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Inspirational Quotations #240

September 28, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Love is always bestowed as a gift—freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.
—Leo Buscaglia (American Motivational Speaker)

Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
—Moshe Arens

A single kind word keeps one warm for three winters.
—Chinese Proverb

When we are chafed and fretted by small cares, a look at the stars will show us the littleness of our own interests.
—Maria Mitchell

The time which we have at our disposal every day is elastic; the passions that we feel expand it, those that we inspire contract it; and habit fills up what remains.
—Marcel Proust (French Novelist)

The dream is the small hidden door in the deepest and most intimate sanctum of the soul, which opens to that primeval cosmic night that was soul long before there was conscious ego and will be soul far beyond what a conscious ego could ever reach.
—Carl Jung (Swiss Psychologist)

A man may be outwardly successful all his life long, and die hollow and worthless as a puff-ball; and he may be externally defeated all his life long, and die in the royalty of a kingdom established within him.—A man’s true estate of power and riches, is to be in himself; not in his dwelling, or position, or external relations, but in his own essential character.—That is the realm, in which he is to live, if he is to live as a Christian man.
—Henry Ward Beecher (American Protestant Clergyman)

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
—John Watson (Ian Maclaren)

We didn’t lose the game; we just ran out of time.
—Vince Lombardi (American Sportsperson)

Intelligence is not to make no mistakes, but quickly to see how to make them good.
—Bertrand A. Russell (British Philosopher)

The delight we inspire in others, has this enchanting peculiarity. That, unlike any other reflection, returns to us more radiant than ever.
—Victor Hugo (French Novelist)

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Be Proactive and Seek Feedback from Your Manager

September 26, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Feedback is a critical component of our work. We need to understand whether our performance aligns with what is expected of us. We need to know what we are doing well, what we need to change and how we could improve. We need help to discover opportunities to advance our careers.

One of the common grievances of professionals is that their managers rarely give them adequate feedback. These feelings are not totally unfounded. Managers tend to be busy and deliver feedback only during cursory performance reviews. And, instinctively, managers fear confrontation: they assume that their employees may respond to even the slightest criticism with anger, defensiveness and alienation. Employees, for their part, resent feedback because they dislike being criticized.

This article suggests what you can do to effectively secure feedback from your manager. I have shared this process with several professionals who have successfully adopted it to further develop relationships with their managers.

Soliciting Feedback

  • Set up regular meetings with your manager to seek feedback. Do not wait for the quarterly or annual performance reviews to solicit it.
  • Prepare and send an agenda to your manager at least one day prior to your meeting. Use the questions in the following section to guide your discussions and agenda. Tailor the questions to suit your unique projects and goals. Cover all the broader, important topics on a regular basis.
  • Assure your manager that her opinions and suggestions matter and that you will listen to and act on them. You need not necessarily agree with every assessment, but remain open—do not grow defensive or angry. If you must disagree, do so politely. Offer your opinions using phrases such as “Could it be because …,” “how about …,” or “perhaps, another way to look at this is ….”
  • Ask for specific examples. Take down notes. Conclude the meeting by thanking your manager. Affirm that you will develop and share with her a plan of action.
  • Review your notes from the meeting. Look for patterns in her comments and suggestions. In a day or two, follow up with your action plan.

Ten Questions to Ask to Solicit Feedback from Your Manager

  • “How am I doing on project or goal X? What can I do differently to be more effective?
  • “My most important projects or goals are X, Y and Z. Do you think I have the priorities right?
  • “Am I meeting your expectations in keeping you updated on my progress / project X? How can I organize information better to help you understand my projects and our achievements?
  • “What goals do you see for me on project X (or over the next N months?) How will you measure me against these goals?
  • “What strengths do I bring to your team? What personal skills will enable me to grow and contribute better?
  • “How do you see my career developing in this organization over the long-term? What suggestions do you have to prepare me for such opportunities?
  • “What steps do you suggest I take to broaden my exposure to our functional area and build my skills? What specific steps can I take to widen my perspective in our functional area? What key challenges will I face?
  • “What can I do to expand my role? May I assume any additional responsibilities?
  • “What are your goals for the immediate future? What are your team’s most important projects and initiatives? How can I best support your goals?
  • “How do you think our organization and customers will change in the future? What opportunities do you see? What challenges will we face? How will our roles evolve? How can we prepare? What is our management’s perspective on the future?”

Concluding Thoughts

This article suggests an informal and practical process to solicit feedback from your manager. By exercising initiative, asking the right questions and proactively soliciting feedback, you can recognize and adapt to your manager’s and the organization’s expectations of you and discover prospects for larger responsibilities and promotions.

Your manager will appreciate your eagerness to openly communicate, improve, adapt, and contribute further. She will be more forthcoming in her assessment of your work and more likely to offer suggestions for improvement.

By understanding your manager’s expectations and priorities, you can secure the support and resources you need to achieve your goals. Keeping your manager informed helps foster dependability and build a stronger, mutually beneficial working relationship that helps you, your manager and the organization.

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Filed Under: Career Development, Managing People Tagged With: Feedback, Managing the Boss

Inspirational Quotations #239

September 21, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

We can chart our future clearly and wisely only when we know the path which has led to the present.
—Adlai Stevenson (American Diplomat)

I can accept failure, but I can’t accept not trying.
—Michael Jordan (American Sportsperson)

No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it.
—Andrew Carnegie (Scottish-American Industrialist, Philanthropist)

Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.
—Antoine de Saint-Exupery (French Novelist, Aviator)

A human thought is an actual existence, and a force and power, capable of acting upon and controlling matter as well as mind.
—Albert Pike (American Military Leader)

We are more than what we do… much more than what we accomplish… far more than what we possess.
—William Arthur Ward (American Author)

As you grow older, you stand for more and fall for less.
—Anonymous

The tree may be cut back, but it grows again.|The moon may wane, but it shines anew.|Good men go on despite calamities.
—Indian Proverb

People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be—not what you nag them to be.
—Scudder Parker (American Minister)

I do not deny that many appear to have succeeded in a material way by cutting corners and by manipulating associates, both in their professional and in their personal lives. But material success is possible in this world and far more satisfying when it comes without exploiting others.
—Alan Greenspan (American Economist)

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Inspirational Quotations #238

September 14, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

I now appreciate all that I have. I am grateful for the smallest things today. I can always find something in my life for which to be grateful. I give thanks for everything that is now coming into my life. I rejoice in the wonders of life.
—Unknown

The greatest difficulties lie where we are not looking for them.
—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (German Poet)

Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
—H. L. Mencken (American Journalist)

You must learn to translate wisdom and strong feelings into labor.
—Jim Rohn (American Entrepreneur)

It is a good rule to face difficulties at the time they arise and not allow them to increase unacknowledged.
—Edward W. Ziegler

Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each. Let them be your only diet, drink, and botanical medicines.
—Henry David Thoreau (American Philosopher)

Nothing in the world is single; all things by law divine in one spirit mix and mingle. Why not I with thine?
—Percy Bysshe Shelley (English Poet)

Do little things now; so shall big things come to thee by and by asking to be done.
—Persian Proverb

Don’t accept that just because a thing has been done a certain way, that it will always have to be that way.
—Mark McCormack

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Respect People for Who They Are

September 13, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi 1 Comment

“Respect People for Who They Are, Not for What Their Titles are”

In “The Best Advice I Ever Got” article in Fortune magazine, Herb Kelleher, founder and recently-retired Chairman of Southwest Airlines, discussed the importance of respecting and trusting people.

“One piece of [my mother’s] advice that always stuck in my mind is that people should be respected and trusted as people, not because of their position or title. Frequently, position or title did not reflect the true merits of a person.”

“Thanks to her advice, in the business world I try not to judge anyone by superficial standards. I try to approach them with an open mind. I’m very interested in their ideas. … You ought to be open to listening to people. Show that you care about them as individuals, not just as workers. You know how some people are always looking over your shoulder to see if there’s somebody more important behind you? Well, one of the things that I’ve tried to do–if I’m talking to a person, that person is the only person in the world while we’re talking. They’re owed that.”

[Note: Image of Herb Kelleher with mechanics courtesy of Southwest Airlines]

Call for Action

Our personal and professional lives are not solo acts. Every endeavour includes an active involvement and support of the people in our lives: parents, spouses, children, friends, bosses, employees and peers. Respect and trust are the foundation of connecting with people and building relationships. As managers and leaders, respect for people is fundamental to engaging them and getting things done. Yet, we live in a world obsessed with judging the significance of individuals based on the superficialities of appearance and social order.

  • Have an open mind. Accept people for who they are and respect their individuality.
  • Develop your listening skills. When listening to another person, think that he or she is the only person in the world.
  • Be compassionate and kind. Never treat people as a means to an end.

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Filed Under: Managing People Tagged With: Great Manager

Inspirational Quotations #237

September 7, 2008 By Nagesh Belludi Leave a Comment

Those who say a thing cannot be done should not stand in the way of those who are doing it.
— Unknown

Now it is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best you very often get it.
— W. Somerset Maugham

No one had ever had an idea in a dress suit.
— Frederick Banting

There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.
— Oscar Wilde

A knife of the keenest steel requires the whetstone,
and the wisest man needs advice.
— Zoroaster

Make yourself necessary to somebody.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life is just a mirror,
and what you see out there,
you must first see inside of you.
— Wally Amos

Wisdom is knowing what to do next,
skill is knowing how to do it, and virtue is doing it.
— David Starr Jordan

Men do not fail; they give up trying.
— Elihu Root

You become what you think about.
— Earl Nightingale

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