The tendency to over-apologize frequently originates from anxiety, an inflated sense of responsibility, or diminished self-esteem. This may manifest as preemptive apologies or over-explanations, prompted by a fear of negative evaluation. It can also be a learned behavioral pattern, developed during childhood or as a mechanism for conflict avoidance.
Rather than instructing overapologizers to “stop apologizing,” it is more effective to offer reassurance by stating, “You have no need to apologize.” In instances where apologies are misapplied, gently redirect their attention to the pertinent subject.
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