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Inspirational Quotations #264

March 25, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
—Arthur Schopenhauer (German Philosopher)

I recommend you to take care of the minutes, for the hours will take care of themselves.
—Earl of Chesterfield

Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man’s superiority to all that befalls him.
—Romain Gary (French Diplomat)

Everything should be made as simple as possible, but no simpler.
—Albert Einstein (German-born Theoretical Physicist)

Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
—Oliver Goldsmith (Irish Author)

For those who have seen the earth from space, and for the hundreds and perhaps thousands more who will, the experience most certainly changes your perspective. The things that we share in our world are far more valuable than those which divide us.
—Donald E. Williams

Dream not for yourself but dream for those whom you love and care for. For in every dream that this goal is realized, more dreams will follow; dreams truly meant especially for you.
—Oliver Juanir

Let each hour of the day have its allotted duty, and cultivate that power of concentration which grows with its exercise … .
—William Osler (Canadian Physician)

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How to Overcome Shyness in Initiating Conversations

March 24, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

Uneasiness in Striking up Conversations

The introverts among us do not like being the center of attention and the life of parties. We prefer small get-togethers with a selected group of familiar friends. We have a tendency to shy away from interacting with new people.

We introverts are not very comfortable with small talk. We would rather choose meaningful conversations about a variety of topics that are closer to our hearts. Consequently, we are likely to find it difficult to strike up conversations in social gatherings, parties, and meetings.

Assuming Rapport

The Positivity Blog discusses a simple and effective technique to help initiate conversations. In essence, as opposed to initiating a conversation with uneasiness, act as if you are meeting one of your best friends. The resulting assurance will ease up the anxiety and help initiate and pursue a conversation with new people. In addition, the ensuing poise results in a more forthcoming body language.

I have adopted this technique to better myself in presentations and speeches, meeting new people at work and play, and overcome my own introversion to the extent that now people often label me as being talkative.

Pursuing Conversations

Here are a few more suggestions to help introverts get more comfortable in social gatherings.

  • Ask to be introduced. Ask your host or a fellow-attendee to introduce you to the other guests by citing common interests. This will help you connect with other guests over the topic of common interest and pursue a conversation more effortlessly.
  • Interact with other introverts. Surveys suggest that 60% of people tend to be introverts. You could identify like-minded folk through their shy body language, approach them, and introduce yourself to them.
  • Connect with extroverts. Extroverts like meeting people, enjoy interactions, and love introducing people to one another. Being around extroverts can help overcome some initial difficulty with starting conversations and engaging in small talk in unfamiliar social situations.
  • Learn and practice the art of small talk. Most people are enthusiastic about sharing their stories. Favorite sports, travel destinations, kids, opinions of celebrities, movies and other current events make great conversation starters. Steer away from conversations on social or economic status, health, faith, and other personal details. Watch for gestures of discomfort when you ask questions.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Personality, Social Skills

Inspirational Quotations #263

March 17, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

It is the principle of the pure in heart never to injure others, even when they themselves have been hatefully injured. Hating others, even enemies who harmed you unprovoked, assures incessant sorrow.
—Thirukkural

There will be times in life when impossibility is felt, but then there are dreams—and dreams allow us possibility.
—Jeffrey David Lang

We must dare to be happy, and dare to confess it, regarding ourselves always as the depositories, not as the authors of our own joy.
—Henri Frederic Amiel (Swiss Philosopher)

The life that conquers is the life that moves with a steady resolution and persistence toward a predetermined goal. Those who succeed are those who have thoroughly learned the immense importance of plan in life, and the tragic brevity of time.
—W. J. Davison

Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving wordy evidence of the fact.
—George Eliot (Mary Anne Evans) (English Novelist)

It is much more comfortable to be mad and know it, than to be sane and have one’s doubts.
—G. B. Burgin

Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.
—Samuel Johnson (British Essayist)

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look at fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along”. You must do the think you think you cannot do.”
—Eleanor Roosevelt (American First Lady)

Anxiety and distress, interrupted occasionally by pleasure, is the normal course of man’s existence.
—Joseph Wood Krutch (American Writer)

The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds, and the pessimist fears this is true.
—James Branch Cabell

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Inspirational Quotations #262

March 8, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Everyone is a genius at least once a year; a real genius has his original ideas closer together.
—Georg Christoph Lichtenberg (German Scientist)

Now there are a couple of other things that are essential for innovation and invention that are not as fun. One of them is you have to have a willingness to fail. You have to have a willingness to be misunderstood for long periods of time.
—Jeff Bezos (American Businessman)

When there is no moon, you go by the stars.
—African Proverb

So long as millions live in hunger and ignorance, I hold every person a traitor who, having been educated at their expense, pays not the least heed to them.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

Those who gave thee a body, furnished it with weakness; but He who gave thee Soul, armed thee with resolution. Employ it, and thou art wise; be wise and thou art happy.
—Akhenaten (Egyptian Monarch)

We might remind ourselves that criticism is as inevitable as breathing, and that we should be none the worse for articulating what passes in our minds when we read a book and feel an emotion about it, for criticizing our own minds in their work of criticism.
—T. S. Eliot (American-born British Poet)

Stand up, be bold, be strong. Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders, and know that you are the creator of your own destiny. All the strength and succor you want is within yourselves. Therefore, make your own future.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

When in prayer you clasp your hands, God opens His.
—German Proverb

To speak kindly does not hurt the tongue.
—Common Proverb

Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.
—Henry David Thoreau (American Philosopher)

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The Eight Guiding Principles of Successful Investors

March 7, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Eight guiding principles for successful investing in personal finance

“Success in investing doesn’t correlate with I.Q. once you’re above the level of 25. Once you have ordinary intelligence, what you need is the temperament to control the urges that get other people into trouble in investing.”
* Warren Buffett

I have invested in stock markets since I was sixteen. Largely, I have been quite a successful investor, if you disregard the current slump in the financial markets. Over the years, primarily though my mistakes, I have learnt several invaluable lessons that have shaped my personal investing philosophy. Here is a summary.

  1. Do not invest money you cannot afford to lose. Know your limitations and own a mix of asset classes that are just right for you. Understand your ability to tolerate the hurts of losing money.
  2. Personal finance » Buying a stock is the easy part. Knowing when to sell is difficult. Buying a stock is the easy part. Knowing when to sell, especially in the case of hot stocks, is challenging. Do ample research before buying stocks or mutual funds. Establish a few criteria for selling and have the discipline to sell when a stock meets your criteria.
  3. Invest; do not speculate. You cannot try to outsmart the market by trying to time the market or day trade. You cannot be right on every trade and every stock that you lay hands on—research has shown that even the best investors are right in about five of every eight stock purchases.
  4. Do not fret about missing an opportunity. Opportunities abound in every market—bull or bear, short-term or long-term.
  5. Do your own research. Stock research is indeed hard work, yet indispensable. Monitor stocks frequently. Pay attention to price-to-earning ratio (PE,) price-to-earning-to-growth ratio (PEG,) revenues and cash flow. Learn how to read company balance sheets and other financial statements.
  6. Follow each company’s fundamentals carefully. Consider vital changes to the company’s operations, competitive landscapes, and industry prospects. Pay attention to macro-economic factors that may influence the industry.
  7. Financial markets » Be skeptical of too much optimism and hype. Be skeptical of too much optimism and hype. Do not pursue past performance and buy a stock or mutual fund, possibly after a period of high returns. Watch out for stock analysts and investment advisors touting stocks after good news and playing down stocks that have already fallen. Understand that financial advisors may promote mutual funds that pay them high commissions and not necessarily get better returns for you.
  8. Never lose sleep over your investments. Never let your emotions guide your investments transactions. Money is, after all, not the most important thing in your life.

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Inspirational Quotations #261

March 2, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Life is a language in which certain truths are conveyed to us; if we could learn them in some other way, we should not live.
—Arthur Schopenhauer (German Philosopher)

Ignore the people who tell you it won’t work, and hire people who embrace your vision.
—Michael Dell (American Businessperson)

Most people would sooner die than think; in fact, they do so.
—Bertrand A. Russell (British Philosopher)

Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well, too.
—Joseph Storey

Write injuries in sand, kindnesses in marble.
—French Proverb

Even the greatest fool can accomplish a task if it were after his or her heart. But the intelligent ones are those who can convert every work into one that suits their taste.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

However we may receive blows, and however knocked about we may be, the Soul is there and is never injured. We are that Infinite.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?
—Henry David Thoreau (American Philosopher)

The important thing is this: to be able, at any moment, to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.
—Charles Frederic Dubois

Many men owe the grandeur of their lives to their tremendous difficulties.
—Charles Spurgeon (British Baptist Preacher)

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Inspirational Quotations #260

February 22, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

To be a star, you must shine your own light, follow your own path, and don’t worry about the darkness, for that is when the stars shine brightest.
—Unknown

Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative.
—Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet)

Thou shalt not separate thy being from being, and the rest, but merge the ocean in the deep, the drop within the ocean.
—Helena Blavatsky (Ukrainian-born American Theosophist)

Follow the three Rs:|Respect for self,|Respect for others and|Responsibility for all your actions.
—The 14th Dalai Lama (Tibetan Buddhist Religious Leader)

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.
—Paul Boese

First you get on, then you get honest, then you get honors.
—Lew Wasserman

You should have the determination of a bumble-bee—aerodynamics says it cannot fly, but still it flies.
—A. P. J. Abdul Kalam (Indian Head of State, Scientist)

In any contest between power and patience, bet on patience.
—W. B. Prescott

Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain always cool and unruffled under all circumstances.
—Thomas Jefferson (American Head of State)

A quarrel is quickly settled when deserted by one party: there is no battle unless there be two.
—Seneca the Younger (Lucius Annaeus Seneca) (Roman Philosopher)

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Inspirational Quotations #259

February 15, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

By cultivating the beautiful we scatter the seeds of heavenly flowers, as by doing good we cultivate those that belong to humanity.
—John Howard

There are two kinds of truth, small truth and great truth. You can recognize a small truth because its opposite is a falsehood. The opposite of a great truth is another truth.
—Niels Bohr (Danish Physicist)

Good, the more communicated, more abundant grows.
—John Milton (English Poet)

If we did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.
—Thomas Edison (American Inventor)

It has become appallingly obvious that our technology has exceeded our humanity.
—Albert Einstein (German-born Theoretical Physicist)

To some extent, while we think we are simply driving to work every morning to earn a living, the soul knows it is secretly engaged in a life-or-death struggle for its existence.
—David Whyte

There are trivial truths and the great truths. The opposite of a trivial truth is plainly false. The opposite of a great truth is also true.
—Niels Bohr (Danish Physicist)

Be a hero. Always say, “I have no fear.” Tell this to everyone—“Have no fear.”
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

He restrains his friend from committing sins, and induces him to do good deeds. He conceals the unseemly secrets of a friend, projecting only his good qualities. He does not desert his friend in difficulties, but gives timely assistance. Saints describe these as the characteristics of a true friend.
—Subhashita Manjari

If our thoughts and hopes are elsewhere, it is impossible for us to set our faces steadily toward the work required of us.
—Anonymous

You can’t think of risks. I have nothing to lose. You either make something that you like, or you don’t, and you throw it to the universe.
—Mike Myers

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Systems-Thinking as a Trait for Career Success

February 12, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

In this Fast Company article, Gary Flake, Director of Live Labs at Microsoft identifies Systems Thinking as an important trait for career success.

There are three traits that will serve anyone wanting any role at any company, not just ours: systems thinking, passion, and clear communication. Systems thinking is a way of looking at the world that allows you to see how many small pieces come together to make a more complex whole. System thinkers see the hidden interconnections that bind together the parts and know how to make the best use of ambiguity and uncertainty as a result.

Gary’s reflection reiterates the importance of understanding context and perspective in our jobs. A previous blog article and a podcast discussed this indispensable trait for success.

Systems Thinking for a Big Picture Approach

From an early age, we’re taught to break apart problems in order to make complex tasks and subjects easier to deal with. But this creates a bigger problem . . . we lose the ability to see the consequences of our actions, and we lose a sense of connection to a larger whole.
* Peter Senge

Traditional methods of problem analysis concentrate on dividing problems into smaller, more comprehensible components. The drawback of understanding isolated or unrelated elements, functions, and events is that the effects of changes to one element on other elements of the whole are rarely considered.

In contrast, the discipline of Systems Thinking emphasizes analyzing the whole in terms of interrelationships of its elements. Examining structures, relationships, and outcomes facilitates taking into account any secondary consequences of decisions and actions pertaining individual elements.

We work in increasingly connected organizations where an event that affects one part of an organization is likely to have a meaningful effect–in the short-term or the long-term–on another part of the organization. The discipline of Systems Thinking enables us to develop a broader, holistic perspective of problems and opportunities in businesses and make effective decisions.

Resources, References

Over the last couple of decades, System Thinking has evolved into a formal discipline and has incorporated several rigorous analysis techniques. Here are two excellent resources to help you gain more knowledge of these methods.

  • The ‘Thinking’ in Systems Thinking: Seven Essential Skills, Barry Richmond
  • The Fifth Discipline: The Art and Practice of the Learning Organization, Peter Senge

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Pretending to Know-it-All and Failing to Admit Ignorance

February 8, 2009 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Often, professionals suppose that being considered smart, intelligent, or “on top of things” implies presenting themselves with much self-confidence, and requiring knowing everything. Consequently, they tend to force themselves to pretend to “know it all” and hesitate to respond with an “I don’t know.” When superiors, peers, or employees ask tough questions, they habitually fail to admit their ignorance and force some misguided answer out of themselves.

Think about it: having to know all the answers can actually be quite stressful. It drives professionals to think incessantly about potential challenges, risks, and outcomes. The constant pressure to be “on guard” can steer them towards supposing the worst.

“I Don’t Know; Let me Find Out” is a Perfectly Acceptable Answer

Effective professionals recognize that perfection, flawlessness, and other superlatives are often masks. They acknowledge what they do not know and promise to follow up in proper time and get the right answers. Rather than losing their standing, they gain the trust of their people.

Acknowledging that they do not have answers to all questions, releases professionals of unwarranted worry. This opens the door for others to assist with relevant inputs and promotes good judgment.

There is a downside, however, to repeatedly admitting not knowing many things. A professional is expected to be knowledge about all the essential aspects of her job and explicate all the relevant data to drive her decisions. Where the organization depends on her to know the answers to certain questions, any hints to heedlessness, neglect, or oblivion can weigh down her standing within her organization.

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