the stored-up gold but in the intellectual and physical strength of its people.
—C. V. Raman (Indian Physicist)

It is safer to be a speculator than an investor in the sense that a speculator is one who runs risks of which he is aware and an investor is one who runs risks of which he is unaware.
—John Maynard Keynes (English Economist)

An anthill increases by accumulation. Medicine is consumed by distribution. That which is feared lessens by association. This is the thing to understand.
—Nagarjuna (Indian Buddhist Philosopher)

After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, and so on—have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear—what remains? Nature remains.
—Walt Whitman (American Poet)

When it comes to consideration of how to do well in running the city, which must proceed entirely through justice and soundness of mind.
—Protagoras (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

Perhaps 90 percent of its desires, psychologists say, are unconscious; in other words, many of our deepest commitments to symbols of security, power, and affection in the culture are rooted in desires that are absolutely impossible to achieve.
—Thomas Keating (American Trappist Monk)

The state is the great fictitious entity by which everyone seeks to live at the expense of everyone else.
—Frederic Bastiat (French Political Economist)

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Pitch Problems, Not Ideas

January 4, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Many teams impede innovation because they center innovation on ideas and not problems.

Ideas make people rush to solutions—problems make people identify with them and commiserate. Ideas are easier to kill; problems aren’t.

When you anchor a proposal in a truly great problem, you’ll find that colleagues are more likely to build on it rather than attempt to destroy it. Problems promote listening and building reciprocal trust.

Idea for Impact: Innovation should be centered on problems, not ideas.

Encourage everyone to pitch problems, not firm proposals.

Sell the problem, and you’ll get less resistance.

As I’ve mentioned previously, the best marketing minds work on creating a customer—previously unaware of a problem, the customer becomes interested in considering the opportunity and finally acts upon it.

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Busyness is a State of Mind

January 2, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Busyness is a State of Mind Refrain from judging how busy you are based on how much you must do. When there are too many things to do, you feel busy, and when there isn’t much to do, you feel not busy at all.

Busyness is generally in the mind. It’s the feeling of being scattered about what you don’t have. You can only ever do one thing at a time, so when you claim you’re busy, you’re referring to all the distractions, regrets, apprehensions, fears, and uncertainties that keep your mind unsettled. Busyness is the mental clutter, meaning there’s scant space to think. An overwhelmed mindset can contribute to a sense of being overly busy, even in situations where the workload might be manageable.

Idea for Impact: Being busy is indeed a state of mind, not a state of affairs. When you get overwhelmed, ask yourself, “Am I actually busy, or does it just seem this way? The things I’m doing—and supposed to do—don’t inherently mean I have to keep believing I’m too busy.” Find your focus.

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Inspirational Quotations #1030

December 31, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

People are crying up the rich and variegated plumage of the peacock, and he is himself blushing at the sight of his ugly feet.
—Sa’Di (Musharrif Od-Din Muslih Od-Din) (Persian Poet)

Anxiety is the poison of human life; the parent of many sins and of more miseries.—In a world where everything is doubtful, and where we may be disappointed, and be blessed in disappointment, why this restless stir and commotion of mind?—Can it alter the cause, or unravel the mystery of human events?
—Hugh Blair (Scottish Minister, Scholar)

Before a thunderstorm there is a build-up of tension which is only relieved by the explosive force of thunder and lightning. In human affairs there must be a clear distinction between the penalties for small and great crimes. Retribution for wrongdoing must be swiftly and surely applied if greater problems are to be prevented.
—I Ching (Ancient Chinese Divination Text)

It is sure to be dark if you close your eyes.
—Swami Chinmayananda (Indian Hindu Spiritual Teacher)

Gratitude is a gracious acknowledgement of all that sustains us, a bow to our blessings, great and small. Gratitude is the confidence in life itself. In it, we feel how the same forces that pushes grass through cracks in the sidewalk invigorates our own life.
—Jack Kornfield (American Buddhist Teacher, Author)

Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.
—The Holy Bible (Scripture in the Christian Faith)

Reason in man is rather like God in the world.
—Thomas Aquinas (Italian Catholic Priest)

Among the virtues and vices that make up the British character, we have one vice, at least, that Americans ought to view with sympathy. For they appear to be the only people who share it with us. I mean our worship of the antique. I do not refer to beauty or even historical association. I refer to age, to a quantity of years.
—William Golding (English Novelist)

Love thy neighbor as thyself: Do not to others what thou wouldst not wish be done to thyself: Forgive injuries. Forgive thy enemy, be reconciled to him, give him assistance, invoke God in his behalf.
—Confucius (Chinese Philosopher)

Inspiration is needed in geometry, just as much as in poetry.
—Alexander Pushkin (National Poet of Russia)

If one looks with a cold eye at the mess man has made of history, it is difficult to avoid the conclusion that he has been afflicted by some built-in mental disorder which drives him towards self-destruction.
—Arthur Koestler (British Writer, Journalist)

Curiosity is the one thing invincible in Nature.
—Freya Stark (British Explorer, Writer)

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December 28, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

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The Two Best Employee Engagement Questions. How actively do you engage in enhancing your responsibilities, and does your workplace actively seek your input for improvements? To what extent do the processes you work with support your success in your role?

Listening Is Not Just Waiting to Talk. When we pretend to listen while internally rehearsing our response—crafting a counterargument,—we fail to genuinely grasp the speaker’s message, overlooking its nuances and subtleties.

A Daily Appointment with Your Worries. Schedule specific 15- to 30-minute “Worry Time” slots on your calendar to limit and make your worries more productive, encouraging active problem-solving and preventing constant rumination throughout the day.

The Shoichi Yokoi Fallacy. Japanese soldier Shoichi Yokoi hid in Guam for 28 years, clinging to his identity and principles, but ultimately sacrificed his life as unwavering adherence to ideals turned into a vice.

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Conflict Hack: Acknowledging Isn’t Agreeing

December 25, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Conflict Hack: Acknowledging Isn't Agreeing In disagreements and conflicts, a common blunder is mistaking acknowledgment for agreement.

Recognizing someone’s emotions doesn’t entail embracing their perspective or emotional response. For example, saying, “I understand your frustration with our communication,” differs substantially from affirming, “I agree that our communication is lacking,” or resorting to blame with phrases like, “You should communicate better.”

Deep down, we all yearn for acknowledgment as rational beings, even when our actions might suggest otherwise. Neglecting to acknowledge someone’s feelings can further intensify conflicts, pushing them to raise their voices and intensify their agitation in a quest for recognition when they sense they’re not being heard.

Idea for Impact: Acknowledgment, an expression of empathy without judgment, is a mark of respect that has the power to disarm conflicts. It’s the initial step on the path to conflict resolution.

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