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Why Good Founding Stories Sell: Stories That Appeal, Stories That Relate

October 16, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

It’s the most famous “founding” story ever told. Isaac Newton often told it himself. William Stukeley first published it. Voltaire popularized it.

In 1666, Newton was strolling in a garden in Lincolnshire when he saw an apple drop from a tree. The fruit fell straight to the earth as if tugged by an invisible force. (Subsequent versions of this story had the apple striking Newton on the head.)

That mundane observation seemingly led Newton to conceive the notion of universal gravitation, which explained everything from the falling apple to the moon’s orbit. Whether it was true or not, the apple episode probably motivated Newton. But, indeed, he did not arrive at his theory of gravity at that single moment, as is commonly believed.

Most Origin Stories Make a Good Yarn

Fast-forward three and a half centuries, from England to California. Today, the “Eureka Moment” narrative is a Silicon Valley staple.

Most founding stories would rather you believe that brilliant entrepreneurs came about the outstanding idea for their startups in an almost Moses-like manner. In reality, though, that’s not the real story of how some of our iconic companies began.

When eBay launched, it gained loads of fanfare by proclaiming that Pierre Omidyar and his fiancée built the “Auction Web” to buy and collect Pez candy dispensers on the nascent internet. According to Adam Cohen’s The Perfect Store: Inside eBay (2002,) eBay’s public relations manager Mary Lou Song fabricated that founding story in 1997 to interest the media.

Netflix supposedly stemmed when co-founder Reed Hastings racked up a $40 fine with a Blockbuster store for his overdue copy of the movie Apolo 13. Netflix co-founder Marc Randolph’s That Will Never Work: The Birth of Netflix and the Amazing Life of an Idea (2019) debunks that origin myth. Although Hastings’s $40 fine inspired the process, it wasn’t the single “spark of imagination” that cooked up Netflix.

YouTube supposedly began when founders Chad Hurley and Steve Chen could not share videos of a 2005 dinner party in Chen’s San Francisco apartment. Everybody accepted the story until it was refuted by the third co-founder, Jawed Karim (who had been sidelined by Hurley and Chen.) Karim produced a prototype of YouTube inspired by HOTorNOT, a dating site that nudged users to upload photos and others to rate the looks of potential companions. Karim was particularly inspired by the concept of user-generated content versus website owners supplying the content. He set out to make a version of HOTorNOT with video. Chen later admitted that he embellished the dinner party story, which was “probably very strengthened by marketing ideas around creating a story that was very digestible.”

Facebook, first called FaceMash, was also inspired by HOTorNOT. Mark Zuckerberg and his dorm buddies created a website to post pairs of pictures from Harvard’s student community, asking users to rate the “hotter” individual.

Many Good Founding Stories are Just That—They’re Good Stories.

No company is ever founded in a single moment. Ideas evolve after assimilation and experimentation over several months, even years. It’s less interesting to say that things just develop, one idea building upon another. You won’t get as much publicity for rendering a normal-but-boring founding story.

If these mythic creation stories prove anything, it’s that people prefer a good story. People like a storyteller who’s more articulate than one who is accurate. Good stories move. Good stories lead audiences on a journey of the imagination.

Telling a Good Story is a Rehearsed Performance

Human beings are not transformed as much by statistics and facts as we are by stories. In All Marketers are Liars—The Power of Telling Authentic Stories in a Low-trust World (2005,) marketing guru Seth Godin says successful marketers don’t discuss features or benefits. They tell stories. Stories that readers want to read. And believe.

If humans were rational, we’d make judgments based on facts and statistics. But we’re not rational; we’re more convinced to act on stories, especially with emotional content. So the ability to tell a story well is a beneficial tool to add to your toolkit.

Idea for Impact: Those who can create and tell entertaining and exciting stories will have a marked advantage over others regarding persuasion. Learn to tell clear, commanding stories that make a good metaphor. Stories that appeal to emotion. Stories that relate. Stories that hold people’s attention. Stories that travel fast.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Communication, Entrepreneurs, Likeability, Negotiation, Persuasion, Presentations, Psychology

Inspirational Quotations #1019

October 15, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

Take risks … be willing to put your mind and your spirit, your time and your energy, your stomach and your emotions on the line. To search for a safe place, to search for an end to a rainbow, is to search for a place that you will hate once you find it. The soul must be nourished along with the bank account and the resume. The best nourishment for any soul is to create your own risks.
—Jim Lehrer (American Television Journalist)

A mighty flame followeth a tiny spark.
—Dante Alighieri (Italian Poet, Philosopher)

Cheerful looks make every dish a feast; and it is that which crowns a welcome.
—Philip Massinger (English Playwright)

All that is human must retrograde if it does not advance.
—Edward Gibbon (English Historian)

I think it would be well, and proper, and obedient, and pure, to grasp your one necessity and not let it go, to dangle from it limp wherever it takes you. Then even death, where you’re going no matter how you live, cannot you part.
—Annie Dillard (American Writer)

Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is essentially your own.
—Bruce Lee (American Martial Artist)

Each man must grant himself the emotions that he needs and the morality that suits him.
—Remy de Gourmont (French Poet, Writer)

Nature provides exceptions to every rule.
—Margaret Fuller (American Journalist, Feminist)

There is no prison like a guilty conscience.
—Welsh Proverb

Faith is not a commodity that you either have or don’t have enough of, or the right kind of. It’s an ongoing process.
—Sharon Salzberg (Buddhist Teacher)

Wisdom is the daughter of experience.
—Leonardo da Vinci (Italian Polymath)

Most of us are umpires at heart; we like to call balls and strikes on somebody else.
—Leo Aikman (American Columnist, Humorist)

The big money is not in the buying or the selling, but in the sitting.
—Jesse Lauriston Livermore (American Investor)

I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift would be curiosity.
—Eleanor Roosevelt (American Humanitarian)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

The Problem with People Who Don’t Think They Can Change

October 12, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

One expression I dislike is “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.” It’s a defeatist attitude that limits the realm of possibilities. By saying, “That’s just the way I am,” we are closing ourselves off to change and cultivating a stubborn exterior that rejects suggestions to improve. It’s as if we’re saying, “I don’t want to learn anymore. Life is perfect for me as it is, and I refuse to change. The world should bend to my will.”

Many become so comfortable with what works for them that they resist change, even when presented with new information that contradicts their beliefs. These beliefs become intertwined with their identity, and challenging them requires self-examination and a willingness to see the world in a new light. Unfortunately, most people hesitate to do so, as it is an attitudinal rather than intellectual handicap.

In reality, life should transform us. Learning and growing means keeping an open mind and seeking new experiences that challenge our assumptions.

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Filed Under: Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Attitudes, Critical Thinking, Persuasion, Psychology, Wisdom

Why Settle?

October 9, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

We often believe we deserve so much better, but along the way, we settle. We settle for something not quite right.

It’s a choice we get to make every day. We settle one step at a time—because we don’t take the time to find “the one,” especially, or at least, only, when the stakes are big enough.

Yes, perfectionism is the enemy of ‘done.’ But not all perfectionism is detrimental … only obsessive, maladaptive perfectionism is. Haven’t our perfectionist efforts yielded the most good & satisfaction?

Idea for Impact: Learn to listen to your voice and live life on your own terms. Be very selective when pushing yourself to the max. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve, especially when your effort is wholly justified. Be more or less perfectionistic as required.

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Assertiveness, Discipline, Getting Things Done, Goals, Perfectionism, Procrastination

Inspirational Quotations #1018

October 8, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

Errors of taste are very often the outward sign of a deep fault of sensibility.
—Jonathan Miller (English Stage Director)

Virtue is the first title of nobility.
—Moliere (French Playwright)

Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.
—Carl Gustav Jung (Swiss Psychologist)

I think there is something, more important than believing: Action! The world is full of dreamers, there aren’t enough who will move ahead and begin to take concrete steps to actualize their vision.
—W. Clement Stone (American Self-help Guru)

Though we come and go, and pass into the shadows, where we leave behind us stories told—on paper, on the wings of butterflies, on the wind, on the hearts of others—there we are remembered, there we work magic and great change—passing on the fire like a torch—forever and forever. Till the sky falls, and all things are flawless and need no words at all.
—Tanith Lee (British Science Fiction Writer)

Many men build as cathedrals were built, the part nearest the ground finished; but that part which soars toward heaven, the turrets and the spires, forever incomplete.
—Henry Ward Beecher (American Protestant Clergyman)

Mankind must destroy anti-humanity before it becomes extinct itself.
—John Hersey (American Novelist, Journalist)

Money is a tool—know how much is enough.
—Brad Feld (American Entrepreneur, Investor)

Life is not to live, but to be well.
—Martial (Ancient Roman Latin Poet)

Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality.
—Anthony de Mello (Indian-born American Theologian)

Our own faults are those we are the first to detect, and the last to forgive, in others.
—Letitia Elizabeth Landon (English Poet, Novelist)

Nature cares nothing for logic, our human logic: she has her own, which we do not recognize and do not acknowledge until we are crushed under its wheel.
—Ivan Turgenev (Russian Novelist, Playwright)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

Ethics Lessons From Akira Kurosawa’s ‘High and Low’

October 5, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

The celebrated Japanese filmmaker Akira Kurosawa is known for crafting movies that grapple with moral dilemmas. In his highly regarded work, High and Low (1962,) a successful self-made millionaire faces a wrenching ethical conundrum: his son has been abducted, and he must give up everything he has worked hard for to secure the ransom. However, he soon discovers that the kidnapper mistakenly took his chauffeur’s son instead. The question now becomes: is the life of the worker’s child worth the same sacrifice as his own? In a powerful scene, the millionaire and the chauffeur lock eyes, and the viewers are left to ponder if all lives are equally valuable.

What makes this movie a standout is its portrayal of the intricacies involved in making difficult moral choices. Our conscience cannot always provide us with the necessary guidance to navigate the complex ethical issues we face in modern society, particularly when competing values and interests are at play. Ethical decisions are about more than just meeting a specific standard, as many dilemmas are so multifaceted that it’s difficult to distinguish good from evil or determine which choice is most worthy of preference.

The key takeaway is that tackling complicated moral problems requires continuous effort and investment in researching and contemplating the proper response. Seeking input from trusted colleagues who can provide a secure space to explore the nuances and implications of difficult decisions, particularly those you might not feel comfortable discussing openly due to societal pressures, is critical.

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How to (Finally!) Stop Procrastinating, Just Do It

October 2, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Go to the gym consistently and unfailingly, even if it’s just to walk on the treadmill for ten minutes.

Even if your legs are sore, just go.

Even if you’re not feeling it, just go.

Even if there’s that something else you’d rather be doing, just go.

Just go.

Because once you’re there at the gym, you usually will get into the mood to run or achieve something more substantial.

Just do it.

Compel yourself to do just a bit of what you’re struggling to do.

Just taking action, even if you don’t plan on achieving much, can usually help you get and stay motivated.

Inertia will give way to momentum.

Idea for Impact: The “Just Do It” attitude can help you surmount mental blocks. Folks who actually get things done work at whatever they are interested in, even when they don’t feel like doing it.

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Inspirational Quotations #1017

October 1, 2023 By Nagesh Belludi

Pay as little attention to discouragement as possible. Plough ahead as a steamer does, rough or smooth—rain or shine. To carry your cargo and make your port is the point.
—Maltbie Davenport Babcock (American Clergyman)

The land ethic simply enlarges the boundaries of the community to include soils, waters, plants, and animals, or collectively: the land.
—Aldo Leopold (American Conservationist)

It doesn’t matter if a cat is black or white, so long as it catches mice.
—Deng Xiaoping (Chinese Statesman)

The best way to lose weight is to put the handle of the fridge two inches from the ground.
—Dawn French (Welsh Comedienne, Actress)

Right action is not a fixed right action, it is an action that is conditioned by love and respect. It is an action that considers the consequences of our actions in terms of whether or not they cause suffering.
—Martine Batchelor (French Buddhist Teacher)

The true measure of a career is to be able to be content, even proud, that you succeeded through your own endeavors without leaving a trail of casualties in your wake.
—Alan Greenspan (American Economist)

Words do not change their meanings so drastically in the course of centuries as, in our minds, names do in the course of a year or two.
—Marcel Proust (French Novelist)

Even the bitterest words that people say to one another seldom seem as divisive as the unspoken words that one expects from the other in vain.
—Hans Carossa (German Novelist)

The only reason people do not know much is because they do not care to know. They are incurious. Incuriousity is the oddest and most foolish failing there is.
—Stephen Fry (English Actor, Writer)

Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you.
—Zen Proverb (Japanese School of Mahayana Buddhism)

When the adulation of life is gone, the coward sneaks to his death, but the brave live on.
—George Sewell (English Physician, Poet)

Wisdom is one thing, to know how to make true judgment, how all things are steered through all things.
—Heraclitus (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

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