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Inspirational Quotations #516

February 23, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

If there’s anything worse than self-questioning coming too early in life, it’s self-questioning coming too late.
—Philip Roth (American Novelist)

The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.
—Napoleon Hill (American Author)

True affection is a body of enigmas, mysteries and riddles, wherein two so become one that they both become two.
—Thomas Browne (English Christian Author)

Days are scrolls: write on them only what you want remembered.
—Bahya ibn Paquda (Spanish Jewish Philosopher)

Courage from hearts and not from numbers grows.
—John Dryden (English Poet)

Optimism doesn’t wait on facts. It deals with prospects. Pessimism is a waste of time.
—Norman Cousins (American Journalist)

Who can confess his poverty and look it in the face, destroys its sting: but a proud poor man, he is poor, indeed.
—Letitia Elizabeth Landon (English Poet)

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Inspirational Quotations #515

February 16, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

We shall draw from the heart of suffering itself the means of inspiration and survival.
—Winston Churchill (British Head of State)

When my horse is running good, I don’t stop to give him sugar.
—William Faulkner (American Novelist)

Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense everything that comes from love is a miracle.
—Marianne Williamson (American Activist)

Those that embrace the entire universe with love, for the most part love nothing, but their narrow selves.
—Johann Gottfried Herder (German Lutheran Philosopher)

The practice of peace and reconciliation is one of the most vital and artistic of human actions.
—Thich Nhat Hanh (Vietnamese Buddhist Religious Leader)

Show me the man you honor, and I will know what kind of a man you are, for it shows me what your ideal of manhood is, and what kind of a man you long to be.
—Thomas Carlyle (Scottish Writer)

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No Duty is More Pressing Than That of Gratitude: My Regret of Missing the Chance to Thank Prof. Sathya

February 12, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

I’d like to relate an incident that reiterated the value of human relationships and genuine outreach.

Guruswamy Sathyanarayanan, Lehigh University and Indian Institute of Science

Prof. Guruswamy Sathyanarayanan was a Fulbright scholar at the Indian Institute of Science, where I worked as a research assistant in the year 1999. “Sathya,” as he was fondly known, was a visiting professor from Lehigh University, Bethlehem PA.

Upon our acquaintance, I had observed that Sathya seemed stressed out from his work and had struggled to get his computer programs to run. I had offered to help him with computer programming and research on manufacturing processes. Our interaction had quickly evolved into a bond of mentorship. He was not particularly joyful, but was always genial and inquisitive. Over coffee breaks, we had many an interesting conversation about the relevance of Eastern Philosophy in the modern world.

At that time, I was applying for graduate school in the United States. Sathya had advised me on the schools to which I should apply based on my specific interests, the nuances of the application process, and the many components of the applications. On a particular day when my applications were due to be dispatched, he had me revise my personal essay repeatedly until he felt it was succinct enough to reflect my academic ideas and interests. When I thanked Sathya, he asked me to thank him only after receiving an admission and to keep him updated on my applications.

Three months later in March 2000, one late night, I received a call from a prestigious school. The school had admitted me to its graduate program with a 100% tuition waiver and a generous stipend for research in my area of choice, a precursor to 3D Printing. I was extremely delighted, but did not call Sathya because it was late at night.

The next morning, I learnt that Sathya had died the previous night of sudden heart attack. When I visited his home that afternoon, Sathya’s wife informed me that he had complained of uneasiness after a heated debate with a fellow-researcher on the progress of their research work. Sathya’s death came as a shock to me since he was only 47 years old and had a six-year old son.

I profusely regret not having called Sathya on that fateful night to express my gratitude for his mentorship of my application process. I am given to wonder if my success could have cheered him after his tense conversation with the research colleague—I’ll never know.

I never thanked Sathya in person, but I dedicated my master’s thesis to his memory.

Thesis Dedication: To the memory of my mentor and a great friend, Dr. Guruswamy Sathyanarayanan, Lehigh University

Call to Action: Practice Gratitude

There’s plenty of anecdotal and empirical evidence that practicing gratitude can considerably increase our sense of social well-being and happiness, yet we fail to acknowledge our blessings and thank people who’ve made a difference in our lives.

“The learned have prescribed penance for the murderer of a pious man, a drunkard, a thief or for one who has violated a solemn vow. But there is no pardon for the ungrateful,” asserts the Panchatantra, a collection of animal fables from ancient India.

Dear readers, there is no excuse for not conveying your feelings to your loved ones today. There is no excuse for not expressing your gratitude and appreciation today. There is no excuse for not taking a few minutes of your time to check-in on somebody who has influenced your life with his or her gift of kindness.

NOW is the time to appreciate the people who have helped you. This is your opportunity to do it—RIGHT NOW, while there is time.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Emotions, Gratitude, India, Kindness, Virtues

Inspirational Quotations #514

February 9, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

All of us failed to match our dreams of perfection. So I rate us on the basis of our splendid failure to do the impossible.
—William Faulkner (American Novelist)

There are many things that seem impossible only so long as one does not attempt them.
—Andre Gide (French Novelist)

Don’t be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated; you can’t cross a chasm in two small jumps.
—David Lloyd George (British Head of State)

Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.
—Pierre-Marc-Gaston, duc de Levis

Don’t watch the clock; do what it does. Keep going.
—Sam Levenson (American Humorist)

Love’s greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.
—Barbara De Angelis (American Lecturer)

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Inspirational Quotations #513

February 2, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Patience is a necessary ingredient of genius.
—Benjamin Disraeli (British Head of State)

To be a poor man is hard, but to be a poor race in a land of dollars is the very bottom of hardships.
—W. E. B. Du Bois (American Civil Rights Activist)

The sooner you treat your son as a man, the sooner he will be one.
—John Dryden (English Poet)

Opportunities are often things you haven’t noticed the first time around.
—Catherine Deneuve (French Actor)

Few rich men own their own property. Their property owns them.
—Robert G. Ingersoll (American Atheist Politician)

To be alive, to be able to see, to walk… it’s all a miracle. I have adapted the technique of living life from miracle to miracle.
—Arthur Rubinstein (Polish-born American Composer)

The ability to get to the verge without getting into the war is the necessary art. If you try to run away from it, if you are scared to go to the brink, you are lost.
—John Foster Dulles (American Lawyer)

The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
—Mark Twain (American Humorist)

Time is the greatest of all tyrants. As we go on toward age, he taxes our health, limbs, faculties, strength, and features.
—John Foster Dulles (American Lawyer)

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Inspirational Quotations #512

January 26, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Imagination grows by exercise, and contrary to popular belief, is more powerful in the mature than the young.
—W. Somerset Maugham (French Playwright)

The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.
—Robert Kiyosaki (American Businessperson)

I would rather be a beggar and spend my money like a king, than be a king and spend money like a beggar.
—Robert G. Ingersoll (American Atheist Politician)

The intellectual is constantly betrayed by his vanity. Godlike he blandly assumes that he can express everything in words; whereas the things one loves, lives, and dies for are not, in the last analysis completely expressible in words.
—Anne Morrow Lindbergh (American Author, Aviator)

A liar will not be believed, even when he speaks the truth.
—Aesop (Greek Fabulist)

To feel much for others, and little for ourselves; to restrain our selfish, and exercise our benevolent affections, constitutes the perfection of human nature.
—George Goodman (American Economist)

In this world the one thing supremely worth having is the opportunity to do well and worthily a piece of work of vital consequence to the welfare of mankind.
—Theodore Roosevelt (American Head of State)

See dying vegetables life sustain,|See life dissolving vegetate again;|All forms that perish other forms supply;|By turns we catch the vital breath and die.
—Alexander Pope (English Poet)

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How to Cut Off a Boss Who Rambles

January 22, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Mail Bag Kathy asked, “Every time I ask my boss a question about a process, I get a lecture instead of a quick yes-or-no answer or specific instructions. Is it necessary to listen patiently and let her finish her lengthy sermon, or can I cut her short and tell her that a brief answer is all I need?”

My short answer: Live with it.

Interrupting and cutting short a boss in the middle of a conversation may be an impolite way of handling a harmless habit. Your boss may ramble on for a number of reasons—she may be uneasy, excited, or frustrated about the topic at hand. She may just be thinking aloud or stating some particulars about the subject matter. If she is uncertain about what she wants to say, she might blather about everything she can think of.

Here are some techniques that can help:

  • Try to meet your boss just before an appointment on her calendar, prior to lunch, or at the end of her day. This encourages her to stay within a set time limit—she’ll want to leave her desk or prepare for the next meeting.
  • Phrase your question or request in a way that suggests that you need only a brief answer. Open the conversation by saying, “I know you’re headed to Peter’s office, but may I have a minute of your time to talk about …”, “I’m up against a deadline but can’t proceed until our scheduled meeting. Can you please tell me quickly …,” or “I only have five minutes—can you explain how to ….”
  • If you must cut off a boss when she’s rambling, interrupt her only occasionally. Your boss’s rambling may simply be her attempt to clarify or reiterate some details. Politely say, “Would you please excuse me? I must get back to my desk for …” and state a verifiable reason. Next, if you have what you wanted from your boss, recap what you’ve heard from her by saying, “So, I will ….” Alternatively state, “I think this topic needs more time. What’s a good time to discuss this later today?”

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Inspirational Quotations #511

January 19, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Happiness lies neither in vice nor in virtue; but in the manner we appreciate the one and the other, and the choice we make pursuant to our individual organization.
—Marquis de Sade (French Political leader)

Every human being who reaches the age of understanding of the purpose of money wishes for it. Wishing will not bring riches. But desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsessions, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.
—Napoleon Hill (American Author)

Measure not by the scale of perfection the meager product of reality.
—Friedrich Schiller (German Poet)

An oak and a reed were arguing about their strength. When a strong wind came up, the reed avoided being uprooted by bending and leaning with the gusts of wind. But the oak stood firm and was torn up by the roots.
—Aesop (Greek Fabulist)

A woman’s always younger than a man of equal years.
—Elizabeth Barrett Browning (English Poet)

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Feed the Right Wolf: An American-Indian Parable on Cultivating the Right Attitudes

January 15, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

A traditional American Indian story features a young Cherokee boy who once became annoyed that another boy had done him some injustice. After returning home, the young boy expressed his frustration to his grandfather.

The old Cherokee chief said to his grandson, “I too, at times, have felt a great hatred for those who have taken so much with no sorrow for what they do.

“Hatred wears you down, and hatred does not hurt your enemy. Hatred is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these emotions many times.

“It’s as though a fight is continuously going on inside me. It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

“One wolf is good and does no harm. He is filled with joy, humility, and kindness. He lives in harmony with everyone around and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so and in the right way.

“The other wolf is full of anger, envy, regret, greed, and self-pity. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone all the time and for no reason. When blinded by his anger and hatred, he does not have a sound mind. It is helpless anger, because his anger will change nothing.

“It is hard to live with these two wolves inside me. These two wolves are constantly fighting to control my spirit.

“Young man, the same fight is going on inside you and inside every other person on this earth.”

The grandson thought about it for a moment and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win inside you, grandpa?”

The old Cherokee chief smiled and replied, “The one I feed.”

Dear readers, which wolf inside are you feeding?

The Right attitudes beget the right attitudes.

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Inspirational Quotations #510

January 12, 2014 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Success in its highest and noblest form calls for peace of mind and enjoyment and happiness which come only to the man who has found the work that he likes best.
—Napoleon Hill (American Author)

The pride of dying rich raises the loudest laugh in hell.
—John W. Foster

Death is not the enemy; living in constant fear of it is.
—Norman Cousins (American Journalist)

By criticizing other people, we are increasing the behavior that we object to.
—Steve Chandler

If we discovered that we had only five minutes left to say all that we wanted to say, every telephone booth would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them.
—Christopher Morley (American Journalist)

You have to believe in happiness or happiness never comes.
—Douglas Malloch

The only happiness a brave person ever troubles themselves in asking about, is happiness enough to get their work done.
—Thomas Carlyle (Scottish Writer)

Freedom of conscience entails more dangers than authority and despotism.
—Michel Foucault (French Philosopher)

The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the green earth in the present moment, to appreciate the peace and beauty that are available now.
—Thich Nhat Hanh (Vietnamese Buddhist Religious Leader)

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