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What’s Next When You Get Snubbed for a Promotion

January 29, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

What's the Plan After Being Overlooked for a Promotion? Feeling passed over for a promotion hits hard, but how you handle it makes all the difference.

Sure, you might want to unleash some frustration on your boss or resort to sticking pins in a voodoo doll resembling them.

Set a Clear Path to Reach Your Career Goals

Take a breather and allow yourself to recover from the setback, but don’t let self-pity take control. It’s normal to experience moments of low spirits, but ensure it doesn’t evolve into an ongoing cycle of self-pity.

Circle back to your boss and ask straight up, “What do I need to do for that next promotion?” Keep it simple. Collaborate on a plan. If you’re lucky, you’ll both be on the same page, paving the way for future success.

Your boss might promise to make things right, but don’t get your hopes up. Companies, especially HR, have a reputation for dropping the ball.

Get Advice from a Supportive Mentor

A supportive mentor brings valuable perspective, insight, and guidance to help navigate the situation constructively. They might suggest that perhaps you weren’t quite ready for that promotion, or maybe you pushed too hard or inadvertently rubbed someone the wrong way.

Alternatively, it could be that the right people simply haven’t noticed you yet. Building key relationships is crucial for climbing the career ladder, so investing time in nurturing those connections is essential advice your mentor might offer.

If you’re feeling stuck, it might be time to explore other options, especially if your current job isn’t aligning with your long-term career goals. But remember, jumping ship isn’t always the quick fix. Dealing with promotion issues or performance setbacks in a familiar environment can be easier than starting anew, where you have to prove yourself from scratch and navigate new dynamics.

Idea for Impact: Own Your Path to Promotion

There’s a big difference between not getting what you want and not getting what you’ve earned. When you’re aiming for something but haven’t secured it yet, it’s up to you to figure out the steps needed to make it happen.

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Filed Under: Career Development, Managing People Tagged With: Career Planning, Human Resources, Job Transitions, Managing the Boss, Personal Growth, Winning on the Job

Inspirational Quotations #1034

January 28, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Genius goes around the world in its youth incessantly apologizing for having large feet. What wonder that later in life it should be inclined to raise those feet too swiftly to fools and bores.
—F. Scott Fitzgerald (American Novelist)

Remember, no more effort is required to aim high in life, to demand abundance and prosperity, than is required to accept misery and poverty.
—Napoleon Hill (American Author)

That which exercises reason is more excellent than that which does not exercise reason; there is nothing more excellent than the universe, therefore the universe exercises reason.
—Zeno of Citium (Greek Philosopher)

Every one of us, whatever our speculative opinions, knows better than he practices, and recognizes a better law than he obeys.
—James Anthony Froude (British Historian)

Little by little, through patience and repeated effort, the mind will become stilled in the Self.
—The Bhagavad Gita (Hindu Scripture)

It might be a good idea if the various countries of the world would occasionally swap history books, just to see what other people are doing with the same set of facts.
—Burton Hillis (William E. Vaughan) (American Columnist)

An ignorant doctor is the aide-de-camp of death.
—Avicenna (Persian Physician, Philosopher, Polymath)

The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding, because to understand is to be free.
—Baruch Spinoza (Dutch Philosopher)

Writing has laws of perspective, of light and shade just as painting does, or music. If you are born knowing them, fine. If not, learn them. Then rearrange the rules to suit yourself.
—Truman Capote (American Novelist)

Among those points of self-education which take up the form of mental discipline, there is one of great importance, and, moreover, difficult to deal with, because it involves an internal conflict, and equally touches our vanity and our ease. It consists in the tendency to deceive ourselves regarding all we wish for, and the necessity of resistance to these desires.
—Michael Faraday (British Physicist, Chemist)

The secrets of life are not shown except to sympathy and likeness.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (American Philosopher)

Familiarity breeds contempt, while rarity wins admiration.
—Apuleius (Roman Prose Writer)

We are not interested in the possibilities of defeat; they do not exist.
—Queen Victoria (British Royal)

Non-violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution. Until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages.
—Thomas Edison (American Inventor)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

When It’s Over, Leave

January 27, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

When It's Over, Leave Persistence is admirable, but there’s a thin line—it can easily tip over into stubbornness. Continuing to nurture or sustain something that has hit a dead-end or has ceased to thrive is futile and may even be detrimental.

Once a situation or relationship has run its course, investing more time and effort into a lost cause is just a waste. Resilience kicks in when you let go of specific expectations and embrace the current reality. Instead of stubbornly clinging to the past, shift your focus to what you can control. Quitting isn’t always a sign of weakness.

Idea for Impact: When it’s over, leave. Pivot. Don’t water a dead flower. Acknowledge closure, let go, and channel your energy toward fresh opportunities or areas of growth instead of holding on to what’s in the rearview mirror.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Mental Models Tagged With: Assertiveness, Balance, Decision-Making, Discipline, Persuasion, Wisdom

Think Simple, Lead Better

January 26, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Managers sometimes make decisions that unnecessarily complicate things Managers sometimes make decisions that unnecessarily complicate things, whether intentionally or unintentionally.

Newbie MBAs often bring in their overly rigorous perspectives, frameworks, and analytical tools. However, if they don’t use them wisely, the theoretical frameworks learned in the comfort of the B-school classroom can actually make things more complex in the trenches of the workplace. Collaborating with someone experienced, practical, and familiar with the company’s ins and outs can significantly improve managerial decision-making. Effectiveness comes from finding the right methodical balance and simplifying things when it makes sense.

Idea for Impact: Not everyone is naturally inclined to simplify, but with some on-the-job experience and feedback from the crew, managers can learn to cut the fat and make things smoother over time.

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Filed Under: Mental Models Tagged With: Balance, Clutter, Decision-Making, Goals, Happiness

The Problem with Hiring Ex-Entrepreneurs

January 25, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The Problem with Hiring Ex-Entrepreneurs Former entrepreneurs often switch to corporate gigs, aiming for a better work-life balance and a touch of structure. While their creative mojo can jazz up your team, there’s a flip side: culture clashes. Entrepreneurs are used to doing things their way; so the corporate world, with its hierarchy and risk aversion, might feel like a straightjacket to them.

Expecting them to play by the ‘rules’? That’s where they’ll hit a snag. Their knack for juggling multiple roles clashes with the corporate call for slowing down and delegating—it’s a bit like expecting a cat to bark. Navigating the corporate landscape, with its politics, large teams, and strategy alignment, can be a real puzzle.

Moreover, there’s the risk that these ex-entrepreneurs might decide to pack their bags and return to startups or solo ventures if the corporate environment cramps their style too much.

Idea for Impact: If you’re considering hiring an ex-entrepreneur, watch for clashes. Set expectations and use their strengths without stepping on corporate toes.

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Filed Under: Career Development, Managing People Tagged With: Coaching, Conflict, Entrepreneurs, Personality

When in Doubt, Write it Out

January 24, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

When in Doubt, Write it Out Taking a breather and jotting down your thoughts can help shake off that stress loop from doubts, confusion, and big decisions.

When stress hits, your mind tends to replay the same negative tune, trapped in a feedback loop. Engaging in free-writing, sketching out a mindmap, or creating a list of pros and cons provides your mind with a reprieve, alleviating the overwhelm and offering a fresh perspective.

Idea for Impact: Putting your reflections on paper helps clear things up, letting you tackle one thing at a time without drowning in all your worries. Plus it signals to your brain to stop overthinking on the issue.

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Filed Under: Health and Well-being, Mental Models Tagged With: Anxiety, Mindfulness, Stress, Time Management, Wisdom, Worry

The Problem with Hiring Smart People

January 23, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Smart people are puzzled by initial resistance and slow uptake Hiring smart individuals indeed adds valuable intellectual capital to organizations, but it also brings about unique challenges. The struggle emerges as these individuals try to grasp why their brilliant ideas face initial resistance and why others don’t catch on as quickly.

Smart individuals become frustrated when dealing with skeptics among their colleagues, having to invest precious time in aligning the team without coming off as bossy—especially when collaborating with peers over whom they lack direct authority. The aggravation intensifies as they would prefer to generate more genius ideas than get caught up in the challenge of convincing others about concepts that seem like a no-brainer to them.

Idea for Impact: Smart folks, don’t overlook relationship-building skills; intelligence isn’t everything for your goals.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Communication, Conflict, Getting Along, Hiring & Firing, Negotiation, Persuasion

Spot the Signs, Draw the Lines

January 22, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Patronizing Behavior: Spot the Signs, Draw the Lines Ever experienced disempowerment, frustration, or communication breakdown due to someone’s perceived superiority or authority? Learn to identify three common patronizing behaviors:

  • Talking down: Speaking in a simplistic or slow manner, assuming you won’t grasp complex concepts.
  • Unsolicited advice: Acting like you can’t handle things on your own, and, worse, making decisions for you without consultation.
  • Disregarding opinions: Interrupting, dismissing feelings, and implying overreaction or irrationality.

First move: Stay mindful. Recognize signs of patronizing behavior in those around you. Defend your boundaries: Be assertive when lines are crossed, standing tall against disrespect or manipulation.

Idea for Impact: Respect starts with you. Your standards for how you’ll be treated matter!

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Inspirational Quotations #1033

January 21, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi

Nothing in the world delights a truly religious people so much, as consigning them to eternal damnation.
—James Hogg (Scottish poet)

His daily prayer, far better understood in acts than in words, was simply doing good.
—John Greenleaf Whittier (American Poet, Abolitionist)

A special kind of beauty exists which is born in language, of language, and for language.
—Gaston Bachelard (French Philosopher)

Much of the modern resistance to chastity comes from men’s belief that they “own” their bodies—those vast and perilous estates, pulsating with the energy that made the worlds, in which they find themselves without their consent and from which they are ejected at the pleasure of Another!
—C. S. Lewis (Irish-born Author, Scholar)

Our modern states are preparing for war without even knowing the future enemy.
—Alfred Adler (Austrian Psychiatrist)

Society can only pursue its normal course by means of a certain progression of changes.
—John Morley, 1st Viscount Morley of Blackburn (British Statesman)

Just because your mind tells you that something is awful or evil or unplanned or otherwise negative doesn’t mean you have to agree. Just because other people say that something is hopeless or crazy or broken to pieces doesn’t mean it is. We decide what story to tell ourselves.
—Ryan Holiday (American Author)

It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.
—Aeschylus (Greek Playwright)

Evil he overcame by righteousness.
—Nagasena (Buddhist Intellectual)

No one can understand love who has not experienced infatuation. And no one can understand infatuation, no matter how many times he has experienced it.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

Few tasks are more like the torture of Sisyphus than housework, with its endless repetition: the clean becomes soiled, the soiled is made clean, over and over, day after day. The housewife wears herself out marking time: she makes nothing, simply perpetuates the present … Eating, sleeping, cleaning—the years no longer rise up towards heaven, they lie spread out ahead, grey and identical. The battle against dust and dirt is never won.
—Simone de Beauvoir (French Philosopher)

One of the difficult things of so much travelling is to say goodbye.
—Michael Palin (English Actor, Writer, Television Traveler)

The church saves sinners, but science seeks to stop their manufacture.
—Elbert Hubbard (American Writer)

The tyrant grinds down his slaves and they don’t turn against him, they crush those beneath them.
—Emily Bronte (English Novelist, Poet)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Don’t Do the Easiest Jobs First

January 15, 2024 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Eat that Frog; How to get your working day off to a good start Yes, it’s hard to hit the ground running in the morning. It’s tempting to mark easy tasks off your to-do list—switching over your laundry or checking email in a few minutes, but you never stop there. The sense of accomplishment you’ll get from such small things usually never builds up.

Small tasks may make you feel as if you’re being super-productive, but when you start your working day with such a laid-back approach, it’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of avoiding demanding, complicated tasks. When you reach the end of the day, you’ll find you’ve not achieved anything substantial at all—just a lot of ‘stuff’ that won’t make much difference. Tackling your easiest tasks first won’t build confidence for the harder ones.

In his bestselling book Eat That Frog! : 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time (2001,) self-help author Brian Tracy recommends taking on the most challenging task first—the large, hideous frog. Your frog is almost certainly the task you’re most likely to put on the back burner, but it’ll also have the greatest impact.

If you want to trick your brain into getting started, use my 10-Minute Dash Technique to launch that first step of the ‘frog’ that’s the toughest. Within 10 minutes, you’ll find that getting started and feeling good about your progress means it’s easy to build momentum. Seemingly difficult tasks get easier once you get working on them. That’s how you lower the threshold for taking action and building momentum. When you’ve accomplished a high-impact ‘frog,’ you can power through the rest of the day knowing that your most important task has been achieved.

Idea for Impact: Unleash your productivity potential. Don’t fill your day with small things that add up. Yes, you can move over the laundry in a few minutes, but don’t stop there.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Decision-Making, Discipline, Getting Things Done, Motivation, Procrastination, Tardiness, Task Management, Time Management

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