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Inspirational Quotations #343

September 26, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Look up and not down, look forward and not back, look out and not in, and lend a hand!
—Edward Everett Hale (American Unitarian Clergyman)

So much of our time is spent in preparation, so much in routine, and so much in retrospect, that the amount of each person’s genius is confined to a very few hours.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (American Philosopher)

No man is quick enough to enjoy life to the full.
—Spanish Proverb

That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.
—Emily Dickinson (American Poet)

The word ”Christianity” is already a misunderstanding—in reality there has been only one Christian, and he died on the Cross.
—Friedrich Nietzsche (German Philosopher, Scholar)

Enjoy yourself–it’s later than you think.
—Chinese Proverb

Catch, then, oh catch the transient hour;|Improve each moment as it flies!|Life’s a short summer, man a flower;|He dies – alas! how soon he dies.
—Samuel Johnson (British Essayist)

Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think.
—Chinese Proverb

Be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead.
—Scottish Proverb

We’re fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance.
—Japanese Proverb

Fear not that thy life shall come to an end, but rather fear that it shall never have a beginning.
—John Henry Newman (British Catholic Clergyman)

Use your health, even to the point of wearing it out. That is what it is for. Spend all you have before you die; do not outlive yourself.
—George Bernard Shaw (Irish Playwright)

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Inspirational Quotations #342

September 19, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Tears are the silent language of grief.
—Voltaire (French Philosopher)

Good things, when short, are twice as good.
—Baltasar Gracian

Happiness seems to require a modicum of external prosperity.
—Aristotle (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

It is not the magnitude of the task that matters, it is the magnitude of our courage that counts.
—Matthieu Ricard (French Buddhist Monk)

Few of us write great novels; all of us live them.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

The greatest crimes are caused by surfeit, not by want.
—Aristotle (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

To add a library to a house is to give that house a soul.
—Cicero (Roman Philosopher)

I find four great classes of students: The dumb who stay dumb. The dumb who become wise. The wise who go dumb. The wise who remain wise.
—Martin H. Fischer

I’d rather be a few pounds heavier and enjoy life than be worried all the time.
—Drew Barrymore (American Actor)

I am coming to feel that the people of ill will have used time much more effectively than the people of goodwill. We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people. We must come to see that human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability. It comes through the tireless efforts and persistent work of men willing to be co-workers with God, and without this hard work time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation. We must use time creatively, and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right. Now is the time to make real the promise of democracy, and transform our pending national elegy into a creative psalm of brotherhood. Now is the time to lift our national policy from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of human dignity.
—Martin Luther King, Jr. (American Civil Rights Leader)

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Inspirational Quotations #341

September 12, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Just as clouds form, last for a while, and then dissolve back into the empty sky, so deluded thoughts arise, remain for a while and then vanish in the voidness of mind; in reality nothing at all has happened.
—Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche (Tibetan Buddhist Religious Leader)

The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success.
—Bruce Feirstein

An earnest purpose finds time, or makes it. It seizes on spare moments, and turns fragments to golden account.
—William Ellery Channing

The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do.
—Sarah Ban Breathnach

The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.
—Bede Jarrett

I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked, and being really good all the time. That would be hypocrisy.
—Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet)

Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.
—L. Ron Hubbard (American Scientologist Religious Leader)

A good style should show no signs of effort. What is written should seem a happy accident.
—W. Somerset Maugham (French Playwright)

Oh! that you could turn your eyes towards the napes of your necks, and make but an interior survey of your good selves.
—William Shakespeare (British Playwright)

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.
—Hans Hofmann

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Inspirational Quotations #340

September 5, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
—Samuel Butler

Feel like Christ and you will be a Christ; feel like Buddha and you will be a Buddha. It is feeling that is the life, the strength, the vitality, without which no amount of intellectual activity can reach God.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
—Barack Obama (American Head of State)

As none can see the wind but in its effects on the trees, neither can we see the emotions but in their effects on the face and body.
—Nathaniel LeTonnerre

It is not the employer who pays the wages. He only handles the money. It is the product that pays the wages.
—Henry Ford (American Businessperson)

Courage can’t see around corners, but goes around them anyway.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

In your thirst for knowledge, be sure not to drown in all the information.
—Anthony J. D’Angelo

We catch frightful glimpses of ourselves in the hostile eyes of others.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

Riches have never fascinated me, unless combined with the greatest charm or distinction.
—F. Scott Fitzgerald (American Novelist)

It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It is that they can’t see the problem.
—G. K. Chesterton (English Journalist)

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Why Mergers Tend to Fail

August 31, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

Corporate mergers tend to fail because of conflicting corporate cultures

Many corporate mergers and acquisitions (M&As) fail to realize their wished-for synergies, and eventually fall short of producing value to the stakeholders. Some years ago, a KPMG survey estimated that 83 percent of all mergers fail to create value and half may actually destroy value.

M&As invariably produce disappointing results because of a variety of reasons. One of the principal reasons has to do with the failure of management to integrate successfully the operating cultures of the individual companies. During M&A deals, the due diligence processes tend to focus more on the corporate matters (market synergies, product or service offerings, financial projections, legal and regulatory matters, etc.) and overlook the organizational and cultural challenges.

Integrating Conflicting Corporate Cultures

Undoubtedly, the biggest barrier of post-merger integration is the conflicting corporate cultures of the individual companies. Management consultant Rick Maurer likens corporate mergers to the marriage of two single parents each with their own children—“just because mom and dad are so in love, they fail to see that the kids don’t get along.”

During a merger, two organizations with unique cultures cease to exist and a new organization is supposed to establish. The erstwhile individual organizations simply will not let go of the past and move on. In time, when the “stronger” partner tries to thrust its culture on the new combined organization, employees of the “weaker” partner resist change. This impairs cooperation among employees, as was case with AT&T’s unsuccessful acquisition of NCR in the early ’90s.

Forcing Employees to Mesh

Ill-fated Daimler-Chrysler merger suffered from cultural differences If cultural differences are far apart, the merged companies often fail to compromise and stick to a middle ground. The ill-fated Daimler-Chrysler merger suffered immensely from differences in the engineering and corporate cultures of the supposedly equal partners, Daimler-Benz and Chrysler Corporation, as well from differences in the national cultures of Germany and the United States. Within years of the merger, the dominance of the Daimler culture did not go well with employees in the United States. In December 2001, DaimlerChrysler CEO Jürgen Schrempp exclaimed, “What happened to the dynamic, can-do cowboy culture I bought”

Conflicting corporate cultures between US Airways and America West Combining two individual cultures and intricate administrative processes is very difficult to execute and manage successfully. Forcing employees to mesh behind the scenes is often ineffective because differences in organizational cultures are indiscernible to the top management. Take, for example, the merger of the Phoenix-based America West and Washington, D.C area-based US Airways in 2005. Many years into the merger, US Airways’s managers spoke of the “east side” (referring to the former US Airways) and the “west side” (referring to America West.) The unions continued to squabble over pilot seniority. Even though the company obtained a single operating certificate, two distinct cultures functioned internally resulting in poor employee morale, unhappy customers, and unpredictable financial performance.

Retaining Key Talent

Sagging morale and employee disorientation about job insecurity, company structure, seniority, decision-making processes, and promotion and growth opportunities often constitute another barrier to successful post-merger integration. Employees of the “weaker” partner or the acquired company tend to distrust the management of the “stronger” partner or the acquiring company. Fears of layoffs and new power equations in the merged entities often result in the exodus of key talent from the acquired company.

Forcing employees to mesh » why mergers fail

Engaging the Rank-and-file

“Human due diligence is every bit as important as financial due diligence. Ultimately, every deal will succeed or fail based on the collective efforts of the individuals who make it up.”
* David Harding

The success or failure of a merger results not from what happens at the top management level, but from what happens at the rank-and-file level. The importance of engaging the rank-and-file employees in the merger process and retaining key talent during the initial transition period cannot be overstated.

Recommended Resources

  • Bain consultant David Harding offers insights into M&A best practices in his book, “Mastering the Merger: Four Critical Decisions That Make or Break the Deal”
  • Wally Bock illustrates the importance of integrating corporate cultures with case studies from Chevron + Gulf Oil and HP + EDS
  • Carol Hymowitz’s WSJ article “In Deal-Making, Keep People in Mind” lists cultural problems that plagued other mergers

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Inspirational Quotations by Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (#339)

August 29, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Today is the 201st birthday of American physician, professor, lecturer, and author Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (August 29, 1809—October 7, 1894.)

Born in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and educated at Harvard, Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. briefly studied law before turning to the medical profession. As a teacher of medicine at Dartmouth and Harvard, he initiated and advocated far-reaching medical reforms. He is the father of the renowned American jurist and Civil War officer, Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

Throughout his life, Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. wrote poetry, novels, and essays. His peers, including Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, and James Russell Lowell, regarded Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. as one of the best writers of the 19th century. His most famous works include The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table (1858), The Professor of the Breakfast-Table (1860,) and The Poet of the Breakfast-Table (1872) and the biography of Ralph Waldo Emerson (1884.)

Inspirational Quotations by Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

Men are idolaters and want something to look at and kiss and hug, or throw themselves down before; they always did, they always will; and if you don’t make it out of wood, you must make it out of words.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

The sound of a kiss is not so loud as that of a cannon, but its echo lasts a deal longer.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

Knowledge and timber shouldn’t be much used, till they are seasoned.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

Laughter and tears are meant to turn the wheels of the same machinery of sensibility; one is wind-power, and the other water-power; that is all.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

Now habit is a labor-saving invention which enables a man to get along with less fuel.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

Be polite and generous, but don’t undervalue yourself. You will be useful, at any rate; you may just as well be happy, while you are about it.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

He must be a poor creature that does not often repeat himself. Imagine the author of the excellent piece of advice, “Know thyself,” never alluding to that sentiment again during the course of a protracted existence!
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

I talk half the time to find out my own thoughts, as a school-boy turns his pockets inside out to see what is in them. One brings to light all sorts of personal property he had forgotten in his inventory.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

A thought is often original, though you have uttered it a hundred times. It has come to you over a new route, by a new and express train of associations.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

Knowledge—it excites prejudices to call it science—is advancing as irresistibly, as majestically, as remorselessly as the ocean moves in upon the shore.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. (American Physician)

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The Nature of Worry

August 25, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

“When you stop to examine your thoughts you start to see that they have a life of their own, they come and go, generally in a random, idiosyncratic way. Recognizing the constancy of our endless thinking process is said to be one of the important early steps we take on the meditation path.”
—Bob Sharples, Do the Thoughts Ever Stop

Have you ever realized that most of your anticipated misfortunes never occur, that some of life’s difficult scenarios never come to pass, or that most of your worrying is ultimately fruitless and life goes on?

Below, I present a simple exercise to help you discover the lifecycle of worry. I encourage you to sit down at a quiet place, somewhere you can relax and reflect. If necessary, fetch yourself a journal, special notebook, or a piece of scratch paper.

Mindfulness Exercise

Consider a recent upheaval or stressful event. Go back in time and experience that moment for a minute. How do you feel? What preoccupies your mind?

Under the direct influence of your anguish, your mind is bewildered. You feel disoriented. Your mind is filled with apprehension. Bearing the burden of this stress, you cannot take your mind off the imagined ramifications. The wounds of your sorrow seem incurable.

Now, fast forward to a few days following the stressful event. What do you experience now? Your troubles no longer hold a grip on your life as before. You feel released from that moment’s immediate affliction. As you reflect the situation’s progress, you feel amazed by how your feelings have changed. What happened to the irreparable hardship?

Storms of Distress

Allow another interval of time to elapse. How do your feelings compare now? The original despair is diminished further. The event feels formless; your apprehensions are no longer recognizable. You may even find humor in your past misfortune.

A few days later, you are surprised by how easily these storms of distress passed. You wonder how these depressing emotions could have possessed you. The events are not undone and the external circumstances remain unchanged. What has changed is your mind’s condition?

Idea for Impact: “This too shall pass”

“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.”
—Benjamin Franklin

It is your mind that relates external circumstances to your internal being. Joy and sorrow, hopes and despairs, elation and desolation, pleasures and annoyances are nothing but outcomes of your sensibility. Outside forces are challenging to conquer—our control over the exterior world is narrow, and merely illusory. However, the evolution of your thoughts and feelings and your responses to distressing situations are within your power.

The next time you experience a hardship—a conflict, a distressing situation, or annoyance, recall what happened with your prior hardships. Recognize that everything happening in your external environment is but impermanent. Say to yourself, “This too shall pass.”

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Inspirational Quotations #338

August 22, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Leisure only means a chance to do other jobs that demand attention.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. (American Jurist)

While you cannot resolve what you are, at last you will be nothing.
—Martial (Ancient Roman Latin Poet)

Most men, after a little freedom, have preferred authority with the consoling assurances and the economy of effort which it brings.
—Walter Lippmann (American Journalist)

Presence is more than just being there.
—Malcolm Forbes (American Publisher)

Lying to yourself about specific actions is easier than re-defining the bounds of your imagined identity… When I see once-ethical men devolve into moral grey, they still identify as upstanding.
—Ben Casnocha (American Entrepreneur, Investor)

Channels are blocked in the mind, from the day. Lie down in blackness of night, forgotten remnants rush to the mind, or creeping slowly appear in the dreams.
—Nathaniel LeTonnerre

Most of us are aware of and pretend to detest the barefaced instances of that hypocrisy by which men deceive others, but few of us are upon our guard or see that more fatal hypocrisy by which we deceive and over-reach our own hearts.
—Laurence Sterne (Irish Anglican Novelist)

Do not value money for any more nor any less than its worth; it is a good servant but a bad master.
—Alexandre Dumas, fils

If wisdom and diamonds grew on the same tree we could soon tell how much men loved wisdom.
—Lemuel K. Washburn

Sickness comes on horseback and departs on foot.
—Dutch Proverb

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Inspirational Quotations #337

August 15, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Everybody’s 12 years old in an apple orchard.
—Rachael Ray (American TV Personality)

Happiness is often the result of being too busy to be miserable.
—Unknown

When looking back, usually I’m more sorry for the things I didn’t do than for the things I shouldn’t have done.
—Malcolm Forbes (American Publisher)

Take spring when it comes, and rejoice. Take happiness when it comes, and rejoice. Take love when it comes, and rejoice.
—Carl Anton Ewald

There is an objective reality out there, but we view it through the spectacles of our beliefs, attitudes, and values.
—David G. Myers

You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.
—Unknown

Whoever one is, and wherever one is, one is always in the wrong if one is rude.
—Maurice Baring

To fear is one thing. To let fear grab you by the tail and swing you around is another.
—Katherine Paterson (American Novelist)

A pure hand needs no glove to cover it.
—Nathaniel Hawthorne (American Novelist)

You’re not free until you’ve been made captive by supreme belief.
—Marianne Moore

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Anxious or stressed out? Try deep breathing for instant relief

August 10, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Anxiety and stress are the body and mind’s natural responses to anything that jeopardizes your sense of balance. Your nervous system releases cortisol, adrenaline and other stress hormones that make your heart beat faster, tense up muscles, rise blood pressure, and sharpen the senses to respond to physical or symbolic threats. Your breath becomes faster and shallower.

Deep diaphragmatic breathing: An obvious antidote to stress and anxiety

When you feel nervous, frazzled, overwhelmed or worried about something, try the following exercise:

  1. Sit quietly in a comfortable posture with your back straight.
  2. Release the tension in your face, jaw, neck, and shoulders.
  3. Softly close your eyes. Smile and relax. Breathe through your nose.
  4. Examine the inflow and outflow of air through your nostrils.
  5. Make a conscious effort to slow down the pace of your breath.
  6. Deepen your breathing by inhaling and exhaling more air. As you breathe deep into your lungs, flex your diaphragm, expand your belly, and feel the sensation of air filling up your lungs. Do not flex by flexing your chest. Exhale slowly.
  7. Repeat the inhale-slowly-exhale-slowly cycle five times.
  8. Reflect on how your mind is now more composed, stable and clear. Gently open your eyes.

Simple and powerful relaxation technique

Deep breathing from the diaphragm is easy to learn. It’s a technique you can practice anywhere, anytime to quickly get your anxiety in check.

Research has shown that deep breathing gets more oxygen into the brain and exercises the parts of the brain responsible for concentration and regulation of emotion. The brain regulates the release of stress hormones and reverses the symptoms of stress and anxiety. Your heart rate slows down and your muscles relax. Consequently, you can calm yourself down.

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Filed Under: Health and Well-being, Living the Good Life Tagged With: Balance, Emotions

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