Disappointed? Hurt? Offended?
Let’s get real: most slights aren’t about you.
Someone trashed your Instagram post, shot down your opinion, or picked a petty fight? Not about you. They’re venting or projecting. You’re just collateral damage.
Your friend forgot your birthday, your coworker swiped your idea, or a relative threw a harsh critique? It stings. Still not about you. Their actions come from their own mess.
Customer service left you hanging, or some frustrating process ate hours of your life? Annoying, yes—personal, no. These systems aren’t made for you.
Lost money or a bad investment? Blame timing, luck, or the universe’s indifference. Not about you.
Someone dropped a cruel comment? Still not about you. Their bias says everything about them, not you.
Here’s the truth: people are self-absorbed. We live in our own bubbles, always chasing our own needs and fears. We rarely see others as full people. They’re props in our drama. And who loses sleep over props?
Idea for Impact: When someone disappoints you, remember: it’s not about you. Odds are, you didn’t even cross their mind.
Stop asking, “What does this say about me?” The answer is, “Nothing.” Flip the script. Focus on what their behavior says about them. Dropping the “me lens” reduces stress, lowers anxiety, and builds empathy. Life’s randomness isn’t yours to control. But resilience? That’s your superpower. Not every bump needs a deep dive.
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