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Get Busy, Get Happy: Feeling Productive is an Underrated Psychostimulant

May 30, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Get Busy, Get Happy: Feeling Productive Is an Underrated Psychostimulant Get busy doing the things that matter most to you.

Get busy with the things that inspire you.

Do something you care about. Pursue a hobby project. Help a loved one.

Find aspects of what you love in what you’re already doing. If daily life seems filled with drudgery, do even the most menial task better than anyone else.

Unless your sadness is grave, feeling productive can be a potent psychostimulant, albeit in a more subtle and internalized manner compared to other stimulants.

The sense of accomplishment and purpose that comes with productivity can stimulate neurotransmitters like dopamine and serotonin, promoting a positive mood and increased motivation.

Fuel your motivation by turning drudgery into delight. Pick yourself up quickly by doing something that inspires you. Focus on the positives of tasks and your life.

Idea for Impact: Feeling accomplished will give you a “natural high.” You’ll not only lose track of time, but you’ll also feel excited and energized.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Mental Models Tagged With: Altruism, Attitudes, Emotions, Getting Along, Mindfulness, Suffering

Silence Speaks Louder in Conversations

May 27, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Unlocking Conversations: The Power of Silence

During conversations, letting moments of silence linger can be incredibly impactful.

A quiet pause signals that you’re really tuned in, not just to the other’s words, but to all the feelings and subtleties behind them.

It gives others the chance to gather their thoughts, find the right words, or just mull over what they’ve said.

Give the speaker the time and space they need to fully express themselves.

Especially when someone’s opening up about something personal or emotional, silence creates a safe space for them to to lay it all out there.

Get comfortable with silence.

A lull in a conversation can make you uncomfortable. Embrace that discomfort.

An interlude can tempt you to fill it with chatter. Hold back a bit.

You may even get the inclination to “one-up” them by sharing your own past experiences and solutions. Don’t diminish what they’re going through.

Be fully present in the moment.

Make ’em feel like they’re being heard, like their thoughts and feelings matter.

Embrace the quiet. It shows respect for their vulnerability and allows them to experience and explore their emotions without interruptions or judgment.

Idea for Impact: Silence isn’t a vacuum to be filled by noise. Silence can encourage introspection and self-discovery. You’ll be amazed at what people share when given an extra bit of space.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Managing People, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Conversations, Etiquette, Getting Along, Likeability, Listening, Social Skills

Inspirational Quotations #1051

May 26, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Why should we look to the past in order to prepare for the future? Because there is nowhere else to look.
—James E. Burke (American Business Executive)

In human life, you will find players of religion until the knowledge and proficiency in religion will be cleansed from all superstitions, and will be purified and perfected by the enlightenment of real science.
—Mustafa Kemal Ataturk (Founder of the Turkish Republic)

Only those who are capable of silliness can be called truly intelligent.
—Christopher Isherwood (Anglo-American Novelist, Playwright)

Prayer is more than meditation. In meditation the source of strength is one’s self. When one prays he goes to a source of strength greater than his own.
—Soong Mei-ling (Chinese Political Figure)

The job of arguing with the umpire belongs to the manager, because it won’t hurt the team if he gets thrown out of the game.
—Earl Weaver (American Baseball Player, Manager)

Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.
—William C. Dement (American Sleep Researcher)

If the word has the potency to revive and make us free, it has also the power to blind, imprison, and destroy.
—Ralph Ellison (American Novelist)

We can make inspired guesses, but we don’t know for certain what physical and chemical properties of the planet’s crust, its ocean, and its atmosphere made it so conducive to such a sudden appearance of life …
—Isaac Asimov (American Novelist, Critic, Popular Scientist)

Government is an evil; it is only the thoughtlessness and vices of men that make it a necessary evil. When all men are good and wise, government will of itself decay.
—Percy Bysshe Shelley (English Poet)

When people have nothing, all they want is a handful of grains.
When they become wealthy, they treat the world like a straw.
Material objects by themselves are not great or worthless.
It is the fluctuating fortune of people that makes things appear big or small.
—Bhartrihari (Hindu Philosopher, Grammarian)

Ask thy purse what thou should spend.
—Scottish Proverb

I am struck by the incredible role played by the interplay of chance events with intentional choices. While the turning points themselves are indeed often fortuitous, how we respond to them is anything but so. It is this very quality of how we respond systematically to chance events that is crucial.
—N. R. Narayana Murthy (Indian Businessperson)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Don’t Let Hate Devour You

May 25, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Buddhist Wisdom on the Destructive Force of Harbored Hatred Buddhist philosophy identifies hate (dveṣa) as one of the three poisons (triviṣa,) alongside greed and ignorance, which fuel suffering and impede spiritual progress.

The Dhammapada (vv. 4-5) teaches us that letting hate take over only hurts us in the long run:

Not by hating hatred ceases?
In this world of tooth and claw;?
Love alone from hate releases?
This is Eternal Law.

Hatred, if harbored, engulfs the individual, amplifying suffering without affecting the object of our hatred.

Getting over hate takes some real effort—developing nurturing love, compassion, and equanimity.

  • Cultivate Understanding: Practicing empathy and compassion softens the grip of hatred.
  • Practice Acceptance: Acknowledging that we cannot alter the past or control others’ actions releases resentment.
  • Practice Forgiveness: Letting go of the desire for retribution frees us from the burden of resentment and propels us forward.
  • Set Boundaries: Limiting contact or avoiding triggering situations redirects our energy toward positive pursuits.
  • Create Space: Temporal, physical, emotional, psychological, social, or virtual space offers clarity and facilitates healthier boundaries.

Even small efforts to integrate these teachings can shift your perspective and foster growth, one step at a time.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Managing People, Mental Models Tagged With: Anger, Buddhism, Emotions, Getting Along, Mindfulness, Relationships, Wisdom

Boost Your Confidence Quickly: Lift Others

May 24, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Boost Your Confidence: Lift Others Up! Need a confidence pick-me-up? Try lifting someone else’s spirits to boost your own.

Everybody needs hope, sometimes desperately. Just find some honest ways to dish it out. Realistic hope works like magic for the blues.

When you help others feel more sure of themselves, they’ll start seeing you as more assured too, treating you accordingly. That quick shot of purpose and fulfillment reminds you that you’re making a difference. This positive feedback loop just amps up your confidence even more.

Ain’t nothing wrong with doing good for selfish reasons like this.

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Filed Under: Managing People, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Altruism, Confidence, Emotions, Kindness, Likeability, Mindfulness, Motivation

Equip for Victory: Prebriefing Builds Strategic Readiness

May 23, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Equip for Victory: Prebriefing Builds Strategic Readiness When military leaders are prepared for a mission or operation, they’re furnished with key information and discussion topics in advance. This prebriefing ensures thorough familiarity with mission details, objectives, and potential challenges, ensuring they’re well-informed and able to effectively lead their teams during the operation.

When you’re setting up big delegations or missions and all folks might not know what’s really going on, organize an orientation session and conduct a pre-briefing. Craft comprehensive talking points encompassing delegation objectives, stakeholders, ground realities, challenges, and desired outcomes. Offer requisite background information and context, including historical or cultural nuances, potential sensitivities, contentious areas, or strategic imperatives influencing discussions.

Idea for Impact: Pre-briefing equips teams to advocate effectively and fosters accountability, minimizing surprises and enabling effective handling of contingencies.

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Filed Under: Business Stories, Effective Communication, Leading Teams, Mental Models Tagged With: Conflict, Leadership, Meetings, Mental Models, Presentations, Teams

The Arrogance of Success

May 22, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The Arrogance of Success: Contentment Often Leads to Stagnation Don’t look in the rearview mirror and expect that what led to past success can lead to new success. Human nature is such that we don’t like to contemplate letting go of the skills and behaviors that “got us here.” The arrogance of success is to assume that what you did yesterday will be sufficient for tomorrow. Contentment often leads to stagnation.

Have a learning mindset. After every win, be critical—even faultfinding—and try to understand what made you successful in each case with brutal self-honesty. Was it luck? Was it skill?

Idea for Impact: Let success be a brilliant teacher in the areas where weaknesses must be addressed.

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Filed Under: Business Stories, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Assertiveness, Critical Thinking, Discipline, Innovation, Introspection, Luck, Mental Models, Parables, Thinking Tools, Thought Process, Toyota

Talk to Your Key Stakeholders Every Week

May 21, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Stay Connected, Stay Informed: Weekly Conversations with Key Stakeholders Get into the routine of catching up with your key stakeholders from various roles regularly.

You don’t need to have long meetings—even just a quick ten-minute chat can do wonders.

Think of it like doing regular walk-abouts to keep your ear to the ground. You’ll stay in the loop and spot any areas that need attention.

Plus, you’ll strengthening relationships. Being accessible and open to listening encourages people to speak up and deal with issues then and there. You’ll nip problems in the bud.

Idea for Impact: Stay connected, stay informed. Being open goes a long way.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Leading Teams, MBA in a Nutshell Tagged With: Coaching, Conversations, Critical Thinking, Delegation, Great Manager, Problem Solving, Quality, Relationships

Pretotype It: Fail Fast, Learn Faster

May 20, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

'The Right It' by Alberto Savoia (ISBN 0062884654) Inundated with promising ideas but craving a quick method to distinguish the gems from the duds? Consider Pretotyping, an idea validation technique, championed by Silicon Valley entrepreneur Alberto Savoia.

Think mockups, landing pages, conjectures, or role-playing. Unlike prototyping, where you build functional or semi-functional versions of your product- or service-idea, pretotyping keeps it cheap and low-fidelity. It’s all about figuring out who your idea’s really for and getting their take on it pronto.

Idea for Impact: Try pretotyping—it’s the quickest way to learn how not-so-good your ideas really are.

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Filed Under: MBA in a Nutshell, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills, The Great Innovators Tagged With: Creativity, Customer Service, Innovation, Problem Solving, Thinking Tools, Thought Process

Inspirational Quotations #1050

May 19, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

We are all inclined to judge ourselves by our ideals; others by their acts.
—Dwight Morrow (American Businessman, Diplomat)

No doing without some ruing.
—Sigrid Undset (Norwegian Novelist)

Beauty in the flesh will continue to rule the world.
—Florenz Ziegfeld Jr. (American Theatre Manager)

The day I become content is the day I cease to be anything more than a man who hit home runs.
—Hank Aaron (American Baseball Player)

Too often the people complain that they have done nothing with their lives and then they wait for somebody to tell them that this isn’t so.
—Charles Bukowski (American Writer)

A library is where you meet fascinating characters you never forget.
—Judy Blume (American Author)

There’s been progress toward seeing that nature and culture are not opposing terms, and that wilderness is not the only kind of landscape for environmentalists to concern themselves with.
—Michael Pollan (American Food Writer)

The lot of critics is to be remembered by what they failed to understand.
—George Moore (Irish Writer)

It is very very difficult to lift the rock till the peak of the mountain. But it’s very very easy to get the same rock from the peak to the mountain foot. In the same way it is very difficult task to induce noble thoughts in to a person’s mind and to make him/her a good individual. But it’s far more simple to induce bad habits in a person.
—Subhashita Manjari (Sanskrit Anthology of Proverbs)

Charity ain’t giving people what you wants to give, it’s giving people what they need to get.
—Terry Pratchett (English Fantasy Writer)

When a woman behaves like a man why doesn’t she behave like a nice man?
—Edith Evans (English Actress)

It’s one of the tragic ironies of the theatre that only one man in it can count on steady work—the night watchman.
—Tallulah Bankhead (American Actress)

It’s a terribly hard job to spend a billion dollars and get your money’s worth.
—George M. Humphrey (American Lawyer)

When fortune empties her chamber pot on your head, smile and say We are going to have a summer shower.
—John A. Macdonald (Canadian Statesman)

The worst possible outlook is indifference that says, ‘I can’t do anything about it; I’ll just get by.’ Behaving like that deprives you of one of the essentials of being human: the capacity and the freedom to feel outraged. That freedom is indispensable, as is the political involvement that goes with it.
—Stephane Hessel (French Diplomat, Writer, Concentration Camp Surviv)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

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