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Inspirational Quotations #1028

December 17, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

If one sticks too rigidly to one’s principles, one would hardly see anybody.
—Agatha Christie (British Novelist)

The world isn’t going backward, if you can just stay young enough to remember what it was really like when you were really young.
—A. J. Liebling (American Journalist)

Praise the bridge that carried you over.
—George Colman the Younger (English Playwright)

The greatest truth is the most simple one.
—Leo Tolstoy (Russian Novelist)

If you rest, you rust.
—Helen Hayes (American Actress)

Hunger will make a monkey eat pepper.
—Haitian Proverb

Cynicism is an unpleasant way of saying the truth.
—Lillian Hellman (American Playwright)

Principles have a way of enduring, as do the few irreducible individuals who maintain allegiance to them.
—Christopher Hitchens (Anglo-American Social Critic)

There comes a time when soft power or talking with evil will not work where, unfortunately, hard power is the only thing that works.
—Colin Powell (American Military Leader)

One of the very nicest things about life is the way we must regularly stop whatever it is we are doing and devote our attention to eating.
—Luciano Pavarotti (Italian Tenor)

A man who tries to please all men by weakening his position or compromising his beliefs, in the end has neither position nor beliefs. A man must say what he believes clearly, without dogma, and without guile.
—Pierre Trudeau (Canadian Statesman)

Life has no meaning in itself but it is itself an opportunity to make it meaningful.
—Sri Rajneesh (Osho) (Indian Spiritual Teacher)

The difficult thing isn’t living with other people, it’s understanding them.
—Jose Saramago (Portuguese Novelist)

It is respectable to have no illusions, and safe, and profitable and dull.
—Joseph Conrad (Polish-born British Novelist)

To show pity is felt as a sign of contempt because one has clearly ceased to be an object of fear as soon as one is pitied.
—Friedrich Nietzsche (German Philosopher, Scholar)

Though a superior is rather to be loved, yet by the insolent he ought to be feared.
—Bonaventure (Italian Christian Scholar)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

The Best Way To Change Is To Change Your Behavior First

December 14, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

How 'Faking It Till You Make It' Could Help You Change Visualize change as a triangular framework, with thoughts, emotions, and behaviors as its vertices. Manipulate one element, and the other two inevitably respond. When your thoughts evolve, your emotions and actions undergo transformation; altering your emotions can reshape your thoughts and behaviors, and changes in behavior can impact your thoughts and emotions.

This symbolic triangle acts as a guide for fostering meaningful change. It provides the flexibility to choose the route that best aligns with your individuality and circumstances. Start somewhere.

Idea for Impact: If you find yourself at a crossroads, acknowledging the necessity for change but waiting for the mental and emotional shifts to emerge, take a gentle step in the right direction. Embrace the timeless wisdom of “acting as if” or “faking it until you make it.” By altering your actions, you’ll soon notice your thoughts and emotions falling in line, per the Self-Perception Theory. Commitment becomes a potent catalyst for transformation—remember that your self-concept isn’t solely shaped by existing beliefs and emotions but can also be molded by your behavior.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Mental Models Tagged With: Change Management, Discipline, Emotions, Mental Models, Motivation, Psychology, Resilience

How to Feel More Beautiful

December 11, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Some people base too much of their self-esteem on how they look. They’ll go to great lengths to preserve how good they think they look.

But props aren’t the real beauty. Props are just accessories.

Beauty should be more than meeting some subjective, media-defined, Kardashians- prototyped notion of what’s attractive. Ultimately, the verb “make up” suggests compensating for something missing or deficient.

Arguably beauty is admittedly a worthy aspiration. There is no virtue at all in eschewing good looks or those perceived to have them. Indeed, western philosophy usually considers beauty among the absolute human values—along with goodness, gentleness, self-control, truth, and justice.

However, you shouldn’t just don’t let attitudes about looks and sexual desirability overtake all other features of your self-esteem.

Feeling your very best—your most beautiful—doesn’t necessarily have to do with the way you look. Beauty is about finding what makes you happy, comfortable, and confident: wearing a specific set of clothes, going for a run, spending time with people you love, getting a good night’s sleep, and walking through warm sand—all these can make you feel good about yourself. They can give you a slight glow that shows.

Idea for Impact: Beauty is the highest expression of our physical selves. Let your beauty radiate from the inside out.

Base your self-esteem upon your inner, not outer, qualities. Define yourself in ways other than how you look. Zero in on what’s good about your abilities, skills, empathy, cheerfulness, personality, relationships, and perspective on the world. Even small shifts in your outlook can improve your overall self-esteem.

What does it take for you to become a more attractive version of yourself? Figure it out, and try to get more of it (whatever it is!) into your life.

No point in being pretty on the outside when you’re ugly on the inside.

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Filed Under: Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Attitudes, Confidence, Perfectionism, Resilience, Success, Wisdom

Inspirational Quotations #1027

December 10, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

A day’s impact is better than a month of dead pull.
—Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. (American Jurist, Author)

There is no dealing with great sorrow as if it were under the control of our wills. It is a terrible phenomenon, whose laws we must study, and to whose conditions we must submit, if we would mitigate it.
—Sheridan Le Fanu (Irish Novelist)

Remember that in giving any reason at all for refusing, you lay some foundation for a future request.
—Arthur Helps (British Essayist, Historian)

Reason, sometimes, seems to me to be the faculty our soul possesses of understanding nothing about our body!
—Paul Valery (French Critic, Poet)

There are always people who will be better at something than you are. You have to learn to be a follower before you become a leader.
—Charlie Munger (American Investor, Philanthropist)

The theological systems of men and schools are always determined by the character of their ideal of Christ, the great central fact of the Christian system.
—Josiah Gilbert Holland (American Editor, Novelist)

Learn to use time, think of it as a friend, not an enemy. Don’t waste it in going after things you don’t want.
—Michael Korda (English-born Writer, Novelist)

What office is there which involves more responsibility, which requires more qualifications, and which ought, therefore, to be more honourable, than that of teaching?
—Harriet Martineau (English Sociologist)

Anybody who says they’re not afraid of war is either a liar, or they’re crazy.
—H. Norman Schwarzkopf (United States Army Officer)

The unjust distribution of goods persists, creating a situation of social sin that cries out to Heaven and limits the possibilities of a fuller life for so many of our brothers.
—Pope Francis (Argentinean Catholic Religious Leader)

All men wish to have truth on their side: but few to be on the side of truth.
—Richard Whately (English Philosopher, Theologian)

The historian of science may be tempted to exclaim that when paradigms change, the world itself changes with them.
—Thomas S. Kuhn (American Philosopher)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Decisions, Decisions: Are You a Maximizing Maniac or a Satisficing Superstar?

December 7, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Are you one of those people who agonize over every little decision? Do you find yourself in an epic battle of comparison when it comes to picking out what to pack for your holiday, choosing a movie, buying cereal, or selecting a restaurant? Chances are you are a maximizer—an expert in the art of analyzing every option to make that elusive “perfect” choice. It’s in your DNA to want the absolute best.

Perfectionism Often Leads to Frustration and Stagnation

Don’t Yearn for Perfection in Every Choice

You stand apart from the other category of decision-makers—the satisficers. These individuals effortlessly select from a variety of good options, swiftly make decisions, and contentedly live with the outcomes. They don’t invest time pursuing perfection; for them, “good enough” is just that—good enough.

Most people, though, fall somewhere on the spectrum between satisficing and maximizing. Studies conducted by the Swarthmore College psychologist Barry Schwartz, the author of the best-selling book The Paradox of Choice—Why More Is Less (2004,) have shown that extreme maximizers tend to suffer from lower levels of optimism, happiness, self-esteem, and overall life satisfaction. These perfectionists are even less content with their everyday decisions and are plagued by constant regret. So, while these perfectionists are out there desperately hunting for the highest-rated restaurant, movie, or cruise, they might be sucking the joy out of life—for themselves and those around them.

Here’s a nifty trick to help you break free from this endless cycle of decision-making despair. Picture this: set a time limit of 30 to 60 seconds for most decisions in your life. In a flash, you eliminate the anxiety and nail-biting tension that usually accompanies the nonstop quest for the “right” choice. You might have to tap into your intuition or rely on that subconscious decision-making process we all possess. It’s worth it.

Perfectionism Often Leads to Frustration and Stagnation

Decisions, Decisions: Are You a Maximizing Maniac or a Satisficing Superstar Let’s be real here, beyond a certain point, comparing every single option on the planet won’t make a lick of difference. Save yourself the precious commodity called time by getting a general sense of what’s out there and settling for something that’s perfectly fine.

And once you’ve made that choice, it’s time to embrace it wholeheartedly. Focus on the benefits, the positives, and all the amazing things your decision brings into your life. Instead of incessantly second-guessing yourself, you’ll have more time to revel in the fruits of your choice. Imagine that—a life where you’re actually enjoying your decisions instead of fretting over whether they were “right” or not.

Here’s the golden rule: learn to be content with choices that meet your core requirements rather than constantly chasing the mirage of the “best.” Make peace with satisficing and banish the notion of “the one that got away” from your thoughts. It won’t be a walk in the park, mind you. Breaking old habits is always a challenge, and initially, you might find yourself yearning for that elusive perfection. But in the grand scheme of things, liberating yourself from the clutches of maximizing will bring you mental freedom and a more fulfilling approach to decision-making.

Idea for Impact: Maximize when needed, satisfice when best. Learn to balance for happiness’ sake.

Ready to embrace the world of satisficing? Leave behind the exhausting pursuit of perfection, and let ‘good enough’ choices bring you happiness and satisfaction. Your future self will thank you for it!

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Filed Under: Health and Well-being, Living the Good Life, Mental Models Tagged With: Anxiety, Assertiveness, Balance, Decision-Making, Discipline, Mindfulness, Perfectionism, Psychology, Simple Living

When Bean Counters Turn Risk Managers: Lessons from the Ford Pinto Scandal

December 4, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

When Bean Counters Turn Risk Managers: Lessons from the Ford Pinto Scandal During the 1970s, the Ford Pinto scandal became a notorious and impactful episode within the automotive industry. This scandal revolved around significant safety concerns and ethical dilemmas associated with the Ford Pinto, a subcompact car. At the center of this controversy was the Pinto’s design flaw, which rendered it susceptible to fuel tank fires in the event of rear-end collisions.

The Pinto’s fuel tank was located in a highly vulnerable spot just behind the rear axle. This design flaw meant that, in the unfortunate event of a rear-end collision, the fuel tank could rupture, resulting in fuel leakage and, tragically, sometimes even fatal fires. Concerns regarding the safety of the Pinto were raised both internally within Ford and externally by safety advocates and engineers.

After at least fifty-nine lives had been lost, the scandal escalated dramatically when it came to light that Ford had conducted an internal cost-benefit analysis, which demonstrated that rectifying the design flaw and enhancing the Pinto’s safety would be more expensive than potentially settling legal claims for injuries and fatalities stemming from accidents. Ford had, with unwavering determination and, at times, dubious tactics, lobbied against a crucial safety standard that would have compelled them to address the risk and redesign the Pinto’s fire-prone gas tank.

This episode served as a stark lesson for the nation in the principles of cost-benefit analysis. The cost of implementing rubber liners to fix the problem was estimated at $137 million, while a meticulous calculation of the all costs associated with those who suffered and perished only amounted to $49.5 million.

Overall, society has made significant progress since the Ford Pinto scandal. Across various industries, from construction to healthcare, aviation to retail, automotive to hospitality, the principle of “safety first” is not merely a hollow industry slogan. Projects and endeavors now prioritize the well-being and protection of individuals, employees, and the general public.

While some may resent our increasingly litigious society and the abundance of frivolous lawsuits that burden the legal system and public resources, it is important to acknowledge that this litigious nature has played a crucial role in holding companies and regulators accountable.

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Inspirational Quotations #1026

December 3, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors.
—Norman Cousins (American Journalist)

The difficulty lies, not in the new ideas, but in escaping from the old ones, which ramify, for those brought up as most of us have been, into every corner of our minds.
—Oliver Sacks (British Neurologist, Writer)

Facts are stubborn things.
—Alain-Rene Lesage (French Novelist, Dramatist)

Not everything has a name. Some things lead us into a realm beyond words.
—Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn (Russian Novelist)

Our sweat and our blood have fallen on this land to make other men rich. The pilgrimage is a witness to the suffering we have seen for generations.
—Cesar Chavez (American Labor Leader)

That’s what life is, just one learning experience after another, and when you’re through with all the learning experiences you graduate and what you get for a diploma is, you die.
—Frederik Pohl (American Author)

Boyhood is distracted for years with precepts of grammar that are infinitely prolix, perplexed and obscure.
—John Amos Comenius (Czech Educator)

The supreme crime of the church to-day is that everywhere and in all its operations and influences it is on the side of sloth of mind; that it banishes brains, it sanctifies stupidity, it canonizes incompetence.
—Upton Sinclair (American Novelist, Social Reformer)

Simple, clear purpose and principles give rise to complex and intelligent behavior. Complex rules and regulations give rise to simple and stupid behavior.
—Dee Hock (American Businessman)

No matter how cynical we become, it’s never enough to keep up.
—Lily Tomlin (American Comedy Actress)

The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.
—William Shakespeare (British Playwright)

Love is the silent conversation between two hearts.
—Paramahansa Yogananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

The perfection of art is to conceal art.
—Quintilian (Roman Rhetorician, Literary Critic)

Reasoning will never make a Man correct an ill Opinion, which by Reasoning he never acquired.
—Jonathan Swift (Irish Satirist)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

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