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Inspirational Quotations #1092

March 9, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi

A being afire with life cannot foresee death; in fact, by each of his deeds he denies that death exists.
—Marguerite Yourcenar (French Writer)

The foundation of true joy is in the conscience.
—Seneca the Younger (Lucius Annaeus Seneca) (Roman Stoic Philosopher)

In the corporate world, if you have analysts, due diligence, and no horse sense, you’ve just described hell.
—Charlie Munger (American Investor, Philanthropist)

Hope against hope, and ask till ye receive.
—James Montgomery (Scottish Poet, Journalist)

If results are our goal, they must also be our test.
—Peter Drucker (Austrian-born Management Consultant)

I don’t want to work. I want to smoke.
—Guillaume Apollinaire (Italian-born French Poet)

No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.
—Helen Keller (American Author)

It no longer bothers me that I may be constantly searching for father figures; by this time, I have found several and dearly enjoyed knowing them all.
—Alice Walker (American Novelist, Activist)

What you hear, you forget; what you see, you remember; what you do, you understand.
—T. Harv Eker (American Motivational Speaker)

Rage is essentially vulgar, and never more vulgar than when it proceeds from mortified pride, disappointed ambition, or thwarted willfulness.
—Hartley Coleridge (British Poet)

Trust has to be earned, and should come only after the passage of time.
—Arthur Ashe (American Tennis Player)

There is too much reason to apprehend, that the custom of pleading for any client, without discrimination of right or wrong, must lessen the regard due to those important distinctions, and deaden the moral sensibility of the heart.
—James Gates Percival (American Poet, Surgeon)

In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments—there are consequences.
—Robert G. Ingersoll (American Lawyer, Orator, Agnostic)

We are all born for love… . It is the principle of existence, and its only end.
—Benjamin Disraeli (British Head of State)

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Thanks, But No Thanks: Well-Intentioned Reminders Can Resurface Old Wounds

March 6, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Thanks, But No Thanks: Well-Intentioned Reminders Can Resurface Old Wounds Imagine you went through a tough loss when a child sadly passed away from a sudden illness three years ago. The pain still lingers, and time hasn’t made it easier. Still, you’ve done your best to rebuild your life, choosing not to dwell on that heartache.

But every anniversary, your coworker sends a message like “Thinking of you.” You respond with a simple ‘thank you,’ hoping she’ll get the hint, but it seems like she doesn’t realize her well-meaning words only bring back emotions you’ve tried to set aside. You wish she would take a hint and stop these reminders.

Sometimes, kindness can sting. Supportive messages can feel out of place when you’re working to move on. People aren’t mind readers, so it’s important to ask them to be sensitive to your wishes.

Next time you see your coworker, you might say, “I appreciate your kindness, but I’ve found my own way to cope with this loss and would prefer not to relive it. Please stop sending these messages; they upset me.” Being open and respectful can help her understand your perspective, and hopefully, she’ll respect your boundaries.

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Is Low Self-Esteem Your Problem or Your Excuse?

March 3, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Is Low Self Esteem Your Problem or Your Excuse? Many people blame their problems on low self-esteem, but often this is just a way to dodge the harder truth: they might actually have lower intellectual, emotional, or social abilities.

If you think low self-esteem is your problem, consider whether it’s truly reflecting a reality that’s worse than it is. True low self-esteem occurs when your self-appraisal is harsher than reality.

Next time you attribute your issues to low self-esteem, ask yourself if the real problem might be lower ability. Using low self-esteem as an excuse can hinder your personal growth by shifting the focus away from practical solutions and onto self-defeating habits.

Idea for Impact: Instead of just trying to boost your self-esteem, focus on improving your skills, adjusting your expectations, or taking actionable steps. This approach will likely lead to stepped progress and help you overcome obstacles more effectively.

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Inspirational Quotations #1091

March 2, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi

Happiness is like the penny candy of our youth: we got a lot more for our money back when we had no money.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

Genuine success is to be able to spend your life in your own way; to wear your own hide, not someone else’s; to live according to nature and to recognize infinite power.
—Alfred A. Montapert (American Engineer, Philosopher)

Forgiveness is the final form of love.
—Reinhold Niebuhr (American Theologian)

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
—Carl Rogers (American Psychologist)

Fish die belly-upward and rise to the surface; it is their way of falling.
—Andre Gide (French Novelist)

There are days when solitude is a heady wine that intoxicates you with freedom, others when it is a bitter tonic, and still others when it is a poison that makes you beat your head against the wall.
—Colette (French Novelist, Performer)

Success in life is not how well we execute Plan A; it’s how smoothly we cope with Plan B.
—Sarah Ban Breathnach (American Self-help Author)

I don’t want life to imitate art. I want life to be art.
—Carrie Fisher (American Actress)

Look important. It helps you think important. How you look on the outside has a lot to do with how you feel on the inside.
—David J. Schwartz (American Self-help Author)

It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad, and to lonely service stations that we should drive when there is no one for us to hold or love.
—Alain de Botton (Swiss-born British Philosopher)

When prayer is a struggle, do not worry about the prayers that you cannot pray. You yourself are a prayer to God at that moment. All that is within you cries out to Him. And He hears all the pleas that your suffering soul and body are making to Him with groanings which cannot be uttered.
—Ole Hallesby (Norwegian Theologian)

There is a brilliant child locked inside every student.
—Marva Collins (American Educator)

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What Your Exhaustion May Be Telling You

March 1, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Exhaustion Warning Signs: The Impact of Unclear Boundaries and Overcommitment Feeling completely drained, like you’ve been running on empty forever? Ask yourself a couple of key questions: Are you taking care of yourself? Are you setting healthy limits?

If exhaustion’s creeping up on you, chances are you haven’t been clear about what’s cool and what’s not. Maybe you’re saying “yes” way too much.

Not setting boundaries? That’s a one-way ticket to burnout town, stuck in an endless loop of feeling wiped out.

Remember, setting boundaries means not being afraid to say “no” when you need to, being okay with disappointing others sometimes, and making your limits crystal clear. Take time for yourself and stick to your routines. Boundaries lay down the law, stop you from going overboard, and give you the power to prioritize yourself.

Idea for Impact: Setting boundaries is an act of self-love and courage. It involves openly declaring what you will or won’t accept in your life. Though challenging, establishing boundaries can ultimately recharge you and add some zest back into your life.

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Job Hunting: Don’t Chase Perfection

February 28, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Job Hunting: Don't Chase Perfection or the Ideal Job Pursuing an ideal job can feel like searching for the elusive “perfect soulmate,” a notion that can mislead and hinder job seekers. Believing in an ideal job can create unrealistic limitations, just as thinking there’s only one perfect romantic partner does.

Avoid the trap of believing in a perfect job, as this mindset leads to unrealistic expectations. Every job has its flaws and challenges. Instead of fixating on unattainable ideals, accept these imperfections and focus on overall job satisfaction and growth. This approach results in a more realistic and fulfilling career.

Rather than nitpicking job details—like thinking, “I like it, but it’s missing this one thing,” or “I love the job, but not the industry,” or “It’s perfect, but I won’t settle for less”—aim to strike a balance between being selective and overly demanding.

Idea for Impact: While it’s important to find a job that matches your values and goals, believing in a perfect job can hold you back. Differentiate between what you can negotiate and what’s non-negotiable. Set clear boundaries so you can focus on your “must-haves” and move from thinking to taking action.

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Should Staff Be Allowed to Do ‘Life Admin’ at Work?

February 27, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Should Staff Be Allowed to Do 'Life Admin' at Work? Life admin—the endless personal tasks like making appointments, coordinating with kids or a spouse, switching insurance, paying bills, responding to personal emails, dealing with financial issues, and managing shopping returns. It’s the behind-the-scenes work that keeps life running smoothly.

Let’s face it: life admin will occasionally spill into work hours. Managers, accept it. A bit of personal errand here and there isn’t the end of the world. Allowing some life admin during office hours can actually boost productivity and engagement.

Some savvy employers offer personal assistants or concierge services to help with these tasks, improving work-life balance and boosting retention. You don’t need to roll out the red carpet, but don’t be too rigid about life admin during work hours.

Remember, your staff aren’t robots programmed to work non-stop. The cognitive load of keeping their lives in order is no small feat and can certainly impact their focus and productivity. The best teams are those where managers trust their staff and understand that a little flexibility can go a long way.

Just keep an eye on things. If personal tasks start to crowd out work, it might be time to suggest handling life admin at home—or at least outside office hours—especially if the office buzz is turning into grumbling. Balance is key to keeping everyone productive and content.

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When Giving Up Can Be Good for You

February 26, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The Power of Quitting: When Giving Up Can Be Good for You We’ve all been trapped in the endless loop of boring books, pointless classes, toxic jobs, and unfulfilling relationships. While quitting might have a bad rap in some cultures—it’s seen as a sign of weakness—it can actually be the smartest move you make. No one wants to wear the “quitter” badge, but sometimes hard-headed perseverance isn’t the way to go. Clinging to a lost cause can drain your energy and leave you feeling stuck.

If what you’re doing still sparks joy, then keep at it. However, if you consistently feel drained and defeated, it may be time to pivot and pursue something new. Be honest with yourself: are you holding on to a lost cause simply because it’s easier than embracing a new challenge?

Quitting doesn’t mean giving up; it means making room for goals that truly ignite your passion.

Idea for Impact: Don’t waste your energy on dead ends. Instead, find satisfaction by pursuing paths that truly align with your interests and talents.

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Seek Whispers of Quiet to Find Clarity in Stillness

February 25, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Seek Whispers of Quiet to Find Clarity in Stillness You are inundated daily with information and distractions, making it challenging to maintain focus and self-awareness. Whether you are at home, commuting, or in the office, these interruptions hinder your ability to concentrate on meaningful tasks.

To counteract this, schedule 15-minute breaks once or twice a day to sit quietly in your office, a cozy corner at home, or a nearby garden. Treat these moments of solitude as essential appointments; without them, distractions will inevitably fill the void.

Idea for Impact: Intentional pauses allow you to recharge, reflect, and gain clarity away from daily chaos, fostering creativity and a sense of balance. By stepping back, you cultivate mindfulness and reconnect with your inner self, leading to greater peace and control in your life.

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Why Are There No ‘How to Be a Great Follower’ Classes?

February 24, 2025 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Why Are There No 'How to Be a Great Follower' Classes? It struck me recently: while we obsess over leadership—how to be a good leader, how to measure it, and so on—there’s barely a peep about being a good follower.

No one seems particularly interested in becoming a good follower. Step into a business school, and the hustle to prove leadership skills is as intense as caffeine consumption!

Think about it: leaders wouldn’t exist without followers. Both roles are vital for any group’s success.

Yet, leadership gets all the glory, while followership is often overlooked. Society praises leaders with power and prestige, while followers are seen as mere support staff. It’s as if followership is considered a less glamorous, passive role.

'The Art of Followership' by Ronald E. Riggio (ISBN 0787996653) So why the lack of buzz about following? Maybe there’s no market for it. But effective followership is just as vital. A bit more focus on it could lead to smoother, more balanced teams. After all, if everyone’s busy leading, who’s left to follow? Good leaders aren’t always out front.

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