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Inspirational Quotations #949

June 12, 2022 By Nagesh Belludi

Nothing is so good that somebody, somewhere will not hate it.
—Frederik Pohl (American Author)

Don’t sacrifice your life to work and ideals. The most important things in life are human relations. I found that out too late.
—Katharine Susannah Prichard (Australian Writer)

Strange how love coexists with hate, how they render each other mute, how the swilling of them together makes a new and softer, sympathetic thing.
—Sonya Hartnett (Australian Novelist)

The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.
—William James (American Philosopher)

We cannot be saved until we have risen above all our enemies, not the least of which is ignorance.
—Joseph F. Smith (American Religious Leader)

I weigh the man, not his title; ’tis not the king’s stamp can make the metal better.
—William Wycherley (English Dramatist)

How easy it is to judge rightly after one sees what evil comes from judging wrongly!
—Elizabeth Gaskell (English Novelist)

The person who renders loyal service in a humble capacity will be chosen for higher responsibilities, just as the biblical servant who multiplied the one pound given him by his master was made ruler over ten cities.
—B. C. Forbes (Scottish-born American Journalist)

A bird in the hand is a certainty, but a bird in the bush may sing.
—Bret Harte (American Author)

Patience can’t be acquired overnight. It is just like building up a muscle. Every day you need to work on it.
—Eknath Easwaran (Indian Meditation Teacher, Author)

Naggers always know what they are doing. They weigh up the risks, then they go on and on and on until they get what they want or until they get punched.
—Jools Holland (English Musician, TV Presenter)

Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.
—Jacques Prevert (French Poet)

I was given talent, and if you are given it, it is your obligation to use it.
—Dennis Potter (English Dramatist)

That as long as we are being remembered, we remain alive.
—Carlos Ruiz Zafon (Spanish Novelist)

Oh, God! that bread should be so dear! And flesh and blood so cheap!
—Thomas Hood (British Poet, Humorist)

An error is simply a failure to adjust immediately from a preconception to an actuality.
—John Cage (American Composer)

He that has no charity deserves no mercy.
—English Proverb

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

You Always Have to Say ‘Good’

June 9, 2022 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

“How are you?” is usually meant less as an actual question and more a greeting-on-autopilot—a casual call-and-response.

The unwritten rule of conversation is that you’re expected to reply with nothing more than a declaration of utter satisfaction with life.

People aren’t usually interested in hearing the real answer. Responding with a “Well, to be honest, I’ve been kind of down today. Had a bad day at work” could be a faux pas. You aren’t supposed to burden every interlocutor with your situation, particularly with people who aren’t close.

So “how are you?” isn’t a bad thing to say at all—most of the time. But, there’re occasions, readable with empathic awareness, when you shouldn’t ask someone how their day is going unless you’re going to listen to their response with genuine respect and interest.

Idea for Impact: Showing that you care about people can do wonders, but if you don’t care, don’t feign that you do—people can see through it.

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Filed Under: Managing People Tagged With: Conversations, Etiquette, Getting Along, Likeability, Networking, Relationships, Social Life, Social Skills

Be Kind … To Yourself

June 6, 2022 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

In Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive (2021,) University of Texas-Austin’s Kristin Neff argues that self-acceptance and self-compassion—being good to ourselves—makes us more likely to adopt healthy behaviors.

Neff summarizes numerous studies that have suggested that self-compassion is associated with overall well-being: “The more you’re able to accept yourself, the more you’re able to make positive, healthy changes in your life.”

The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the relationship with yourself. Learn to pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Put your needs on top; give yourself compassion and comfort. Listen to your restlessness. Feelings of agitation can lead to a new life of purpose. True self-awareness can help you learn what drives you, what excites you and motivates you.

Neff suggests creating moments within each day and practicing meaningful self-care. Do something nice for yourself: take a walk in the woods, meditate, play with a pet, call a friend for support, journal, or indulge in a hot bath.

Idea for Impact: Pay attention to your self-talk and speak to yourself the way you would to someone you love, “What do you need right now?” Dwell upon that question and allow an authentic answer to emerge. Then, ask, “What’s one brave decision you can make now to get unstuck and move in the direction of your goals? What’s stopping you from getting started?”

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life Tagged With: Attitudes, Balance, Discipline, Emotions, Mindfulness, Motivation, Resilience

Inspirational Quotations #948

June 5, 2022 By Nagesh Belludi

What is forgiven is usually well remembered.
—Louis Dudek (Canadian Poet, Publisher)

I have always felt that a politician is to be judged by the animosities he excites among his opponents.
—Winston Churchill (British Head of State)

Why is it so difficult to love wisely, so easy to love too well?
—Mary Elizabeth Braddon (English Novelist)

Writing is thinking on paper.
—William Zinsser (American Writer, Editor)

The punishment of desire is the agony of unfulfillment.
—Hermes Trismegistus (Greek-Egyptian Author)

The successor to politics will be propaganda. Propaganda, not in the sense of a message or ideology, but as the impact of the whole technology of the times.
—Marshall Mcluhan (Canadian Thinker)

The big problem is not the haves and the have-nots—it’s the give-nots.
—Arnold Glasow (American Businessman)

Most teams aren’t teams at all but merely collections of individual relationships with the boss. Each individual vying with the others for power, prestige and position.
—Douglas McGregor (American Sociologist)

‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
—Alfred, Lord Tennyson (British Poet)

Temperance is moderation in the things that are good and total abstinence from the things that are foul.
—Frances Willard (American Temperance Campaigner)

He who gives little gives from his heart; he who gives much gives from his wealth.
—Turkish Proverb

Nothing is so awesomely unfamiliar as the familiar that discloses itself at the end of a journey.
—Cynthia Ozick (American Novelist, Essayist)

My goal is simple. It is a complete understanding of the universe, why it is as it is and why it exists at all.
—Stephen Hawking (English Theoretical Physicist)

Freedom is not merely the opportunity to do as one pleases; neither is it merely the opportunity to choose between set alternatives. Freedom is, first of all, the chance to formulate the available choices, to argue over them—and then, the opportunity to choose.
—C. Wright Mills (American Sociologist)

Finding bad reasons for what one believes for other bad reasons—that’s philosophy.
—Aldous Huxley (English Humanist)

Do not commit the error, common among the young, of assuming that if you cannot save the whole of mankind you have failed.
—Jan de Hartog (Dutch-American Author)

Filed Under: Inspirational Quotations

How to Lead Sustainable Change: Vision v Results

June 2, 2022 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

In the Drucker Foundation’s Leader to Leader (1999,) Harvard Business School professor John Kotter proposes one of my favorite visuals on the essence of noticeable results that bear witness to a leader’s vision of change:

This illustration encapsulates why some organizational change initiatives succeed while others never get off the ground or break down after a while. Kotter observes,

Results and vision can be plotted on a matrix that has four dimensions. Poor results and weak vision spell sure trouble for any organization. Good short-term results with a weak vision satisfy many organizations—for a while. A compelling vision that produces few results usually is abandoned. Only good short-term results with an effective, aligned vision offer a high probability of sustained success.

Idea for Impact: The only way a leader can produce a well-paced, sustainable, and transformational change is by mobilizing the people around her to appreciate the benefits for them in her vision of the desired future. Ongoing results oblige visibility into progress and will catalyze the organization’s commitments.

Read Kotter’s Leading Change (1996,) an influential missive on change management.

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Filed Under: Managing People, MBA in a Nutshell Tagged With: Coaching, Discipline, Feedback, Leadership Lessons, Management, Motivation, Performance Management

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