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Inspirational Quotations #844

June 7, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi

The best ideas come as jokes. Make your thinking as funny as possible.
—David Ogilvy (British Advertising Executive)

That’s what happens when you’re angry at people. You make them part of your life.
—Garrison Keillor (American Broadcaster, Writer)

A thing is mighty big when time and distance cannot shrink it.
—Zora Neale Hurston (American Novelist)

Flowers in a city are like lipstick on a woman—it just makes you look better to have a little color.
—Lady Bird Johnson (First Lady of the United States)

Failure at a task may be the result of having tackled it at the wrong time.
—Brendan Behan (Irish Poet)

I’m not going to die,
I’m going home
Like a shooting star.
—Sojourner Truth (African-American Abolitionist)

No soul can preserve the bloom and delicacy of its existence without lonely musings and silent prayer, and the greatness of this necessity is in proportion to the greatness of evil.
—Frederic William Farrar (British Theological Writer)

It is the nature, and the advantage, of strong people that they can bring out the crucial questions and form a clear opinion about them. The weak always have to decide between alternatives that are not their own.
—Dietrich Bonhoeffer (German Lutheran Pastor)

Great joy, especially after a sudden change of circumstances, is apt to be silent, and dwells rather in the heart than on the tongue.
—Henry Fielding (English Novelist)

The truth is that most people are simply too distracted by their thoughts to have the selflessness of consciousness pointed out directly. And even if they are ready to glimpse it, they are unlikely to understand its significance.
—Sam Harris (American Neuroscientist, Atheist, Author)

The purpose of fighting is to win. There is no possible victory in defense. The sword is more important than the shield and skill is more important than either. The final weapon is the brain. All else is supplemental.
—John Steinbeck (American Novelist)

Success in the majority of circumstances depends on knowing how long it takes to succeed.
—Montesquieu (French Political Philosopher)

Failure is delay, but not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead-end street.
—William Arthur Ward (American Author)

Tact is the great ability to see other people as they think you see them.
—Carl Zuckmayer (German Playwright)

All of our reasoning ends in surrender to feeling.
—Blaise Pascal (French Philosopher, Scientist)

All that attention to the perfect lighting, the perfect this, the perfect that, I find terribly annoying.
—Meryl Streep (American Actor)

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How to Project Positive Expectations

June 4, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

If you want to be seen as a doer, somebody who can be depended upon to get a job done, answer with “I will” whenever possible.

According to George Walther, author of Power Talking: 50 Ways to Say What You Mean & Get What You Want (1991,) expressions such as “I’ll try” make you seem hesitant—even ineffective.

Recall all the people who’ve promise to do something by saying, “I’ll try to get back to you tomorrow.” They rarely do. They have to be reminded, prodded, and nagged.

Those who announce, “I’ll have an answer for you by two this afternoon,” typically follow through.

Idea for Impact: Watch Your Language

Your choice of words matters. You are building your reputation—your brand—one interaction at a time.

Your assertions set the tone for what others can expect from you. They also motivate you to get the job done as you’ve promised.

Speak the language of success.

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Filed Under: Effective Communication, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Body Language, Communication, Conversations, Likeability, Negotiation, Skills for Success, Social Skills

What Are You So Afraid Of? // Summary of Susan Jeffers’s ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’

June 1, 2020 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Title: Psychologist Susan Jeffers’s self-help classic, Feel the Fear … and Do It Anyway (1987, 2006.)

Idea for Impact: “You can drop an awful lot of excess baggage if you learn to play with life instead of fight it.”

Central Premise: You’re often held back by a “Grand Canyon” of fear. You’re wasting far too much time trying to perfect your mental state and seeking to feel happier, confident, and motivated.

Thought-Provoking Snippet: “It is reported that more than 90% of what we worry about never happens. That means that our negative worries have less than a 10% chance of being correct. If this is so, isn’t being positive more realistic than being negative? … If you think about it, the important issue is not which is more realistic, but rather, “Why be miserable when you can be happy?””

Mindset Change: Recognize the limited control you have over your emotions. Accept fear as a natural part of your mental development and learn how to live alongside your fears and self-doubts. Use positive affirmations—e.g., replace “It’s gonna be terrible!” with “I can handle it … it’ll be a learning experience!”

Caution: Don’t overdo affirmations. Cheery slogans such as “I Am Powerful and I Love it!” may lift your mood. But repeating them “at least twenty-five times each morning, noon, and night,” as Jeffers suggests, could make you feel worse by evoking the peevish internal counterargument that you’re not and you don’t.

Action Plan: Get on with the things you want to do. The momentum of positive emotions builds up as soon as you start taking action. “Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.”

Why Read: An insightful prescription for why and how to get over your “urgh.”

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Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Mental Models, Sharpening Your Skills Tagged With: Anxiety, Attitudes, Books, Discipline, Emotions, Fear, Lifehacks, Mindfulness, Motivation, Personal Growth, Procrastination

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