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Nine Easy Rules to Avoid Being Criticized

September 26, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

  • Rule 1: Always strive to please others and agree with everybody
  • Rule 2: Do not attempt to change people’s minds
  • Rule 3: Do not try a new idea or pursue any worthwhile goal
  • Rule 4a: Conform to established ways of doing everything
  • Rule 4b: Never step a foot away from the path of convention
  • Rule 5: Follow the crowd; stand for nothing unique
  • Rule 6: Let the world shape you; be who others want you to be
  • Rule 7a: Accept life “as is” and never examine the status quo
  • Rule 7b: Believe whatever you are told without checking evidence
  • Rule 8: Do not say, attempt, or do anything contentious or imaginative
  • Rule 9: Do not say, attempt, or accomplish anything at all

The Fear of Criticism

Yielding to criticism can bring about many negative consequences: hesitation, aversion to risks, stagnation, letdown, rejection, and, eventually, failure.

Being criticized never feels good. But, avoiding criticism will never give you the delight of generating and trying out new ideas. You forego the personal evolution that results from overcoming fear and obstacles, and the contentment that comes from reaching out to others and pursuing your dreams.

Listen, take it in, and learn

Look, criticism is inevitable. Whatever course you decide upon in life, there is always somebody to tell you that you are wrong. Criticism may not be agreeable. It may feel unjustified and, depending on how the critic delivered his comments, criticism may even feel confrontational.

Criticism is necessary and can catch your eye to caution and forethought. Remember that criticism just represents another person’s opinion of your values or pursuits. So, instead of talking criticism personally, take a step back, and reflect on what the critic is saying. With an open mind, mull over how the criticism might differ from your own opinion. Perhaps, the criticism casts light on a blind spot you had hitherto ignored. Or, the criticism draws your attention to points of prudence and slippery slopes where others have failed. Criticism can therefore cast new light on your pursuits.

Bottom Line: Use criticism to your own advantage

In tackling life’s biggest opportunities, it is the magnitude of your courage that matters the most. Do what you feel in your heart to be right. And, instead of feeling attacked by critics and becoming defensive, take time for reflection and treat criticisms as learning opportunities with positive outcomes.

Filed Under: Living the Good Life, Sharpening Your Skills

Inspirational Quotations #343

September 26, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Look up and not down, look forward and not back, look out and not in, and lend a hand!
—Edward Everett Hale (American Unitarian Clergyman)

So much of our time is spent in preparation, so much in routine, and so much in retrospect, that the amount of each person’s genius is confined to a very few hours.
—Ralph Waldo Emerson (American Philosopher)

No man is quick enough to enjoy life to the full.
—Spanish Proverb

That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.
—Emily Dickinson (American Poet)

The word ”Christianity” is already a misunderstanding—in reality there has been only one Christian, and he died on the Cross.
—Friedrich Nietzsche (German Philosopher, Scholar)

Enjoy yourself–it’s later than you think.
—Chinese Proverb

Catch, then, oh catch the transient hour;|Improve each moment as it flies!|Life’s a short summer, man a flower;|He dies – alas! how soon he dies.
—Samuel Johnson (British Essayist)

Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think.
—Chinese Proverb

Be happy while you’re living, for you’re a long time dead.
—Scottish Proverb

We’re fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance.
—Japanese Proverb

Fear not that thy life shall come to an end, but rather fear that it shall never have a beginning.
—John Henry Newman (British Catholic Clergyman)

Use your health, even to the point of wearing it out. That is what it is for. Spend all you have before you die; do not outlive yourself.
—George Bernard Shaw (Irish Playwright)

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Inspirational Quotations #342

September 19, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Tears are the silent language of grief.
—Voltaire (French Philosopher)

Good things, when short, are twice as good.
—Baltasar Gracian

Happiness seems to require a modicum of external prosperity.
—Aristotle (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

It is not the magnitude of the task that matters, it is the magnitude of our courage that counts.
—Matthieu Ricard (French Buddhist Monk)

Few of us write great novels; all of us live them.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

The greatest crimes are caused by surfeit, not by want.
—Aristotle (Ancient Greek Philosopher)

To add a library to a house is to give that house a soul.
—Cicero (Roman Philosopher)

I find four great classes of students: The dumb who stay dumb. The dumb who become wise. The wise who go dumb. The wise who remain wise.
—Martin H. Fischer

I’d rather be a few pounds heavier and enjoy life than be worried all the time.
—Drew Barrymore (American Actor)

I am coming to feel that the people of ill will have used time much more effectively than the people of goodwill. We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the vitriolic words and actions of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of the good people. We must come to see that human progress never rolls in on wheels of inevitability. It comes through the tireless efforts and persistent work of men willing to be co-workers with God, and without this hard work time itself becomes an ally of the forces of social stagnation. We must use time creatively, and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right. Now is the time to make real the promise of democracy, and transform our pending national elegy into a creative psalm of brotherhood. Now is the time to lift our national policy from the quicksand of racial injustice to the solid rock of human dignity.
—Martin Luther King, Jr. (American Civil Rights Leader)

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Inspirational Quotations #341

September 12, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Just as clouds form, last for a while, and then dissolve back into the empty sky, so deluded thoughts arise, remain for a while and then vanish in the voidness of mind; in reality nothing at all has happened.
—Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche (Tibetan Buddhist Religious Leader)

The distance between insanity and genius is measured only by success.
—Bruce Feirstein

An earnest purpose finds time, or makes it. It seizes on spare moments, and turns fragments to golden account.
—William Ellery Channing

The world needs dreamers and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers who do.
—Sarah Ban Breathnach

The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.
—Bede Jarrett

I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked, and being really good all the time. That would be hypocrisy.
—Oscar Wilde (Irish Poet)

Never regret yesterday. Life is in you today, and you make your tomorrow.
—L. Ron Hubbard (American Scientologist Religious Leader)

A good style should show no signs of effort. What is written should seem a happy accident.
—W. Somerset Maugham (French Playwright)

Oh! that you could turn your eyes towards the napes of your necks, and make but an interior survey of your good selves.
—William Shakespeare (British Playwright)

The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.
—Hans Hofmann

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Inspirational Quotations #340

September 5, 2010 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
—Samuel Butler

Feel like Christ and you will be a Christ; feel like Buddha and you will be a Buddha. It is feeling that is the life, the strength, the vitality, without which no amount of intellectual activity can reach God.
—Swami Vivekananda (Indian Hindu Mystic)

Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.
—Barack Obama (American Head of State)

As none can see the wind but in its effects on the trees, neither can we see the emotions but in their effects on the face and body.
—Nathaniel LeTonnerre

It is not the employer who pays the wages. He only handles the money. It is the product that pays the wages.
—Henry Ford (American Businessperson)

Courage can’t see around corners, but goes around them anyway.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

In your thirst for knowledge, be sure not to drown in all the information.
—Anthony J. D’Angelo

We catch frightful glimpses of ourselves in the hostile eyes of others.
—Mignon McLaughlin (American Journalist)

Riches have never fascinated me, unless combined with the greatest charm or distinction.
—F. Scott Fitzgerald (American Novelist)

It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It is that they can’t see the problem.
—G. K. Chesterton (English Journalist)

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