Try to consider the sunny side of a situation rather than focusing on what’s wrong with it.
If it’s pouring rain, don’t upset yourself over plans hampered or stress about getting drenched. Instead, relish the splendor of landscape under the grey sky, delight in the pattering noise of the rain, and savor how the flowers have their heads as if to rest. Appreciate how rain is the great facilitator of life. And use this as a perfect excuse to curl up with a good book and chill out.
It’s not what you see; it’s how you see it.
Got a demanding new boss? Bring to mind all the things you can learn from her—including what not to do as a manager.
Reframing allows you an expanded view of your reality. You can move your experience from a negative frame to a more hopeful one, filled with opportunities.
How you frame something can change everything. When you change your point of view, the facts of the situation remain the same. But the shift in your emotional tone changes the meaning that you give to the situation.
Idea for Impact: Practice cognitive control. Learn how to put things in perspective.
When something or somebody annoys you, shift your attention. Ask, “What’s right about this? What’s to be appreciated about this?” Imagine the best possible outcomes.
Reframing an event or stimulus changes your emotional response to it—and it helps keep stress in check.
Changing the way you see the world is not a denial. It doesn’t imply naive optimism. Instead, it is the purging of mental pollutants such as dislike and anger—even aggression—that poison the mind and disable you from finding refuge in presence.
In Buddhism, the opposite of pleasure is not pain but delusion.