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The Problem with Self-Help

April 18, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Self-help Glosses Over Human Complexity for Catchy Slogans and Quick Fixes At its core, self-help isn’t a flawed concept, but its portrayal often deserves scrutiny: the self-help culture tends to foster an unrealistic belief in our ability to attain perfection.

Self-help resources, at times, offer nothing more than common-sense wisdom—things we might overlook until someone points them out. However, self-help also has a tendency to oversimplify (“practice gratitude, you’ll attract abundance”) and make grandiose claims (“unleash the unstoppable force within you and achieve greatness beyond your wildest dreams!”) about intricate personal matters, setting the stage for unrealistic hopes and eventual disappointment. As I’ve mentioned before, the value of self-help resources depends on whether their core message aligns with an individual’s current needs and challenges.

And then, self-help assumes we all know exactly what we want and what a perfect life looks like. It often takes for granted that it can effortlessly bridge the gap between our present reality and the ideal life we dream of.

Idea for Impact: While self-help resources can offer valuable insights and motivation for personal growth, it’s crucial to approach them with a discerning mindset.

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Filed Under: Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Books, Discipline, Lifehacks, Motivation, Personal Growth

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About: Nagesh Belludi [hire] is a St. Petersburg, Florida-based freethinker, investor, and leadership coach. He specializes in helping executives and companies ensure that the overall quality of their decision-making benefits isn’t compromised by a lack of a big-picture understanding.

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