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Do it Now // Summary of ‘The 5 Second Rule’ by Mel Robbins

November 23, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

Mel Robbins’s The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage (2017) argues that much of what holds you back in life has roots in those few precious moments between when you have an idea and when your brain gets in the way of acting on that idea.

The 5-second rule is simple. If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it. …. Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.

Robbins asserts that you have five seconds to act on your ideas before you run the risk of subconsciously convincing yourself not to. Stay alert for those decisive moments. Each time, consider the benefits and liabilities of doing versus deferring.

When you internalize a do-it-now mindset, you’ll be dragging your feet less: “There’s one thing that is guaranteed to increase your feelings of control over your life: a bias toward action.”

There’s some wisdom here: don’t wait for motivation, high energy, or a sense of focus before taking action. Create motivation by taking action. Once initiated, action tends to gather momentum—tasks become increasingly easy to sustain.

Recommendation: Skip Mel Robbins’s The 5 Second Rule. You don’t need 240 pages of testimonials and cheery page-fillers on not thinking your way out of problems. Watch her TED talk instead.

Idea for Impact: When you catch yourself thinking you’ll do something later, take it as a nudge to do it now. Take action before procrastination sets in. Action motivates.

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Inspirational Quotations #868

November 22, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi

There is no avoiding war; it can only be postponed to the advantage of others.
—Niccolo Machiavelli (Florentine Political Philosopher)

Philosophy, rightly defined, is simply the love of wisdom.
—Cicero (Roman Philosopher)

People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.
—George Bernard Shaw (Irish Playwright)

Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere.
—Carl Sagan (American Astronomer)

Where there is no counsel, the people perish; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.
—The Holy Bible (Scripture in the Christian Faith)

Simplicity is the final achievement. After one has played a vast quantity of notes and more notes, it is simplicity that emerges as the crowning reward of art.
—Frederic Chopin (Polish Composer, Pianist)

Truth is not introduced into the individual from without, but was within him all the time.
—Soren Kierkegaard (Danish Philosopher, Theologian)

The strength of criticism lies in the weakness of the thing criticized.
—Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (American Poet)

Difficult as it is really to listen to someone in affliction, it is just as difficult for him to know that compassion is listening to him.
—Simone Weil (French Philosopher, Political Activist)

There is no hell or heaven somewhere else, the hell is right here, when you are dishonest. The heaven is right here when you conduct yourself with honesty and truthfulness.
—Basava (Indian Hindu Philosopher)

By all means marry. If you get a good wife you will become happy, and if you get a bad one you will become a philosopher.
—Socrates (Anceient Greek Philosopher)

The Buddha’s last words instructed us to be heedful—to see our actions as important and to keep that importance in mind at all times.
—Thanissaro Bhikkhu (American Buddhist Monk)

Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it’s addressed to someone else.
—Ivern Ball (American Writer, Aphorist)

There are lots of things that you can brush under the carpet about yourself until you’re faced with somebody whose needs won’t be put off.
—Angela Carter (English Novelist, Short Story Writer)

An intelligent person spends his time by enjoying poetry and scientific literature. In contrast, a fool spends his time in his addiction to bad habits, laziness or in some kind of quarrel.
—The Hitopadesha (Indian Collection of Fables)

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Fail Cheaply

November 19, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

One way to accelerate innovation is to undertake low-risk experiments.

Failures in the innovation process can be costly and time-consuming. It’s often wiser to try low-risk, low-cost, high-payoff experiments than ruminating endlessly.

Make your experiments cheaper. You don’t need to create a full-scale concept to test it. Find low-cost ways to test your assumptions. It may take time and iteration to find what works for you.

  • Engineers often use surrogate modeling techniques that use simple prototypes and mock-ups that are as representative as possible.
  • Counter to the phrase “it takes money to make money,” shrewd entrepreneurs know how to experiment multiple ways for minimal cost. Next, they scale up one or two experiments that have given them favorable results. The losses are small, and the potential gains much larger.

Idea for Impact: The worst way to fail is slow and big. Don’t eliminate failure. Only reduce the cost of failure.

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Micro-Meetings Can Be Very Effective

November 16, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Discussions expand to fill the time allotted (per Parkinson’s Law,) especially when people haven’t prepared for them well.

If your meetings tend to run long and aren’t producing tangible results, consider micro-meetings.

Focus on discussing and deciding on a single problem within, say, 15 minutes. Ask people to do their homework and come thoroughly prepared.

Let the critical decision-makers pre-wire one another before the meeting—they can discuss one-on-one the main points and settle any differences of opinion.

  • Clarify the meeting’s purpose before starting the session. Even if you think everyone knows it, it helps restate the meeting’s objective and sharpen the group’s focus.
  • Allow people brief statements about their positions and clarifying questions. Take full-fledged discussions offline.
  • Not every exchange of ideas needs to happen in a meeting. Use shared documents that can be revised and tracked by several people in real-time.
  • Keep everyone standing. The discomfort of standing for long, especially before lunchtime or at the end of the day, can keep the meetings short and to-the-point.
  • End well. Conclude the meeting with an action plan and an exact timeframe. State the decisions the group has made and who owns what.

Yes, micro-meetings will seem brusque and hasty. But setting a focused agenda and staying on-topic will keep people paying attention and steer meetings to conclusive decisions.

Many teams use micro-meetings for daily huddles, check-ins, or “scrum meetings.” There’s no good reason why this type of meeting should be availed exclusively for such occurrences.

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Inspirational Quotations #867

November 15, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi

Death is our eternal companion. It is always to our left, an arm’s length behind us. Death is the only wise adviser that a warrior has. Whenever he feels that everything is going wrong and he’s about to be annihilated, he can turn to his death and ask if that is so. His death will tell him that he is wrong, that nothing really matters outside its touch. His death will tell him, I haven’t touched you yet.’
—Carlos Castaneda (Peruvian-born American Anthropologist)

We are slow to believe that which if believed would hurt our feelings.
—Louis Nizer (American Lawyer, Author)

It is base to filch a purse, daring to embezzle a million, but it is great beyond measure to steal a crown. The sin lessens as the guilt increases.
—Friedrich Schiller (German Poet)

Most decisions should probably be made with somewhere around 70% of the information you wish you had. If you wait for 90%, in most cases, you’re probably being slow.
—Jeff Bezos (American Businessman)

Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.
—J. K. Rowling (English Novelist)

All formal dogmatic religions are fallacious and must never be accepted by self-respecting persons as final.
—Hypatia of Alexandria (Greek Philosopher, Mathematician)

They learn in suffering what they teach in song.
—Percy Bysshe Shelley (English Poet)

Let your self go. If you can approach the world’s complexities, both its glories and its horrors, with an attitude of humble curiosity, acknowledging that however deeply you have seen, you have only scratched the surface, you will find worlds within worlds, beauties you could not heretofore imagine, and your own mundane preoccupations will shrink to proper size, not all that important in the greater scheme of things.
—Daniel C. Dennett (American Philosopher, Atheist)

When you lose a couple of times, it makes you realize how difficult it is to win.
—Steffi Graf (German Tennis Player)

If you steal something small you are a petty thief, but if you steal millions you are a gentleman of society.
—Greek Proverb

What is the price of experience?. Do men buy it for a song?. Or wisdom for a dance in the street?. No, it is bought with the price of all the man hath, his house, his wife, his children.
—William Blake (English Poet)

You will not become a saint through other people’s sins.
—Anton Chekhov (Russian Short Story Writer)

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Holiday Party Etiquette During the COVID-19 Pandemic

November 14, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

It’s understandable if you’re wary about visiting other people’s homes and mingling during this holiday season.

You can’t be too sure about hygiene in any space other than yours. And it’s natural to feel concerned about coming in contact with other attendees.

If you’re invited to a holiday gathering, be honest with your host about why you’re sending regrets: “I really appreciate your invite, but we aren’t socializing now. Hope you understand.” Don’t over-explain yourself.

If you must host a Thanksgiving, Christmas, or holiday party despite the risks, allow plenty of room between guests. Keep hand sanitizer around so guests can use it during the meal. Offer food that they can serve themselves. Do all the traditional cheers from a distance. Clean and wipe everything down before everyone arrives and again after they leave.

Idea for Impact: This holiday season, don’t get complacent, especially if restrictions ease. You don’t have to do any of this socializing if you don’t want to.

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When Growth Stalls: A Case Study of the iPhone

November 13, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

If you got an iPhone in the last few years, you don’t really need to rush to replace it with the new iPhone 12.

In a sense, Apple is relying on other businesses to make this new lineup a success. Despite Apple’s assertions that the new iPhone 12 supports fast 5G cellular networks, the prevailing 5G networks in America just aren’t fast enough yet.

Feature Stagnation

Arguably, there’s not much further for the iPhone to go. It’s been improved through numerous versions since 2007, and there simply isn’t much left to do. The entire experience is probably as good as it ever needs to be.

Beyond better power, speed, design, battery, cameras, and display, Apple faces the horizon of what’s expectable from a smartphone. After a decade of relentless growth and absolute dominance, innovation has exhausted. Progress will become increasingly inconsequential. Through it all, Apple has successfully sustained premium-position captivity and thrived even as new, low-cost competitors are emerging worldwide.

When Growth Stalls

Apple’s growth trajectory is likely to look different in the future. The bulk of Apple’s future growth prospects will come from existing customers and not new smartphone adopters. Apple has been focusing on newer software and services to expand the user experience and retain customers.

Apple’s core product is ex-growth. In that sense, Apple is now like Microsoft and Alphabet. Faced with product stagnation, both Microsoft and Alphabet responded by pushing into entirely new areas to spawn growth, but with patchy successes. When it’s dominant Windows and Office franchises were stalling, Microsoft pivoted and had big hits with the Xbox and enterprise software but failed with MSN, Bing, and mobile. Google diversified with Android and Apps but repeatedly missed on social.

Idea for Impact: No one, no matter how historically innovative and powerful, is guaranteed immortality

Successful companies—and people—must evolve their competence or risk becoming marginalized. The roots of sustained success lie in being aware, innovative, and adaptable. Don’t become too focused on taking care of today and forget preparing for tomorrow. Your business model could be fragile.

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Dining Out: Rule of Six

November 11, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Meal manners entail pacing yourself with others—starting and finishing each course of the meal. I’ve previously written,

At the table, wait until everyone is served. Begin to eat only after the host or the most important guest does. Follow this guideline for each course of the meal. Pace yourself such that you finish at about the same time as everybody else at your table.

A subtlety: if you’re dining out in a smaller group, wait for everyone to be served before you begin. If you’re joining a larger party (say, ten or more,) the “rule of six” prescribes that you can start eating as soon as six people have been served.

At buffet meals, collect your food and wait until three others join you at the table before beginning to eat.

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Make a Habit of Stepping Back from Work

November 10, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

“Busyness” often initiates as a lack of focus. Our culture has been seduced into thinking that we can achieve anything if we try harder and work longer.

Besides, good jobs are overwhelming. Many company cultures count on employees to compartmentalize their lives and prioritize work over all else. Managers expect that employees become what sociologists have identified as “ideal workers”: folks who are entirely dedicated to their jobs and are always on call, sometimes at great expense to their personal life. Such dedication is detrimental not just to employee wellbeing but also to the bottom line.

Being productive requires acknowledging that you can’t work for extended periods and maintain a high-performance level.

Make a habit of stepping back. Taking your mind off work can help you overcome mental blocks. Being productive requires creative thinking more than perseverance.

You’re more likely to find breakthrough ideas when you temporarily remove yourself from the grind. The best solutions uncover themselves when you step into the shower, go for a run, have lunch away from your desk, or set off on holiday.

  • Up the Good Stuff. To feel less burned-out, do a little more of the things you love and a smidgen less drudge work.
  • Seek Breathing Room. That’s a metaphor for space to catch up with yourself, regroup, think over whatever’s happening, and know how you feel and what to do next.
  • Thwart Decision Fatigue. You have a limited capacity for concentrating over extended periods. You can restore your executive function and overcome mental fatigue through interventions—short rest, engaging in creative purists, and increasing the body’s glucose levels.

Idea for Impact: If you want to get more done, start taking breaks. Busyness is very different from effectiveness.

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Don’t Surround Yourself with People Like Yourself

November 9, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

It’s easier to hire people you naturally feel comfortable with, and you’ll feel most comfortable with people who remind you of yourself and your in-group. This is instinctive—it’s part of what psychologists identify as implicit bias.

However, clone-hiring initiates groupthink. There’s much value in surrounding yourself with others who are not like you—people who may make you feel a little uncomfortable and bring a different perspective. As the Bay-Area career coach Marty Nemko cautions, “We find comfort among those who agree with us, growth among those who don’t.”

To build a team with diverse talents, look for people with complementary skills and agreeable temperaments. As I explained in my article on competency modeling, identify the traits, characteristics, and behaviors in the star performers on your team and not in the average performers. Then, hire and promote people who have demonstrated the distinct traits and behaviors of the star performers.

Idea for Impact: Don’t try to hire clones. Instead, look for people who’re a complement. You need people less like you and more of a complement to you. Compatibility is not about being similar in nature; it’s about co-existing and thriving in harmony.

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