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You Are Not Special

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You Are Not Special---David McCullough Jr.'s Commencement Speech from Wellesley High School David McCullough Jr., son of historian David McCullough, gained fame in 2012 with a viral commencement speech. As an English teacher at Wellesley High School, he told graduates they were “not special,” challenging the overused “everyone is special” mantra seen in schools and sports. His speech (YouTube) offered a refreshing dose of reality and a grounded perspective.

If everyone is special, then no one is. If everyone receives a trophy, trophies become meaningless. … We’ve come to value accolades more than genuine achievement. We’ve come to see them as the point and are willing to compromise standards or ignore reality if we believe it’s the quickest or only way to have something to display on the mantlepiece. … Like accolades ought to be, the fulfilling life is a consequence, a gratifying byproduct. It’s what happens when you’re thinking about more important things. Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air, and behold the view. Climb it so you can see the world, not so the world can see you.

Universality dilutes uniqueness, making ‘special’ lose its meaning as a marker of rare or exceptional qualities that deserve recognition.

Idea for Impact: A life well-lived comes from having a purpose beyond self-aggrandizement.

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  5. Confucius on Dealing with People

Ready to Pay Forward the Future You?

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Pay Forward the Future You - Delay Gratification My fitness coach always kicks off each session with, “Are you ready to do the hard things now and pay forward the man you’ll become?” It’s his way of reminding me that every day is a chance to invest in my future self.

Healthy eating and regular training pay off slowly, so it’s easy to lose motivation. Unlike quick fixes, long-term goals need patience and delayed gratification, which can be tough. It’s tempting to slack off when there are no immediate consequences.

Idea for Impact: Visualize success. Imagine how amazing you’ll feel in the future. Stick to the plan.

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Do We Have Too Many Middle Managers?

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Do We Have Too Many Middle Managers?

In Power to the Middle: Why Managers Hold the Keys to the Future of Work, HR Consultant Bill Schaninger, et al. argue that middle managers are essential to the evolving world of work.

What middle managers do is actually much more complex than what either executives or frontline workers do: They manage both up and down, and serve as translators in both directions. What kind of qualities and skills does the job require? Emotional intelligence, resilience, adaptability, technical skills, critical thinking, communication skills, being open to change, seeing the big picture, and managing both full-time and contract/gig workers. Everything they do deeply affects the work, the workforce, and the workplace.

True.

But many organizations are weighed down by too many middle managers. These layers of bureaucracy slow decisions and stifle innovation.

Why not cut the clutter? In today’s flat organizational structures, where employees are empowered to make decisions and manage projects independently, the need for numerous middle managers diminishes. Trim the fat.

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  5. Treat Employees Like Volunteers

Let Others Shine

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Let Others Shine Got a brilliant idea? Share it freely and let others get in on the action.

Let them win. Let them look good.

Let them steal the spotlight and snag some of the credit.

Let everyone get a piece of the glory and bask in the collective success.

You’ll be amazed at how quickly things get done.

You’ll create a culture of collaboration that drives even greater achievements.

Idea for Impact: Help others win—when they shine, your own star rises faster.

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  4. Why You May Be Overlooking Your Best Talent
  5. Doesn’t Facebook Make You Unhappy?

The World’s Shortest Course in … Delegating

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The World's Shortest Course in Delegating Delegation is crucial but tough for new managers. Here’s how to nail it:

  • Pass off tasks that aren’t your core job. Focus on what matters most. Delegating stuff you enjoy is the real challenge.
  • Trust your team. Let them handle tasks without micromanaging. Set clear goals and back off.
  • Match tasks with the right people. Hire experts, but also give team members chances to learn new skills. Build a strong team.

Always stay accountable for the final result, even if someone else does the work.

In short: Pick the right person. Define the task. Set clear standards. Stay responsible. Be patient and learn from mistakes. That’s how you delegate like a pro.

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  3. Ideas to Use When Delegating
  4. Never Criticize Little, Trivial Faults
  5. How Can You Contribute?

Does Money Always Motivate?

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Does Money Always Motivate? Most credible studies by psychologists and economists have indicated that money alone doesn’t accomplish much when you want to add motivation over the standard effort.

By and large, money contributes considerably to happiness as people move up from poverty. It contributes to happiness more modestly as income reaches the community’s norm. Beyond that point, money only adds a little to happiness.

People indeed welcome a raise and regret a decline. But most adapt to their change in circumstances, and the change doesn’t markedly affect their happiness over time.

This being said, ask people if they’re willing to change their job for a better one in virtually every aspect they can imagine—better environment, cooler technology, more exciting products, and broad scope for self-development—but with lower money offer, few would give in.

Idea for Impact: The money-as-a-motivator premise has some validity, but it’s not all-encompassing. For the most part, the dominant motivator for many employees is meaning—the prospect of learning and growing, engaging in stimulating work, and getting recognition for achievements.

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  4. Beyond Money’s Grasp: A Deeper Drive to Success
  5. How to Handle Employees who Moonlight

Inspirational Quotations #1064

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There are two kinds of fools. One says, “This is old, therefore it is good.” The other says, “This is new, therefore it is better.”
—William Ralph Inge (English Anglican Clergyman)

No art or learning is to be pursued halfheartedly…and any art worth learning will certainly reward more or less generously the effort made to study it.
—Murasaki Shikibu (Japanese Diarist, Novelist)

We are more disturbed by a calamity which threatens us than by one which has befallen us.
—John Lancaster Spalding (American Catholic Clergyman)

Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
—Arthur Ashe (American Tennis Player)

Try not to get too depressed in the part of the journey, because there’s a professional responsibility. If you are depressed, you can’t motivate your staff to extraordinary measures. So you have to keep your own spirits up even though you well understand that you don’t know what you’re doing.
—Andrew Grove (Hungarian-born American Businessperson)

Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves.
—Miguel Angel Ruiz (Mexican Spiritualist Author)

The larger the island of knowledge, the longer the shoreline of wonder.
—Ralph Washington Sockman (American United Methodist Pastor)

Patience in adversity, magnanimity in ascendancy, eloquence in assembly, bravery in battle, aspiration for eminence and engrossment in the scriptures are the self-evident attributes of great men.
—Subhashita Manjari (Sanskrit Anthology of Proverbs)

In a consumer society there are inevitably two kinds of slaves: the prisoners of addiction and the prisoners of envy.
—Ivan Illich (Austrian Philosopher)

Man is a gregarious animal, and much more so in his mind than in his body. He may like to go alone for a walk, but he hates to stand alone in his opinions.
—George Santayana (Spanish-American Poet, Philosopher)

An honest God is the noblest work of man.
—Robert G. Ingersoll (American Lawyer, Orator, Agnostic)

The test and the use of man’s education is that he finds pleasure in the exercise of his mind.
—Jacques Barzun (American Cultural Historian)

HISTORY: gossip well told.
—Elbert Hubbard (American Writer)

Words are like money; there is nothing so useless, unless when in actual use.
—Samuel Butler

Whatever is not nailed down is mine. What I can pry loose is not nailed down.
—Collis Potter Huntington (American Industrialist)

Don’t Keep Running Hard If You’re Not Making Progress

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Don't Keep Running Hard If You're Not Making Progress - Avoid Working Hard Without Progress Do you really understand how you’re spending your time?

A lot of folks think they’re putting more hours into strategic work than they actually are. Check your calendar from the past month. If you’re anything like the managers I work with, you’ll probably find it’s easier to justify your daily grind than to explain why you’re doing everything you shouldn’t be.

  • Make time audits a habit. Add up the hours you’ve spent on your strategic priorities. Was it enough? Most people end up scrambling with urgent tasks instead of focusing on what really matters.
  • Identify your top three priorities for the year and ensure you’re dedicating enough time to them each week. If you’re falling short, it’s time to cut back on other commitments, delegate more, and clear some space in your schedule for what truly counts.

Idea for Impact: Your time often drifts away from your intentions. Don’t just run hard without making progress. Get your priorities straight. Be disciplined with your time.

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If Mindfulness Meditation Isn’t for You, Try This Focusing Exercise

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If Mindfulness Meditation Isn't for You, Try This Focusing Exercise Many folks who could seriously benefit from a bit of contemplative meditation somehow never quite get around to it. Mindfulness meditation offers real, tangible benefits, but like any skill, it requires regular practice. Without it, you can only expect minor improvements, which is where many people stumble.

If Mindfulness meditation seems too elaborate, here’s a simple way to start:

  1. Pick a regular daily task.
  2. Perform it at half the usual pace—slowly and deliberately.
  3. Tune in to the moment by observing your sensory experiences.

That’s all there is to it. There’s no need for intricate poses, calming playlists, or scented candles. Forget about searching for a zen-like sanctuary. Just stay present and plod through a daily chore.

For example, during a shower, slow things down. Turn the faucet gently and savor the sensation of the water on your skin and the temperature change. Then, pick up the shampoo and apply it to your hair with a deliberate, calm touch.

Similarly, on a casual stroll, walk with purpose and at a slow pace. Pay attention to each step, listen to the birds, and appreciate the blooming flowers to stay grounded in the present.

By slowing down, you highlight the physical and sensory aspects of your actions. You’ll notice more details and experience the richness of even the simplest tasks. Slowing your pace shifts your focus, helping you become more aware of how you perform and coordinate your actions with intention.

When your mind starts to wander, slow down. Check in with what you’re doing. Refocus on the present. It’s surprisingly effective.

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Inspirational Quotations #1063

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Show me the man who would go to heaven alone, and I will show you one who will never be admitted there.
—Owen Feltham (English Essayist)

Every rose is an autograph from the hand of God on his world about us.—He has inscribed his thoughts in these marvellous hieroglyphics which sense and science have, these many thousand years, been seeking to understand.
—Theodore Parker (American Unitarian Preacher)

Life can and does turn on a dime. One little rotation of the wheel of fortune, and we’re no longer feeling so on top of life and impervious to change.
—Sharon Salzberg (Buddhist Teacher)

In some small field each child should attain, within the limited range of its experience and observation, the power to draw a justly limited inference from observed facts.
—Charles William Eliot (American Educator)

Half-knowledge is very communicable; not so knowledge.
—Mary Elizabeth Coleridge (British Poet, Novelist)

Joy is the happiness of love—love aware of its own inner happiness. Pleasure comes from without, and joy comes from within, and it is, therefore, within reach of everyone in the world.
—Fulton J. Sheen (American Catholic Religious Leader)

Anger is the root of anxiety and mental distress. It is anger that keeps people bound to a worldly life. It even destroys righteous qualities. Therefore, put away your anger.
—Adhyatma Ramayana (Hindu Religious Text)

People must know that their ideas will be listened to and, if they have merit, acted upon. If they do, it is possible to mobilize individual creativity on a very broad scale.
—James A. Champy (American Business Consultant)

The secret of Love is the joy of self-giving.
The secret of joy is self-giving. If any part in you is without joy, it means that it has not given itself, it wants to keep itself for itself.
—Nolini Kanta Gupta (Indian Hindu Revolutionary)

Whoever has the luck to be born a character can laugh even at death. Because a character will never die! A man will die, a writer, the instrument of creation: but what he has created will never die!
—Luigi Pirandello (Italian Dramatist)

Getting even with somebody is no way to get ahead of anybody.
—Cullen Hightower (American Humorist)