The Dhammapada (vv. 4-5) teaches us that letting hate take over only hurts us in the long run:
Not by hating hatred ceases?
In this world of tooth and claw;?
Love alone from hate releases?
This is Eternal Law.
Hatred, if harbored, engulfs the individual, amplifying suffering without affecting the object of our hatred.
Getting over hate takes some real effort—developing nurturing love, compassion, and equanimity.
- Cultivate Understanding: Practicing empathy and compassion softens the grip of hatred.
- Practice Acceptance: Acknowledging that we cannot alter the past or control others’ actions releases resentment.
- Practice Forgiveness: Letting go of the desire for retribution frees us from the burden of resentment and propels us forward.
- Set Boundaries: Limiting contact or avoiding triggering situations redirects our energy toward positive pursuits.
- Create Space: Temporal, physical, emotional, psychological, social, or virtual space offers clarity and facilitates healthier boundaries.
Even small efforts to integrate these teachings can shift your perspective and foster growth, one step at a time.