Imagine you went through a tough loss when a child sadly passed away from a sudden illness three years ago. The pain still lingers, and time hasn’t made it easier. Still, you’ve done your best to rebuild your life, choosing not to dwell on that heartache.
But every anniversary, your coworker sends a message like “Thinking of you.” You respond with a simple ‘thank you,’ hoping she’ll get the hint, but it seems like she doesn’t realize her well-meaning words only bring back emotions you’ve tried to set aside. You wish she would take a hint and stop these reminders.
Sometimes, kindness can sting. Supportive messages can feel out of place when you’re working to move on. People aren’t mind readers, so it’s important to ask them to be sensitive to your wishes.
Next time you see your coworker, you might say, “I appreciate your kindness, but I’ve found my own way to cope with this loss and would prefer not to relive it. Please stop sending these messages; they upset me.” Being open and respectful can help her understand your perspective, and hopefully, she’ll respect your boundaries.
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